Ladies, I was linked here a few days ago after I posted to relationship advice after learning about my husband cheating with my best friend while I was busy working. In one of my comments I mentioned how my mom died earlier this year. It was very sudden -- brain aneurism. She's the one I turned to when I wanted to talk through all my life stuff. She was really the mom everyone wants to have as their own. Just the right amount of mom and friend combined.

Since her death, my dad has been very quiet and withdrawn. It's like a part of him died. He's never been one to talk about feelings, but he became extra like that since her death. They were a silly couple and joked all the time. Growing up if they argued one or the other would shout "ICE CREAM BREAK!" and eat ice cream together and then talk about the issue. Relationship goals stuff. Yes, my husband refused to do that calling it stupid.

I saw my dad on Monday and filled him in on what was happening. I was sobbing, apologizing for fucking up my life. He told me quietly to not apologize and was grasping at how to calm me down. Again, he is not good at this stuff. And then he screamed "ICE CREAM BREAK!" almost reflexively and he started crying realizing what he'd done, I think remembering my mom.

We ate chocolate ice cream and by the end of finishing it actually could both talk calmly.

My dad is 100% in my corner. I can move in with him if I want. He's willing to come to my place and make sure my husband either leaves or stays out of my way while I pack up. He said something that I think you will all appreciate. I never had many deep conversations with him because I always talked to my mom but now I see they are alike in so many ways. Paraphrasing as best I can: "Your mom and I named you [name] because it means 'god's gift'. That's what you are. When you were growing up you always lived up to your name and as an adult even more so. [Husband] and [best friend] just shit all over their gift from god. They deserve each other but don't deserve you."

And there you have it. My dad telling me to know my worth and not accept people who don't treat me like a gift from god. While not the same words as what's said here (Queen etc.) I think the meaning is pretty similar. Pretty sure he's what you'd call a HVM. To me he's just the best dad ever and I'm grateful to have him!