How to make up for lost time sexually?

Pastirica · 2020-06-15T12:11:46+00:00

This is ex red pill not red pill advice yo

Artichoke19 · 2020-06-15T10:43:36+00:00

This attitude is understandable but ultimately it misses the point of sex and intimacy.

It’s about quality, not quantity.

Do you want to play several dozen shallow PS2 rip-offs of Grand Theft Auto 3 for an hour a piece before moving on, or do you want to sink your teeth into 100+ immersive hours of GTAV?

Don’t justify banging prostitutes either. It will certainly be the easy solution to upping your notch-count but I imagine if you’re aspiring to having a happy family life eventually that approach will just degrade your soul worse than simply being standard-promiscuous.

Yesm3can · 2020-06-15T10:39:55+00:00

I'm just the type of guy that women would rather settle down with and marry

Why do people who said something like this are often the complete opposite of the ones that people should be marrying and settling down with.

OP, imagine you have a very close friend and he is gay. So let us take women completely out of equation here. Will you be happy for him if he tells you he is going to settle down and marry another gay man...who is as bitter, insecure, weak and helpless as you are (according to your own posting history here.)

Can you really and honestly said to this close friend of yours, "yeah bro, this man will totally be a good husband for you."

ThatOtherGuyTPM · 2020-06-15T10:44:40+00:00

Can I ask why your goal is just to sleep with as many people as possible?

WestAtmosphere · 2020-06-15T15:27:12+00:00

Wait this is a joke right ? 🥶 Idk if I am on exredpill anymore

vial_of_music · 2020-06-15T19:22:49+00:00

Please go to therapy.

Cull_The_Meek · 2020-06-15T09:35:58+00:00

This might sound contradictory, but I think an effective way is to not focus on this at all. When you begin to achieve happiness (which, in my opinion, precedes success in most areas of life, including sex and relationships), you'll find that sex and love aren't that hard to come by after all.

This doesn't need to take years - I've made a lot of strides over the course of a few months by targeting areas in my life that I've realistically known were a problem for many years (like you, I won't write a biography). When you gain a sense of satisfaction, productivity, whatever it is you're looking for, and you gradually invest more in your social relationships and building new ones (once social distancing is over), you'll find the type of relationships with women that you're looking for.

It does honestly sound like you still have a few TRP ideas stuck in your head - don't worry, so do I - but some more real experiences with women may change these ideas. The idea that you need to be wealthy to attract the woman you want; the idea that sex should be a central life goal, and is worthy of as much time and attention as you're giving it; the idea that sex with a new woman is like a notch on your bedpost, and not the start of a new fulfilling, social attachment that you can gain even more happiness from. If you find it hard to go this way, perhaps read some better informed dating books (Corey Wayne has some nice ideas, minimal redpill-ness in my opinion, although he occasionally drops the term alpha), and if that still doesn't work, you could always see a therapist to test if your ideas and beliefs really aren't harming your progress.

Best of luck!

vial_of_music · 2020-06-15T19:05:39+00:00

You need some serious therapy or you just need to rewire your life beliefs and values. You need to focus on yourself as a person before you even think about approaching women let alone having sex with them. Like holy shit this is major serial killer vibes here. No consequences for your actions and only ever thinking about yourself.

2020-06-15T19:36:52+00:00

Really? Sex is the most important thing to you? Not traveling the world? Not starting your own business? Not writing a book? Or something else wholesome, productive or inspiring that will make you feel great about yourself forever? You must not respect or like yourself very much. So many teenagers are virgins, you were definitely not alone. Remember, STDs/STIs. And condoms can break. You better be ready to pay child support or marry if you get someone pregnant. Not every woman will have an abortion or give them up for adoption. You very well might get multiple women pregnant if you sleep around like that. Imagine being poor for OVER A DECADE from paying all that child support, for multiple kids! And yes, it is also your problem and you are also responsible, not just the woman. Just being real with you and trying to help you. Wow, I can’t believe parents with sons don’t tell them all this. You should already know all this — how careless, irresponsible sex can ruin lives, including your own.

jeannedargh · 2020-06-15T20:12:39+00:00

If sex is all you want and quantity is all that counts and you don’t really like women all that much except for fucking, why don’t you use hamburger meat instead? Just get 90 pounds at a time and heat it to body temperature. You can form up to five different women to your exact taste and fuck them as often as you want if you refrigerate the meat properly in between. Beef is easy to come by, affordable, emotionally safe and spares women from your advances. If you’re vegan, minced tofu and sunflower seed oil will probably do the trick.

AP3340 · 2020-06-15T16:10:47+00:00

Bro how old are you? I felt like this too but I realize that meaningful is better. Im 20 right now.

Stargazer1919 · 2020-06-15T22:55:38+00:00

You're still in your early 20s. It's not uncommon to be sexually inexperienced at that age. Especially in this day and age.

manyseveral · 2020-06-16T17:40:49+00:00

I'm not sure if you're just a troll because some things in your post sound absolutely ridiculous and it's hard to believe that a person could realistically believe this, but at the same time your post history seems consistent with the story you've told here.

