A couple of years ago I went to this event at a nice park alone and randomly met a hot and smart guy there. We chatted a bit, laughed a lot and it felt like a rom-com. He asked to go to get a drink close by but I had plans. We exchanged numbers and the next day he asked me for a date the following weekend. He bought us tickets to a comedy show and we had some drinks throughout the night. About 30 mins in, as the headliner is coming out, he took down his man bun and leaned down towards my face to kiss me...I just shook my head no and hoped he wouldn’t feel embarrassed bc it was a small/tight venue. We continued the show, then chatted after with a couple drinks. I hated that he tried to kiss me in a public place before the first date even ended but I thought he was such a catch. I let him drive me home and then I left to meet some friends that were still out. I texted the guy and told him he should meet me and my friends out. He drives back towards my city and meets my friends (a guy and girl). We have fun laughing and talking, and he paid for my friends drinks. But he started asking me about my tastes/preferences and starts implying I’m high maintenance because of the hotels I like to stay in. He also made a comment that I must dislike his car. This guy makes 6 figs and so do I but I suspect him seeing my high rise building intimidated him. He starts talking about how he is going to move to this rough/dangerous neighborhood bc its a good investment to buy there. Then he drives my friends and I home. When he dropped me off I was tipsy and was awkward bc I wanted him to go for a kiss again..but he didn’t. I didn’t hear from him for 2 days and so I texted him. He responded but didn’t ask me out again and I asked him if he didn’t have a good time. He said he had a lot of fun but “chemistry was missing.” I then spent the day crying and sad.

The next day I told my friend about the date and how I was confused because we had so much fun, and he should understand that I don’t want to do PDA..esp on a first date. She responded that taking women out adds up and that he wanted to kiss me to see if there’s chemistry or not before he continues to invest in me. I cringe at that convo and the whole experience! Also the fact I let a stranger drive me around after drinking. I built this guy up so much in my head and he clearly just wanted sex or a mindless/dependent woman.