When did you get back out there?

Fiberguy81 · 2025-07-20T14:27:38+00:00

Why do guys feel the need to go from divorce to immediately wanting to date? Didn't you learn your lesson the first round? Think about you for once......pussy is pussy.......been the same for years......take a fucking break and figure out what you want and what makes YOU happy!

Mymindisgone217 · 2025-07-18T04:53:19+00:00

I met someone about 2 years after my divorce, but I still had a lot to work on first before could really feel like I was ready to date. Thankfully she did as well. We were able to become friends, and that continued for about 3 years. So 5 years after my divorce, I started to date her.

Sadly it only lasted a year and then we ended up splitting due to some life issues. I still have hope that once things calm down, we can give things a try again, but I am probably telling myself a lie.

-NukeX- · 2025-07-17T18:39:18+00:00

I took two years to myself. I found a therapist, worked on getting in shape, got into hiking, focused on the kids, and learned to love being by myself. I grew more in those 2 years than I ever have. Once I felt happy with who I became, I decided to start dipping my toes into the dating thing.

Brilliant_Ad5830 · 2025-07-17T16:39:39+00:00

I dated during separation. My then stbx and I had lived apart for a year by then.

I had a ridiculously dysfunctional marriage. And I found this girl who was 100% the opposite. She was a harder worker than me. She challenged me. And that was genuinely fun.

But ... I had emotional baggage. And she was ridiculously judgmental. We broke up. And that shattered me worse than the divorce. Brought back all sorts of doubts. It was ultimately worthwhile. But wow. Ripped my frail heart clean out of my ribcage.

Bagman220 · 2025-07-17T16:06:40+00:00

I started dating about 5-6 months into the divorce process. I let them know it won’t be anything “serious” until after the divorce is finalized. But where I am in life, I might not ever want anything “serious.”

Helpful-Paramedic463 · 2025-07-17T15:11:05+00:00

Separated in January after I found her cheating.

Started going out on dates in May. I haven't kids full time but one is college, other is a senior in HS, and one is 8th grade.

I don't spend the night anywhere and keep the kids in the loop. It's been pretty fun so far.

It's amazing how nice it feels to have a woman who's into you.

Just understand it's cutthroat out there. If they're talking to you, they're talking to at least 3-5 other dudes. You need to have THICK skin.

These women will no show, ghost, just be shitbirds in general. It's part of the landscape now. Do not get attached to any of them. They are recreational use only.

fewdo · 2025-07-17T11:10:54+00:00

I did the one year wait thing then went out to an event just to prove to myself that women aren't all evil. I pulled a smoking hot narcissist who f'd me up even more! It's been like 15 months since the end of that and I'm not sure if I want to try again.

Plastic_Canary_6637 · 2025-07-17T05:43:38+00:00

No one can answer this for you because everyone is different and you need to find your own time. So much depends on what else is going on in your life and how scarred you are from the relationship. When you’re ready to date you’ll know and if you go on a few dates and realize you’re not, just shut it down

Illustrious_Cash1325 · 2025-07-17T05:14:58+00:00

I'm not doing it. I don't see the point. Society says we have to have a woman with us to be complete, but I am feeling pretty damn complete at work, at home in my house, doing whatever I want to do, whenever I want to do it with absolutely ZERO feedback from anybody else. Try it on for a while.

Title	When did you get back out there?
Author	509-406-678
Upvotes	3
Comments	16
Date	July 16, 2025 1:18 PM UTC (1 year ago)
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