Never let a man use you as a placeholder. Don’t “build” a man up. Keep your standards high.

TikiTikiTata-chalala · 2021-10-28T16:43:50+00:00

This is gold 🥇 she hits everything 👑

Zurflu · 2021-10-28T17:44:37+00:00

Yesss. When a LVM levels up and can meet higher standards he will want a new woman whose standards he didn't meet before. For example if he never lived on his own until age 28, once he has his own apartment he'll want a woman who wouldn't date a guy without his own place. If you were already with him at his lowest, that's not you sis.

arnezuara · 2021-10-28T17:29:15+00:00

Love her content!

passenger683 · 2021-10-28T16:09:47+00:00

Ugh ! Men are the worst! The depravity is unbelievable....

Specific-Composer300 · 2021-10-28T17:28:44+00:00

Haha I just watched this on tiktok! Spot on.

LR_today · 2021-10-28T15:39:15+00:00

I am most guys "type", I was still used as a placeholder for several men.

Men are users. They take and take and take.

esthermaniii · 2021-10-28T19:44:37+00:00

This is so true

dazedandcofused_ · 2021-10-28T22:17:54+00:00

Hmm I don't agree with the full message. It kind of places the onus on women instead of holding men accountable for essentially manipulating and using women. The only scenario where I think her message rings true is for the Barbara the Builders who like projects who don't have their shit together.

Outside of that, I think any man who uses women as placeholders is not HV, period. I've seen women who were the quintessential "full package" and still be used as a placeholder. See Justine Wilson (Elon Musk's first wife) and MacKenzie Scott (Jeff Bezo's first wife).

The bottom line being a lot of men are inherently selfish and those who are dysfunctional and damaged will always be looking for the next best thing regardless of how high your standards may be. I don't want young women falling into this trap then getting shell-shock when the other shoe drops. The key is finding a man who values himself and respects women enough not to play these kinds of games in the first place.

Title	Never let a man use you as a placeholder. Don’t “build” a man up. Keep your standards high.
Author	LevelUpWoman
Upvotes	684
Comments	21
Date	October 28, 2021 3:34 PM UTC (4 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/FemaleDatingStrategy
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