Basically what the title says. 4 long years of pure love, adventure, inside jokes, future planning, travel, adopting a dog together, endless movie marathons, fun events and sports games, date nights and everything you could imagine your happiest relationship to be. We connected so closely from the day we met and he was just infatuated with me. We were best friends.

Wedding planning and an engagement in the works for 2026. Rented a house. Making the guest list and picking out songs, decor and a venue. We had even selected a ring and he confirmed my size a few months ago.

I told him about my SA last year- at 16 four of my school mates forced oral sex on me. He shut down and got really upset but I chalked it up to not knowing how to deal with it. We talked it through and were able to move on.

Last weekend we were at the bar and I made a joke about shaking my ass. No big deal.. just a joke. I’m normally a pretty modest person and a homebody. 3 days later, after everything was fine for the previous 3 days, he blew up at me over text. Said I was acting ratchet, gross, he was disgusted by “how many men I’d been with” in the past, said he’d never be able to marry me if I didn’t take back my comments about “shaking ass”, said marrying someone like that would be a “one way ticket to a life of misery”, that my comments were degenerate, he then brought up my assault and basically told me he didn’t believe me, that I “could have walked away but chose not to”, told me I would be a liability around men in the future and said that I was untrustworthy, said that he believes I participated in the act and realized how disgusting it was afterwards so I labeled it assault and said it was an “all too common tale among women these days” then said he decided we were incompatible and he could never marry me. Come to find out he has been consuming “alpha male”/Andrew Tate content, and other things of that nature. He went on some rant about his future children, their futures, how I have dated black men in the past and how I sometimes listen to rap music.

I’m absolutely devastated:( I felt so safe with him and was totally under the impression this was the love of my life. I never thought he’d do anything like this. When we broke up he cried and said he loved me. I don’t know what to feel or think. I didn’t know he was so easily influenced