Dear Queens, I've noticed a terrible philosophy dominant among my friends and within my dating pool. Everyone seems to see it virtuous, even going as far as equating it to Buddhist enlightened mindfulness, to "just live in the moment". Meaning: no expectations, no commitments, no long-term goal when dating. Just... Seeing where things go. Women are literally asking other women for advice on how to be a Chill Cool Girl™ with zero expectations. While also proclaiming they'd prefer to meet the love of their life today, "but you can't force it".

Everytime I express that I will dump anyone as soon as it becomes clear that there is no long-term compatibility, I am met with looks like I'm on a psychotic break and just proclaimed I shall only marry the Freddy Mercury if he brings me 10.000 rainbow roses on the Summer Solstice.

Male and female acquaintances have advised me to "just ride that train for as long as it's fun" when I tell them I'm doubting long-term compatibility with a date. To me, this is using someone as a placeholder. Nah, sis.

Quite demoralising to be subjected to milennial dating culture. But I refuse to budge on my principles, just to have a romantic companion and sex in life.