I prayed, spoke to counselors, and was looking hard to find a nice women I could marry. I made the promise I would always love and be good to her. Twenty one years of marriage and we are getting a divorce. What happened? My STBXW changed but yea I guess I did too. We all do right? Going back to my 20’s I was never the guy with a lot of women. I never was the proverbial “player” , I don’t know if people still use that word today for the ladies man but it never fit me. I was just going to be happy if I could find one good girl I could marry. I found a card she gave me a few years ago- dang we really loved each other. I’ve made mistakes, as has she. But I never in a million years would think we’d up like this. I know we are all going to have have ups and downs in the post marriage world. Finding the card today made me pretty low. I’m prepared though, I know for the better of us both it’s time to move on. Hard to believe….