Hey dudes, I am in need of some advice.

So I’m about 8 months post separation, have 3 kids and primary custody. I made a post about my ex being manipulative the other day, and since then it has really allowed me to fully detach from her.

For the past month or so, I’ve been talking to a few different ladies, but there is one in particular that I’m drawn to.

She is a smoke show. 8/10 on her worst day, 9/10 on the others. Shes short & petite, blonde, huge titties. She’s got a phenomenal personality, and it aligns with mine better than I could have ever imagined. She’s childless, a few years younger than me, has a fantastic job with exceptional income. She owns her own home & lives alone, cooks like a five star chef. I’ve slept with her a few times, and she’s a goddess in bed, and makes it a focus to take care of me as much as I take care of her. She’s shown me that she’s super attracted to me in that way. It’s almost unbelievable how straight forward she is with her feelings and attraction towards me. I will add that she is not love bombing me, she does hold some reserve so that she doesn’t come off desperate, but she’s not shy about how she feels about me. She’s also very emotionally mature. She doesn’t want to have kids of her own as she has no interest in pregnancy, and is fine with me being snipped.

She’s not pushing to meet my kids, but can tell she would love to. I would definitely wait 6-12 months before doing that, and I think she would be understanding and willing to do that.

She doesn’t have a heavy social media presence, and doesn’t flaunt her shit everywhere seeking attention. I found her through FB as we had a few mutuals, and it turns out we grew up just down the street from each other but went to different schools.

The thing that draws me in the most is her acceptance and admiration of me being a single father. It doesn’t bother her, and it actually is a huge turn on for her seeing me be the dad that I am. She respects my time with them, and never tries to make me feel bad when I’m unavailable to see her because I have them. She’s killing it in my books.

The issue I have been having is I haven’t allowed my self to see her as a potential mate, and I have put her to the side time and time again. At first I thought I wasn’t attracted to her, but now I’m starting to realize that I was comparing her to my ex, and was still in love with my ex and didn’t want to admit it. I think I subconsciously put her to the side in hopes that my ex changed and wanted to be a family again, which is all wrong entirely.

On any given day of the week, this girl is immensely better than my ex in every way possible. Physically, mentally, emotionally.

Is it possible that I wasn’t finding attraction in her because my ex was doing what she could to keep me on the hook without having any real intentions of reconnecting? I feel like if I blow this off, I’m going to greatly regret one day and miss out on an opportunity with someone who actually wants and desires me. A super foreign feeling to me.

What would you do? I feel like after my recent interaction with my ex, I’m at peace with being history & moving on.

This group always gives me the most sound advice, really looking to hear what you guys think.