If this is genuinely how you feel I have to tell you, you have not really missed out anywhere near near the ball park of how much you think you have. My ex started having sex at 14 and was/is able to get both fwbs and girlfriends. He is 20 now and has slept with around his estimate 20 girls. Granted, he is not necessarily too picky about looks, he likes girls to have a nice personality or a personality he has interest in though. So even guys who have access to a lot of girls if they wanted sex don't just fuck all the time with different girls. I think maybe you feel this need because you have felt for a while that it is something inaccessible so you are obsessed with the idea because it was something you could not get. But the truth is you have not missed out as much as you think you have. It also seems to have made you a bad and probably toxic person and you sound a bit incel-ish.

It sounds like your problem is that you are an incel, and I'm not using this to mean you want sex but are not having success getting it, I'm using it to mean a guy whose desire for sex has made him uncaring and unempathetic to women to the point where women can sense it when he interacts with them, because incel ideology results in a mindset which causes behaviours when around women that are trademarks of a guy who doesn't care about the girl and just wants sex out of her.

I would say if you want to sleep with a lot of women, the way which will will give you the most long term sustained success and repeat customers (women coming back for more/approaching you for this) is to do it in a healthy way where you respect the women even if you don't want a relationship with them. Lots of people are able to be honest and do this successfully. To do this you first have to learn to that they are deservant of respect, empathy and consideration just as much as any other people in your life you care about and learn to respect women in general and appreciate that they are fully capable of + have independent thought, desires and aspirations just the same as men are able to have.

You will know you are there when you understand it as wrong to feel it is okay to cheat on women just because other women did not desire you when you were younger, and understand like any normal human being who is able to have successful sexual encounters with women that high quality is not a synonym for attractive, and that feeling it is is weird af given that the word quality denotes qualities, not just one superficial category.

Ask yourself the question if you were those women and you had all the options of guys that were available in your high school, would you have gone for you? In your head would it makes sense if some girl not as attractive as you made you feel like she genuinely cared about you to use the fuck out of you (e.g. for money) because she felt bitter that other guys of your attractiveness level not wanting to be with her in high school was unfair? Maybe you feel you wouldn't be susceptible to this but imagine if you had been, does this seem sensical and fair in your mind?

If you get to a point where you understand things in this more sensical way that I have suggested, you then have to work on your confidence and probably personal grooming and style to be attractive enough to attract women you find attractive, because I'm guessing if you were already attractive enough for them to be attracted to you, you wouldn't believe or be saying these weird and stupid incel ideas. When you achieve this you will not have the trouble you experience now attracting women, and when you have completed all these steps you will be able to have normal healthy hookups and/or relationships with women.

Being able to get hookups is probably the most sensical goal for you if you're predominantly looking for just sex, because fwbs usually involve some aspect of you giving the woman at least a small bit of an enjoyable social interaction/experience with you as part of the experience, unless you are a sexual god and can make them orgasm amazingly to the point where they will keep coming back for more without you trying to get them to repeat the experience.

Xemnas81 · 2020-06-15T21:04:01+00:00

You're early 20s. It's not uncommon to be a virgin in early 20s. Start worrying if you're a virgin in your 30s. Young people lie and exaggerate how much sex they're having, particularly young men.

Carloverguy20 · 2020-06-22T00:43:56+00:00

Having lots of sex won't make you a better person. Even if you are having sex with tons of people, you are still going to feel empty. You should look into therapy and help. It's okay that you are not having tons of sex.

SaperER · 2020-06-15T17:02:45+00:00

Sounds to me your idea of a life well lived is something like this guy:

https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Ismail_Ibn_Sharif

"According to the writings of the French diplomat Dominique Busnot, Moulay Ismail had at least 500 concubines and even more children. A total of 868 children (525 sons and 343 daughters) is recorded in 1703, with his seven hundredth son being born shortly after his death in 1727, by which time he had well over a thousand children."

I can understand your... desires. I too would like to have harem of beautiful women whose sole purpose would be to pleasure me. But as a wise man once said:

"Shower upon him every earthly blessing, drown him in a sea of happiness, so that nothing but bubbles of bliss can be seen on the surface; give him economic prosperity, such that he should have nothing else to do but sleep, eat cakes and busy himself with the continuation of his species, and even then out of sheer ingratitude, sheer spite, man would play you some nasty trick. He would even risk his cakes and would deliberately desire the most fatal rubbish, the most uneconomical absurdity, simply to introduce into all this positive good sense his fatal fantastic element. It is just his fantastic dreams, his vulgar folly that he will desire to retain, simply in order to prove to himself--as though that were so necessary-- that men still are men and not the keys of a piano, which the laws of nature threaten to control so completely that soon one will be able to desire nothing but by the calendar."

2020-06-15T10:36:06+00:00

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Title	How to make up for lost time sexually?
Author	yxhb53
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Date	June 15, 2020 9:10 AM UTC (6 years ago)
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