Praise!

UpbeatIncubator · 2020-05-22T15:32:13+00:00

I LOVE how this vibe is becoming more mainstream. No more toptoeing around LVM and NVM who can't take care of themslves properly and make it our job.

You do not need a relationship to be a fulfilled person. It is icing on the cake. Never ever forget that and never let NVM take away that freedom from you.

Unlikely-Marzipan · 2020-05-22T16:08:27+00:00

Where is the lie?!

If only I did this in my teens and 20s rather than thirsting after fuckboys or even wasting years on decent guys. It becomes engrained in your mind and a hard to change habit in your 30s, even though logically you know it brings you no satisfaction. Still working on just levelling up in life and keeping men on the side.

Otters-eating-tacos · 2020-05-22T16:20:34+00:00

I wasted my entire teenage years on shitty relationships with men. I wish I just enjoyed my youth, focused on school and joined clubs and whatnot. I honestly probably would have won scholarships and built healthier self esteem & more talent. Focusing on pleasing men before I was ready for a relationship skewed my entire direction of my life.

I'm just making up for my lost youth in my early twenties now and its even sweeter because I have a great career, my own apartment, I moved to another state. Although I wasted years of vital self development, its amazing dropping money on expensive hobbies and being old enough to get away for the weekend with my friends. I'm cutting off serious relationships until I'm done traveling & have a house.

mightbethrowawayyy · 2020-05-22T16:28:05+00:00

So true. I completely ignored dudes in my teenage and college years, and those were the most fulfilling years in my life. I learned so many things and traveled to so many places.

Ever since I started to date things have been going downhill

bigtoebigtoe · 2020-05-22T16:47:28+00:00

I have a lot of anxiety about teaching this to my daughter. What if she doesnt take me seriously? Shes only 1 now but i really worry about her future when it comes to men. I dont want to be authoritative and controlling. But i also dont want her to be like i was.

2020-05-22T16:46:55+00:00

Ain't this the truth. The part that kills me was how many men wasted my time on purpose. They were gleeful about it and got off on lying to me and other women.

WestAtmosphere · 2020-05-22T16:37:20+00:00

This x 10000000000

I wish I could had learnt this in high school.

Lattika · 2020-05-22T18:20:23+00:00

Also, absolutely avoid men who try and give you "constructive criticism". As in, "guys don't like X" or "you would look better if you just Y".

They will always say it's constructive criticism. Why are they giving constructive criticism to you as a person? You are a person, not a doctorate thesis. There is nothing constructive about it other than them projecting their fetishes onto their idealized version of you.

TERFSareawesome · 2020-05-22T18:34:10+00:00

100%. And the thing is even if you do get that male acceptance, you will realize so quickly how worthless it is. It adds nothing to your life- nothing. Think of all the sad playboy models who have floundered and had horrible lives. They got a whole lot of male approval and none of it translated to men actually supporting them, their careers, etc. It's just pointless.

bey124 · 2020-05-22T16:08:51+00:00

YES🙏 I hope this message reaches a lot of young women and helps them progress in life the way THEY see fit.

Denimiaa · 2020-05-22T18:35:54+00:00

Coming from a 62 year old, that is excellent advise that does require lots of self discipline. You are only made stronger for it though.

saydeesalt · 2020-05-22T18:45:22+00:00

The only man I want to pursue and make happy is my brother Jesus Christ 🙏

CyberJen · 2020-05-22T18:12:13+00:00

Some of the best advice tho

TriniGold · 2020-05-22T19:16:44+00:00

👏🏾

Title	Praise!
Author	Caedere01
Upvotes	857
Comments	22
Date	May 22, 2020 3:29 PM UTC (6 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/FemaleDatingStrategy
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