Worried sick

Reflog1791 · 2026-04-27T15:37:28+00:00

Skip the counseling appointment and see a lawyer instead. Can probably file divorce same day and take control of this situation.

Or you can wait for her little trip and spring into action.

Numerous_Rush5227 · 2026-04-27T15:09:47+00:00

No point in dragging ass into therapy when she’s wanting dirty dick in an apartment elsewhere. Time to stand tall and move on.

Edit: if my opinion is worth anything, I’d say she’s using this arrogantly for her expected validation from a therapist to move out and have her “glow up.”

watermelonstrong · 2026-04-27T14:50:35+00:00

I wouldnt go to the therapy session. Start working towards your divorce

Ok_Industry3016 · 2026-04-27T14:34:56+00:00

Mine took my side. Ended our sessions she quit. No way to win when it reaches this point. Sorry dude.

Legitimate-Corgi · 2026-04-27T14:22:16+00:00

She almost certainly will spin it to all be your fault. That’s the usual playbook. Be prepared and try not to react angrily while she lies to your/therapists face. Stick to the facts realize she’s already checked out and focus on you doing the best you can for your kids. Most likely she’ll stop participating in therapy as soon as they put any heat on her for her role in what’s going on.

Glittering_Ad2383 · 2026-04-27T13:58:56+00:00

Thank you everyone for your support. I’m just so worried about what this is going to do to our eldest. He is high functioning and is very intelligent but I know he’s not going to take being broken up very well. He already gets very emotional and upset when she leaves to go out and is home with me and our youngest. Who is 18 months. I try to explain in 5 y/o terms that everything is okay and I’m not going to let anything happen to him. But his most concise reply is that he “wants mommy, daddy, sister, and me together”. And it makes me very emotional hearing this through sobs.

I already tried speaking with her about this in particular and she is very dismissive of it. She is a mental health professional by trade and says she isn’t suffering from anything and would know if she was. I’ve been collecting information like a journal of daily events for months and months now. I’m just second guessing everything because where we live, everyone is going to very much be on her side as far as custody because she is a female and I’m a male. Things are really backwards here and she is far more likely to get full custody just because she is a woman and “men don’t take care of kids, they work” according to her grandmother. When referring to her leaving for a week to another country and leaving the kids with me out of no where.

I don’t want to mess up and lose my kids. They are the only thing that keeps me going every single day.

serkovavantgarden · 2026-04-27T13:38:53+00:00

She wants you to ‘still live together for the kids’

No she doesn’t.

She has her cake and wants to eat it too.

On your dime

You shouldn’t be worried mate. You should be angry.

Get to a lawyer and file mate. Your wife has lost the plot and needs a reality check

lovekarma22 · 2026-04-27T13:30:36+00:00

How old is your youngest child? There is a chance she is having a post partum breakdown/crisis. This sounds like a drastic, and frankly insane, plan on her part. If this is very out of character for her and she is possibly having a break down it obviously needs to be addressed.

If she is "mentally sound" and just regular crazy well then.. I would put some major boundaries in place and fight for your kids. She can leave but you aren't going to entertain her lunacy.

nutscrape · 2026-04-27T13:29:53+00:00

Don't let her stay.

She chose to abandon the relationship. But she's somehow trying to paint you as being the bad guy?

I like the other idea. Let her speak and show that she's s***. Then let her go with you having a clean conscience.

So what if she blames you in her head. No cheater ever tells all their family and friends "I was with a wonderful partner that listened to me and obliged my wants and took care of the kids. But I was selfish and decided to sleep with 10 other people." Let her tell her fantasies to herself. You know the truth. You can say the truth.

No_Chemistry8953 · 2026-04-27T13:21:22+00:00

That will be an interesting session. The couple’s therapist (if they are decent) will not capsize to your wife’s demands and try to force her to own her side of the accountability. If all goes well, that session will not be enjoyable for your wife. Here is to hoping you found a decent couple’s therapist.

RevolutionaryLaw8854 · 2026-04-27T13:20:21+00:00

I’d go just for shits and giggles.

Just listen to her and the counselor. Consider it, collecting evidence. Take notes. Use them against her. If the counselor asks you what you think - I’m here just to listen. I just want what’s best for the kids.”

Then silence. Just let her talk. And talk and talk. You don’t need to say a word. And anything you say, can and will be used against you.

UrAristotle · 2026-04-27T13:15:38+00:00

You take the kids, kick her out, and wish her well. She has made herself clear to you. You need to make yourself clear to her.

If you’re doing everything in the house and everything for the kids, she can go on. But she doesn’t also get to stay in the home and benefit from that.

Title	Worried sick
Author	Glittering_Ad2383
Upvotes	3
Comments	17
Date	April 27, 2026 1:06 PM UTC (3 months ago)
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