My deepest apologies

S1lent_R1tes · 2023-06-27T14:35:17+00:00

Brother.

Almost every single person in this Sub has probably been hurt by another woman... Or another dude I guess is plausible too, but statistically it's 99% chance it's another woman.

Everyone deals with that differently, but I think the most common is a healthy distrust of women moving forward. The problem, I think at least, with that is that we fall into the same traps that many women have who've been hurt by a man/multiple men in their lives when we lump everyone of the same gender together.

The truth is: we're all here because one particular woman hurt us, or is hurting us. But once that one person is no longer the biggest part of our lives, the only person we can hold responsible for hurting us at that point is ourselves.

A lot of people in the other thread semi-joked that you should go get some help, talk to someone, have a friend or family member that you can actually get solid advice and perspective from. Completely non-joking: that's been one of the only things that's saved me through my personal journey down this road we are all walking.

I wasn't going to write anything, but it seems like you genuinely are apologizing to the sub, and seeing a genuine apology on REDDIT of all places let alone the internet is an admirable thing, and worth the time.

I hope you're doing better soon man.

henrysmyagent · 2023-06-27T20:59:41+00:00

Having a healthy distrust of women is a reasonable response to a system that "punishes" women who break their marriage vows by giving them cash and prizes through divorce.

Men are growing tired of a system that treats the hard work a man pits into building a family and a life as if it were a house of cards to be reshuffled anytime a woman gets bored or a better offer from another man.

How can I look my sons in the eye and recommend marriage when I watched my dad get divorce-raped by my mother, (who moved 2500 miles away to keep his sons from him) and watch their own mother skip out on our family after she met a hobo who gave her the va-jay-jay tingles?

90% of marriages to a college educated woman ends in divorce. We are approaching lottery-odds that a marriage will actually last until "death do you part."

It is more of a wonder that any woman stays married since they leave the marriage with cash, prizes, and custody of the kids.

The risk to reward ratio for marriage is so out of whack it is parental malpractice not to warn your sons of the true nature of women.

And this is why...

I recommend marriage to every man I hate.

potatotornado44 · 2023-06-27T14:40:13+00:00

Huh? I thought that was pretty solid advice.

Basic_Advance7627 · 2023-06-27T16:55:58+00:00

You just need good boundaries in place when you get healthy again so you don’t end up right back here.

salty-sheep-bah · 2023-06-27T14:17:03+00:00

You ok dude?

Mountain_Collar_7620 · 2023-06-27T19:31:02+00:00

There is absolutely No Need to Apologise and no need to avoid interacting with the female fauna on Pandora as long as you’re in a heavily armoured vehicle, at least 500 meters above them, or working their hooch village over from orbit.

Just avoid talking, cohabitating or mating / business of any sort unless it’s Cash versus Goods only and for the love of God, son ….

…. If they try to force you to “sign” anything - DO NOT SIGN ✍️ 🛑. Ever ! & keep meticulous track of any body fluids ! Bag & tag & bin 🗑️ them. ☠️

CaliDude75 · 2023-06-27T16:26:56+00:00

I try to avoid “painting with a broom” or “All (x) are (x)” thinking. Have I had negative experiences with women? Of course. Let’s face it, probably all of us on this subreddit have. But I still try to take people on an individual basis.

Just keep your guard up, and be aware of manipulative patterns and behavior.

EvidencePlz · 2023-06-27T16:49:51+00:00

There's zero need to avoid the female gender. It's just that there are certain things you should not be doing with them, and these include cohabitation, impregnation, marriage, emotional and/or romantic relationships etc. At the end of the day they are humans just like you and must be treated like one.

Hour_Neat6809 · 2023-06-27T17:40:04+00:00

Hope you’re ok man. Work on yourself and things will get better.

Strict_Magician_2796 · 2023-06-27T18:12:00+00:00

Fellas, it's important to heal, love and let yourself be vulnerable. Just be smarter about it the next time around, don't go shooting yourself in the foot (again).

BurnDownTheMission68 · 2023-06-27T23:05:10+00:00

What an utter load of pure bullshit!

1Cobbler · 2023-06-28T06:40:22+00:00

What I do is I compartmentalize women into 2 different groups.

Group A) Women as friends and co-workers and I try to give them as much respect as I would any man. I'm not emotionally or financially invested in them so I don't have much to win or lose from those relationships.

Group B) Women as Girlfriends and wives. I treat them all as double agents from the feminist brigade until they prove otherwise. None will ever prove to me that they are wife material.

Similar-Guitar-6 · 2023-06-27T16:58:47+00:00

Thank you for your original post, much appreciated.

Afroviking1 · 2023-06-27T18:25:20+00:00

Bro, stop apologizing. The matrix still has a hold on you. Put both feet on this side, I'm telling you....it's way better over here.

Once you start being confident and outspoken, you will see how everyone, man and woman respond to you.

Classic_Dill · 2023-06-28T15:58:35+00:00

Self reflection is important, well played.

Title	My deepest apologies
Author	FreeCondition1584
Upvotes	33
Comments	24
Date	June 27, 2023 1:55 PM UTC (3 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/Divorce_Men
Original Link	https://old.reddit.com/r/Divorce_Men/comments/14keg1a/my_deepest_apologies/
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