You know these friends who feel sorry for you for being single and sort of tell you to lower your standards when they are in an awful situation themselves although they consider themselves lucky to have anyone (like how?).

Here is just a sample of examples:

- The ones expecting the baby of a boyfriend they've been with for years and justifying it by the fact that they don't care about marriage

- When their boyfriend is just a housemate at this point and their share nothing together or with each other

- The ones who just sleep with a man they are seeing with no commitment whatsoever

- The ones who agree to marriage before being proposed to

- The ones in open relationships

- The ones with LVM who take drugs and other substances

- The ones who've been lied to but who stayed

- The ones who take care of their man financially

......

Like honestly how do you keep your cool when you're confronted to the haughtiness of such pickmes who look down on you because you are single ? I bite my tongue all the time but it's just so frustrating and well, it's not my place to open their eyes on their situation. They have to realize it by and for themselves.

It's just so annoying to be the one people wonder what's wrong with you when the only thing is that you have higher standards than most people.

I know we shouldn't care of course nor that it makes me doubt myself but when you hear those things everyday it just makes you angry and of course, it lowers the bar for everyone.

Actually, my therapist told me one day to observe how I stand out with what I want for my life (and all legit demands) compared to most women. He actually praised me for having a clear understanding of what a relationship should be.

This is also why I love this community so much because it makes you feel less alone for respecting yourself.