When Should I Divorce? I’m a 29M and my wife is 29F. My wife is a stay-at-home wife, and I work and provide everything financially. I’m struggling in this marriage and seriously thinking about divorce. Here are the main issues:

1- I don’t live a luxury lifestyle, but I do my best to provide a good life. Still, she constantly compares me to others—friends or “friends of friends”—who have more. No matter what I give her, it’s never enough. Even when I bought her gold worth two weeks of my salary, she was still unhappy because someone else got something better. The same applies to food and clothes—nothing I do satisfies her.

2-I never feel comfortable at home. Honestly, I sometimes feel relieved when there’s traffic because it delays going back. She creates problems out of very small things—for example, she once argued with me for three days because I drank cola from a can instead of a glass bottle. She escalates issues and doesn’t consider timing or whether it’s appropriate.

3- She refuses to communicate or discuss things. It’s always her way. Occasionally she says, “Let’s do what you want,” but it’s not genuine. The only time we had a real discussion was when I left home for three days and told her I wouldn’t come back unless we talked about buying a washing machine. That never happened again.

4- Food is always her choice. I know it may sound small, but I can’t live like this. If we go to a restaurant I like, she refuses to eat the whole day as a way to punish me and make me feel guilty. The same thing happens with meals at home.

5- Her care is fake. It looks like she cares on the surface, but in reality, she prioritizes what she likes over my comfort. For example, she once used a pillowcase that made me itch and told me, “Who cares if you’re itching? Just sleep.”

6- Snooping: She goes through my phone while I’m asleep. She even gets upset if my mom asks me for money. I know she’s snooping. I tried to give her time to stop without confronting her directly, but she didn’t. Instead, she makes indirect comments about things she saw—even when there’s nothing inappropriate.

All of this has made my life stressful and uncomfortable. I’ve tried to change things, but nothing worked. Her sister told me that having a baby would fix the marriage. Now we have a wonderful baby, but I’m still stuck in a marriage that makes me miserable. I don’t feel like myself anymore. I feel like a loser all the time, and I’m constantly down. And she is not willing to go to therapy or couple cosulling!

What should I doooooo?