I've been lurking on this sub for a long time now and can I just say y'all saved me. I was in the worst abusive relationship when I found this sub and it took me some time but let me tell you he's gone now.

This sub was my ONLY resource that actually helped me leave and gave me useful advice. Every person in my life who knew about my situation blamed me or tried to convince me to work things out with him. (Even though he assaulted me regularly and cheated on me throughout the entire relationship LOL.)

It's been some time now but I'm posting about it because I finally got a flair. I'm honestly beside myself at how easy it is to end up in situations like that if you don't know about dating.

Normally I would blame myself, but I genuinely didn't know any better and had no idea how to vet for a partner because my parents basically had the same abusive relationship dynamic.

Even though nobody taught me anything, even though nobody warned me about the monsters out there, I still got blamed for "choosing the wrong guy." It was directly tied to my value as a person somehow.

But now FDS has taught me and now they'll be calling me heartless when I'm back in the dating pool again. (I'm a woman, so obviously not tolerating bad treatment means I'm heartless /s.)

I will never be treated like that again. Thank you all from the bottom of my heart. 💖💖💖