Classic Pickmeisha

blackopium777 · 2020-02-12T15:26:04+00:00

"Should I be upset?" No Honey you should be single by now.

1Here4Bach · 2020-02-12T15:37:01+00:00

The first comment is “have you told him how that makes you feel?” She shouldn’t have to tell him how that makes her feel!

He knows he prioritizes his friendships over his relationship. No amount of crying on her part will make him feel sorry for her. She’s a place holder girlfriend. He gives the bare minimum in the relationship because he knows she’s not the one so he doesn’t have to put in effort to “win her over”.

He carelessly fabricated the lie that he didn’t have money which she can easily call bullshit on. He doesn’t even care enough to make up a decent lie.

CuriousCatNYC777 · 2020-02-12T15:31:14+00:00

DM her the link for FDS. She needs it.

RobotAmerican · 2020-02-12T16:21:19+00:00

Unless this boy is too broke to eat, there's literally no excuse for him to not ask her on a picnic to the park, or give her a gift of something homemade. As was said in another post, gifts from TJ's are as low as 99¢ each, and there's no excuse to not plan a free or low-cost date.

PicklesNBacon · 2020-02-12T13:35:51+00:00

Here’s the post

https://www.reddit.com/r/dating/comments/f2es8f/boyfriend_tells_me_he_has_no_money_to_do_anything/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=ios_app&utm_name=iossmf

2020-02-12T16:48:51+00:00

Jesus. Get dressed in something sexy and go out with some single friends.

dilligent_squatter · 2020-02-12T21:42:54+00:00

I’d next him. My shitty ex used to waste money on magic cards and Wendy’s everyday and then be like “oh sorry I’m too poor for dates, feel bad for me.” I literally saw him spend $50 each on two magic cards that he “needed,” but couldn’t bother to cover a beer and a slice of pizza for me at pub trivia totaling about $11.

Fuck all of that noise, it’s a manipulation tactic to make YOU feel bad for asking to be prioritized and treated well. And a good man should just DO that without being asked, he should be falling over himself to make you his priority and put forth effort make you feel happy and special. It’s not about spending every penny he has on you, but if he has the option of spending on you or spending on hanging out with his “boys” around holiday time? All I hear is “fast food, drinking at a club and going to the movies are more important that my girlfriend on Valentine’s Day.”

sweatydeath · 2020-02-12T17:21:19+00:00

u/spicybeanburger have either of you brought up Valentine’s Day plans with each other? Did he forget or just intentionally plan something and tell you he was sorry & that he couldn’t hang out with you that day?

If he forgot, then I’d ignore him until he seeks you out. It’s a red flag if he doesn’t remember. If he remembered but made plans anyway, maybe this a good time to pull back, see if this relationship is what you want, and date others. How a man acts around the holidays is an indicator of how serious he feels about you.

Wait until the holiday passes, but armor yourself up in case he didn’t make you feel like a queen on that special day. Do NOT let this slide.

steingrrrl · 2020-02-12T22:50:49+00:00

"Should I be upset?"

I hate this mindset. That you have to ask permission to validate your own feelings that youre already having. this really fucked me up, for years. being told I'd be upset/sad/mad/dissapointed for 'no reason'. people say that men aren't allowed to show their feelings to the extent that women are, but we hold back so much, because we constantly feel like our feelings aren't valid, and that we're just crazy or hysterical, because we're told thats what emotional women are. its taken me a long time, but i've given myself permission to feel whatever i'm feeling. my feelings aren't always necessarily objectively correct, but they're real and they're valid.

kumquat_fds · 2020-02-12T20:09:11+00:00

Ex-bf used to do this exact same shit!! I felt guilty even bringing it up. He was full of dumb excuses. I didn’t want to lose him so I just accepted it. Fucking never again.

jsmollusk · 2020-02-12T18:26:26+00:00

I don't know how I feel about shaming pickmeshas. They've been brainwashed and incorrectly socialized. We should take pitty on them and reach out, not alienate them from solidarity.. right?

modernmedusaa · 2020-02-13T01:31:24+00:00

Just speaking to a girl just yday who told me her boyfriend of 8years 'doesn't celebrate valentines day' and so he hasn't got her anything for 8 years. (Yes emphasis on boyfriend of 8 years)

She seemed to be both defending his 'decision' (aka BULLSHIT cheapskate excuse) not to celebrate it, whilst simultaneously moaning it would be nice if he got her something just this once :(

I couldn't help but think- WHY don't you grow a backbone and confront him on his stinginess? Why don't you tell him other women are being taken out by their partners and spoiled? She's just passively accept it, so now he doesn't feel any pressure to take her out.

Classic case of COCKHOLM SYNDROME!

I can't understand this mindset at all....realistically she knows he's just feeding her any old excuse not to make a fuss on ONE day of the year after spending 8 consecutive years of life bending to him. I can imagine the rest of their relationship is equally unfulfilling if she's passive enough to accept such treatment, as a forever GF, for so long.

So take it from me guys, you're not missing out much this valentines day with women tolerating this kinda low effort bullshit lmaooo

chungkingxbricks · 2020-02-13T05:11:41+00:00

God this was me and I wasn’t allowed to be mad about it lest he rage and scream at me. How I was that blind...desperate codependent pickmeisha. Nah, sis.

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PicklesNBacon · 2020-02-12T18:10:02+00:00

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romodoc1 · 2020-02-13T01:44:58+00:00

He’s not your boyfriend

Shellfishhaha · 2020-02-13T08:49:27+00:00

Omg just dump him and go on tinder on something. Guys on valentines are desperate, there are ten guys spamming me to meet them on valentines right now (and when i say spamming i mean S P A M M I N G) , i just prefer to spend it by myself since i havent really felt a genuine connection with any of them, but obviously she doesn’t care lmao

sunflower4565 · 2020-02-13T02:43:54+00:00

Yeah I'd be mad if my man did that

Title	Classic Pickmeisha
Author	PicklesNBacon
Upvotes	234
Comments	74
Date	February 12, 2020 1:34 PM UTC (6 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/FemaleDatingStrategy
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Archive Link	https://theredarchive.com/r/FemaleDatingStrategy/classic-pickmeisha.693859 https://theredarchive.com/post/693859

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