In a “situationship”

CRobinsFly · 2025-12-02T02:26:58+00:00

Gotta smash. Dont put a baby in it. You'll feel better.

Now for the biased side of me. Many many women are full on predatory and they prey on divorced men because they perceive you as emotionally vulnerable, because you are. I have found many wont even date me once they found out I have already been fleeced for resources (CS). Anyway, always remember, most women have 5 to 10 years of dating and manipulation experience on their same-age male peers. Men are behind the 8ball and women know it. Be careful - see the first paragraph.

MonarchistExtreme · 2025-12-01T18:28:02+00:00

Don't fall too hard for how she's acting or presenting. Girls learn charm from an early age and she's a grown woman now. Tread carefully and don't decide anything until you see the real her.

outsideofaustin · 2025-12-01T17:23:06+00:00

You should enjoy it for what it is - Don't overthink the situation(ship). Take it one day at a time and see how it goes.

Personally, I don't think you need to be completely over someone to start dating again.

Helpful-Paramedic463 · 2025-11-30T22:15:40+00:00

I would lose zero sleep about this. It's been text up to this point and you have a face to face meeting with a hug.

Hard truth, you're probably one of several dudes this girl is rotating through. She might make you feel something but you gotta be so smart here and realize most of these women are going to lie.

Play the field. Enjoy your new freedom. Enjoy your peace. Get a vasectomy asap.

Factastical · 2025-11-30T13:33:54+00:00

You won't be fully over until you get some pussy.

MonkeyBranchBuster · 2025-11-30T11:07:57+00:00

Ex has moved on, you shoud too. Go for the "oh shit" squeeze and the schoolgirl eyes girl. You don't have to marry her today, or ever.

I had a girl, 18 years younger that looked at me that way and was in the same boat as you, was thinking it was way too early, and now I'm regretting I fucked it up and let her go.

You'll get some validation as a man, feel more confidend and won't be moping around thinking about the ex and her new guy.

jarnock · 2025-11-30T09:15:44+00:00

Dude get out there! Don’t let your ex mess up something else. If your new thing fails who cares. She might be just as messed up from another shitty partner as you. Go have some fun

Bogusky · 2025-11-30T07:57:21+00:00

Everyone is different. I know the routine advice is to wait around and work on yourself, but I personally feel like I'm starving to death emotionally and by finally separating from my ex it's only compounded this sad reality, and maybe even desperation?

I've gotten some interest here and there, and this past week had a wonderful time with a FWB, but the reality is her emotional availability is zero. I'm finding it hard to function and by most traditional check boxes I am doing fine. But I'm not fine.

Back to you. It sounds like you know what you need to do already. If you're mixed up about things and lead someone else along anyway that's being careless with their heart.

Tasty_Dinner6530 · 2025-11-30T01:50:46+00:00

I admire your honestly and self awareness. I think you already know that it’s too soon for any commitment or long term relationship and that you need to focus on yourself to grow out of your experience as a better human.

Having said that , healing doesn’t need to happen in isolatation and this “situationship” might be a good next step in that direction.

A few key things to reflect upon are 1. Your goals with this situationship: It helps to have the comfort of someone but know that this shouldn’t hamper your healing journey. 2. Set clear expectations: define expectations you have from this situationship and communicate that clearly. Even if it includes just physicals stuff because that too is important. 3. Use this as an opportunity to get over ex in a healthy way and not an unhealthy way - you would be the best judge of it.

Enjoy it if this brings joy to you but don’t make big decisions

Totesmagotes24x7 · 2025-11-30T01:50:05+00:00

Damn, that's a tough one. On one hand you might have something special here and on the other it doesn't sound like you're fully healed which could end up ruining the relationship. You could always lay it on the table for her on how you feel and see how that goes. She might be receptive to taking things slow and working with you but it could backfire and end things right there. Personally I'd go for dating her and taking things slow. Either way good luck and I hope things work out for you bud.

Title	In a “situationship”
Author	Funny_Object_5538
Upvotes	7
Comments	16
Date	November 30, 2025 1:39 AM UTC (8 months ago)
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