(Moira's note: this post will link to other posts of the series in the future, I intend to make this a reference series. Please be patient!)

Age gap relationships are predatory. The men that target much younger women aren't "admirative" of your "maturity", but are complimenting to make you lower your defenses, so you're more likely to let them into your life. That's inherently predatory and creepy as FUCK.

If you ask a HVM (or a man you think has a majority of HVM characteristics) if he would date a lady 10 years younger, he'd express disgust and lack of interest in that, he'd say that this lady is like a child to him so no way he's gonna date her. So why is there 50 yo scrotes out there salivating at the idea of naive 20 years old? WHY?

The other ladies their age have seen so many things, heard so many things or have already experienced so they're more careful and prudent especially facing manipulation and abuse. The older scrotes don't go to those ladies because they know they'll be called the fuck out for being lazy and/or abusive. The older ladies dumped their previous exes for not being HV, mature, respectful and so on. Those older ladies KNOW what they need and they REQUIRE it.

Haaaaa, too much effort for those scrotes. The 50yo something scrotes being dumped by the wives that are so done with their concentrated penile bullshit can't bear being single, it is simply wayyy too hard, oh the poor souls. Those men now have to bulid by themselves their own social networks, upkeep themselves physically, mentally and their environement. Oh those poor souls.

But ruh-oh, they fucking found the ULTIMATE best solution, those innocent, nubile young ladies that know absolutely nothing of men's scroteness and that are more likely to change themselves into fitting the scrote's ideal. THE DREAM! Younger ladies haven't heard/experienced the countless abuse stories other ladies experience, so they're so much more likely to concede to those men that had 30+ years of being a scrote under the belt. Just perfect, the goldilocks of scrote dating 💕

Young ladies often are dealing with extremely immature boys that are horndogs that didn't learn a single ounce of gentleman-ness. So once they come across a man that gives them nice gifts, pays them a bit of focused attention, behaves a bit better than the boys... it sounds like a oasis isn't it? But turns out this "gentleman" is considered immature by the older ladies.

As the young lady will grow older and more mature and hearing more about other's experiences (especially here on FDS where we call out abuse shamelessly and bluntly), those older men might grow increasingly more and more worried that he's losing his gripe on the young lady, and consequently**, ramp up the abusive behaviour (that was discreet before)**.

It means that he might increase his gaslight (making you believe you were in the wrong, denying something when you call him out, suggesting you might have "mental problems" thus invalidating your gut feeling, etc.), reinforce his "authority" over you by denying your experiences, or by insolating you from mentors and making himself the only mentor in your life. He might also try to push down your self-esteem by criticizing everythig you do, are, make, give, receive, etc, and also by negging you (An insult deguised under a layer of compliment, like "you'd look fantastic if you lost just 5 pounds!" or "Wow I never really expected you to be this good").

Like I've shared in the previous PART 1 of this series, even though you don't want to date young men your age and that dating older men seems to be a great compromise, I ask you to be mindful of their INTENTIONS towards you at any times. Abuse is just not worth being treated regularly on fancy dates or being given gifts.

✩ Recommended book: Why Does He do That? By Lundy Bancroft (Just a heads-up it can be pretty hard to read, so I ask you to take your time with this one but it is a VALUABLE read.)

(Next part will come next week)