Dating is a one-strike-and-you’re-out situation. Never give any man the chance to hurt you again. Take an immediate U-turn at the first sight of a red flag and damn the social traffic laws! Once a man has shown you that he doesn’t respect you, it should be over. HVM don’t need to be taught how to respect, cherish, and honor you.

One of the worst cycles I see women fall into is the volatile on-off relationship. The guy does something disrespectful (usually cheating) and she breaks up with him, or he freaks out over something stupid (usually something she can’t change or control) and breaks up with her, but they always “talk it out” and “patch things up” and get back together, but this time with a ~new understanding~ of each other. Rinse and repeat. The men never change, it never works out long term, and I watch good women throw away months or years of their young lives with a man they already know is wrong for them. They are lying to themselves about this failed partnership and are ruining any chance they have with any potential mates in that time frame. It’s a grueling exercise in futility.

The first breakup should be the last breakup! After all of my breakups, I essentially removed my exes from my life and it’s made my life a billion times simpler than many of my peers. I have exactly ZERO regrets about it. My sensitivity to rejection has actually been a powerful tool because once it’s over, it’s over forever with no exceptions. Seriously, grieve the loss of the man you hoped he was like a death, and then bury it and move the fuck on. Your ex has NOTHING of value to say to you and reconnecting with an ex is ALWAYS a recipe for disaster. Even for the amicable breakups, you CANT be friends after; it will only complicate things down the line. There’s billions of people on earth and you can be friends with someone else. You gotta be ruthless, like a shark- only move forward, never look back.

Ladies, stop rooting around in the trash. He’s in there for a reason and no amount of cOmMuNiCaTiOn will ever change that. All failed applicants must be swiftly and permanently rejected if you want the best chance of ending up with the right HVM for you.