Dating Down

electroloop · 2021-12-24T16:52:42+00:00

"Back then I treated my vagina like it was an NGO established to comfort the disadvantaged scrotes of the world."

I felt this in my soul. Needs to be an FDS meme.

munakhtyler · 2021-12-24T17:17:32+00:00

Young women need to learn their worth. Never date worthless man, date a man that you deserve. Or better, be single, free and fabulous

eternalalien8 · 2021-12-24T17:01:54+00:00

Forgive your past self, she's gotten you to where you are today. I definitely made the mistake of wasting my time and youth on dating down. I decided that all I can do is move forward and use my energy on my own happiness- recognizing what I can control, and letting go of what I can't. I'm excited to be building a future I actually want, and I know I won't lower my standards- been there, done that!

throwawaynevermindit · 2021-12-24T21:58:52+00:00

One of the biggest myths the manosphere tries to push is that if a man mistreats or "won't commit" to a woman it's because she's dating above her level and he just has better options.

Meanwhile, back in reality, most of the bad experiences women have aren't with Endless Options Chad.

I've stopped worrying too much about why I've seen men act the way they have but fact remains, every man who has turned straight NVM on me has had obvious issues with attractiveness... older, uglier, fatter, small peen, broke, bad teeth, short, insecure, lazy, boring, awkward...

Even by the most conventional, gendered standards - which I don't take very seriously but I'm using them to make a point - I was somewhat out of their league and an uncommon opportunity for them.

The complacent assholery is also usually slow burn and they begin interactions by simping (in one case - the most extreme and dangerous case - for an entire year before sex).

And no, they are not now swimming in a river of willing cooch. Idk if they thought they had that to look forward to but it panned out for none of them.

Basically, this is a lie dudes tell (us and themselves) to increase the probability that the attacks on our self esteem they're systematically launching will land as Super Effective.

Nothing guarantees you'll get treated badly more than dating down does. And your sense of up and down is almost certainly more accurate than the average man's. They really have the market cornered on overconfidence and ego.

efemel115 · 2021-12-24T17:41:35+00:00

This is why I low key respect gold diggers a little bit.

I mean if you are going to eventually have to deal with a shitty man at least you should be able to benefit from him (if he is well off) through material stuff or getting him to put stuff in your name - car, house etc.

thatshadywitch · 2021-12-24T20:04:46+00:00

Sometimes I wonder whether we all dated the same guy.

LizardInFirst · 2021-12-24T18:07:33+00:00

Oh wow, I can relate to this so much, especially the paying for them. Fuck that shit!

Equal-Ear2312 · 2021-12-24T20:34:42+00:00

If you date down, I will be upset. don't do it!

corago513 · 2021-12-24T23:06:45+00:00

Girl yes. I was dealing with this man that was laid off from his job during the height of covid. I tried to be empathetic towards his broke @ss and then one night I was in a really dark place, like having suicidal thoughts and he barely responded. A few days later I called him out on this behavior and said that I knew he was having his own issues, but I reached out when I was thinking about ending my life and he STILL DIDN'T ask me if I was okay or needed help. Instead, he ended up texting me this long paragraph of all of his issues and said he hasn't been communicating with me bc he doesn't want to talk about his issues and get down on them. Like wtf, did you even hear what I said. 🤡

_HEDONISM_BOT · 2021-12-25T12:12:01+00:00

Even when you date down in terms of looks, you’ll find that short, bald, unattractive men act like fuckboys, cheat, abuse, and treat you like garbage, too.

The trope of the “nice” but hideous man “treating you better” than hot guys is one of the greatest scams to ever exist.

As women, we are shamed for having ANY standards, and shamed even more for having physical standards, too.

Optical_Optimus · 2021-12-27T12:49:24+00:00

And most of the time we had to have sex at my place, because they either didn't have a place or they were living with their ex-wife or they didn't have a bed. The few times I went over to the guy's place, I got to enjoy awkward sex on a twin mattress.

you what sis?!☠️🙆🏼‍♀️

binhimsis · 2021-12-24T17:00:00+00:00

“Back then I treated my vagina like it was an NGO to comfort the disadvantaged scrotes of the world” OMFG I NEED TO GET AN LED BANNER OF THIS AS REMINDER

Title	Dating Down
Author	_Lessthanadollar
Upvotes	523
Comments	29
Date	December 24, 2021 4:28 PM UTC (4 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/FemaleDatingStrategy
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