Hi all,

I am a doctor and currently going through 2nd. year of residency. To say life has been treating me like shit is an understatement. Anyway, I found a lawyer and decided to go through divorce.

The thing is, my wife has been threatening me to reach out to my program director and tell him all the things I did which were bad in our marriage. Including her recording conversations of us fighting, recording me getting angry and yelling at her, saying insults at her. Although I am not proud of these things, they were ALL done after I was insulted by her, cussed at by her, ignored by her. The thing about being a resident, is our program director can fire me and that’s 8-10 years of hard work going down the drain. I know my program director is a very good person and very supportive of his residents so I don’t think he will just fire me, but he would probably get involved and try to help. I just don’t want my work place to know my personal life.

After I noticed her recording me, I did the same and I do have similar things of her on my phone. I just don’t really give a shit and don’t want to use them against her. But how do you guys recommend dealing with this? Early in our marriage, she actually attacked me once and scratched my face, chest and neck. I just pushed her away from me and left our apartment then and I thought things would get better but never did. However, I did document that incident so I have it on my phone. I found her boss info online and I can basically do the same. Except that she can easily find a different job where I would be fired of residency, never be able to practice medicine and loss a job where I worked so hard for for years, and dreamed about having since I was in middle school…