I'm a 51 yo m, and not sure what to do. My 52 yo wife, who I love very much, has lost all interest in sex. We have had many civil conversations about it; she simply says that she doesn't think about it at all. She blames menopause, but before menopause we were having sex maybe 4-5 times a year for the last 5 years. She has tried hormone replacement, but it' s not having any effect. I have tried to get over it and convince myself that our history and mutual love is enough, but it's not. I am sleeping maybe 4 hours a night and am miserable. All I can think about is leaving, but I don't want to act rashly. I don't want to leave, but I also don't want to be miserable for the rest of my life. We have 2 kids; one is at college and the other is 16. Since being honest with her about my unhappiness, we have tried having sex twice; both times were terrible and I could tell she was not at all interested in participating. Completely frozen up and uncomfortable with being touched. We are both very successful, and money will not be an issue. We have discussed counseling, but honestly, I don't think it would help her regain desire. Thoughts?