is a coffee date acceptable as a first date?

antidense · 2023-10-14T15:13:00+00:00

If you don't know the person personally, I believe that's the best option. If you don't click, you didn't invest too much.

spiraldinosaur · 2023-10-14T15:37:56+00:00

It's a very common, normal idea of a first date.

saltychica · 2023-10-14T17:21:27+00:00

Coffee is tops. Mini golf is good too if weather permits. First dates are best as a vibe check without much time or money invested.

xvszero · 2023-10-14T16:17:23+00:00

Yes.

SilverTango · 2023-10-14T20:03:15+00:00

As a woman, I prefer something low key for the first few dates. One thing a lot of red pill men refuse to understand about women is our tendency to feel like we have to return the favor in some way. Because our society has become so libertine, it has gotten so bad that some women will feel like they should repay dinner with sex. Now, some women don't have a problem with a man paying for all the dates, but a lot of women are uncomfortable with it because there's always that thing at the back of our minds that he is expecting something. We A low-investment date is nice because it still gives the man an opportunity to provide, and a woman doesn't feel like she owes a debt to a stranger.

eatfleshdrinkblood · 2023-10-14T17:01:10+00:00

I would say so

TelevisionGloomy5458 · 2023-10-14T16:24:39+00:00

I’m a gen x female and I think so.

ConsultJimMoriarty · 2023-10-14T21:50:04+00:00

I like nandos as a first date.

Because even if it doesn’t work out, you still got to have Nandos.

oldcousingreg · 2023-10-14T18:48:44+00:00

Absolutely. It’s one of the best ideas

SufficientDot4099 · 2023-10-15T03:23:13+00:00

Yes. It is better if it’s a person you just met. If it is with someone that you’ve known for a while then you can do something a little bigger for the first date.

what_i_reckon · 2023-10-14T19:30:30+00:00

Yes totally

kikiloveshim · 2023-10-15T00:35:28+00:00

Yes I wouldn’t go further than that on a first date. It’s good to feel Out and see if you’re compatible

ImStillAlivePeople · 2023-10-15T06:24:08+00:00

Yes, public place, low stakes location, and flexibility with length of time on the date without any interruptions by a server. Possibly the ideal place to do a date, plus, it is probably a day time date and that means you're getting a much more closer to reality look at the individual as well.

Many-You-7964 · 2023-10-15T07:57:45+00:00

I think Is the Best option if you don't really know the person you are dating

Ashleythemaneater · 2023-10-15T19:59:41+00:00

For me no personally. I like dinner dates or movies but seeing how weird mfs can be when paying for dinner such as having a sense of entitlement bc they paid for a meal they think they deserve some coochie I think it's a perfect option

jammylonglegs1983 · 2023-10-14T20:56:50+00:00

I’d say the younger you are, the more acceptable it is. Also keep in mind that people who date often are more likely to do coffee dates because they want to get through a lot of different people faster and not spend a lot of money doing it.

Some women who are dating seriously may not accept a coffee date though. If they’re looking for something serious, the date you plan says a lot about you. Are you taking her to a decent restaurant or are you going through the McDonald’s drive thru?

If you already know you really really like a person, I would skip the coffee and try to do a higher effort date. If you’re not sure about them and you just want to have a quick meet, then go for the coffee.

JSBelle · 2023-10-15T02:15:26+00:00

It’s not a date, it’s just a meeting.

ConstantNews1507 · 2023-10-23T21:59:37+00:00

Something low key like coffee is good - I prefer a cocktail; the lighting is better and there aren’t a bunch of teenagers on their laptops around but that’s personal preference.

TelevisionGloomy5458 · 2023-10-28T12:22:51+00:00

I think so. Gen x female. I’d actually prefer a coffee date as the first date

onlineLsa · 2023-10-15T04:49:56+00:00

I don’t like coffee or tea. I think a good first date considers both parties interests.

yungneec02 · 2023-10-14T22:42:16+00:00

Only time the answer wouldn’t be a resounding yes is if ur on TikTok or twitter

bee_ghoul · 2023-10-15T14:54:29+00:00

I think it depends on how well you know them. I know you said it’s a first date but is it a first date with someone you’ve never met before or is it someone who you’ve known for awhile but are about to start seeing in a romantic way. It’s your first time meeting this person than 100% coffee shop date all the way. But if you guys know each other and you’re more so looking to impress them because you’re more sure about them then I would go for a reasonably priced dinner.

dumbbitchcas · 2023-10-16T02:08:16+00:00

Yeah to me it’s preferred and perfect

vcreativ · 2023-10-17T10:02:19+00:00

Let me turn this around. If someone likes you or is curious about you and they are an acceptable choice for you. They'll always accept a coffee date with you.

Just bear in mind that some people are very shy and may take more time to get to know you and feel comfortable around you to open up or agree to a date in the first place.

It's not always a rejection.

Title	is a coffee date acceptable as a first date?
Author	Nappy_Ty
Upvotes	21
Comments	28
Date	October 14, 2023 3:00 PM UTC (2 years ago)
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