I broke up with a man I dated for four months two days ago. The main reason was that he used me as an emotional dumpster for the last month and it was very hard to walk away because the happy times were really happy but I did it! We had a very lengthy break up discussion which definitely took a lot longer than I wished it did and just gets to prove how much he took advantage of my constant need for not wanting to hurt people but anyway, that's work for future-me.

What really got me thinking about that discussion is that at some point he asked about my ex since I never talked about him in a positive light. I just described the good emotional qualities he had and then things he already knew about why it didn't work out. He then proceeded to talk about his ex (they were two years together) but only in a physical way. He described her to me, how she had super long brown hair (my hair is medium length but curly) and was Russian and how he has a thing for international girls (I'm latina and I didn't know before that she was Russian). How she was tiny and weighed like 80 pounds at 16 years old (I didn't even weigh 80 points in elementary school hahaha). I was thinking to myself, why is he telling me this? How is this a productive discussion? What is he gaining out of this by telling me this?

I mean it's over now so I just want to know what was going through his mind. It just felt like he was describing her to make me feel bad about my own features, or like letting me know how he was settling a bit for me on the looks department. I am on the curvier side and my other ex before him also loved talking about how long his ex's hair was. Like i wish I could grow my hair longer, guys, but it is in my DNA.

Has this ever happened to anyone else, in which someone you were dating talked about their ex's look and made you feel weird inside?