Reminder ✨

Vmchik · 2021-08-09T01:17:27+00:00

There’s still women who genuinely believe the paragraphs and theatrics are for “themselves”🥴 if it was for yourself and you didn’t care you would write it in your journal or notes app or yell in the shower. We’ve really let CoMmuNicaTe get too far. Men don’t respect words they respect action.

mashibeans · 2021-08-09T00:09:55+00:00

LOL, I have random scrotes sending me hateful DMs here in the regular too, if they think I'm reading all their whiny paragraphs, they will be sorely disappointed to know I never read their bullshit and just delete it.

What a pathetic and mediocre life to live that you go around lurking on women's spaces because you don't like the fact you can't just barge in and invade those ladies' spaces!

literal_salamander · 2021-08-09T00:11:34+00:00

The time, emotions, and brain cells I wasted in my PickMe days trying to get the men who hurt me to understand 🥴 just save it and ghost them. It may make you feel better RIGHT NOW THIS MOMENT to send it, but in another few minutes you're going to feel dumb asf when they don't give a shit

3lbsofjewelry · 2021-08-08T23:22:11+00:00

This is the goddamned truth man

FeministLovely · 2021-08-09T00:26:51+00:00

You wanna know why HVM rarely make apologies? Because they're not constantly hurting us, ergo they don't need to. If someone is apologizing to you more than actually interacting with you, cut your losses short and move on.

Let us be, in this regard, more like them. May our actions speak louder than our words ever could.

huevos_and_whiskey · 2021-08-09T11:39:59+00:00

I’ve gotten to the point where I only believe unsolicited apologies. If someone transgresses, I just keep my mouth shut and wait to see if they figure out on their own they shouldn’t have said or done whatever it was. If I have to drag it out of them it’s not a real apology.

Substantial_Pilot759 · 2021-08-09T02:42:10+00:00

Ugh. My greatest with is the next time a man walks I let him go and don’t do this shit again. FDS has been hugely helpful in reinforcing my backbone.

Barkingatthemoon · 2021-08-08T23:06:55+00:00

Block and delete ! Next !

artemis-code · 2021-08-09T19:51:35+00:00

Never waste any more time or energy on someone who hurt you. A man that hurt you in the first place doesn’t care at all what you write or how you feel. No matter how heartfelt. If anything, it seems to solidify their “reason” for hurting you in the first place.

Winter_Magician2594 · 2021-08-09T03:37:31+00:00

Excellent advice. I wish I had known this when I was younger.

Elegaunt · 2021-08-10T17:51:35+00:00

NEVER AGAIN. I will never again write another heartfelt plea to be treated like a human deserving of dignity and the bare minimum.

I used to care if someone thought of me as a good person or not. I now realize it doesn't matter. I don't care if they think I am terrible. Because they clearly don't care about me. There's nothing I can say to make them treat me with dignity or respect my needs.

Their values come into conflict with being a kind, decent partner. Can't change that, and it's not worth the effort to try. They are hopeless.

Fetia_ · 2021-08-09T08:25:17+00:00

Sending paragraphs is begging a man for an apology and an excuse so you can justify taking them back

If he’s guilty or had a reason he’d have messaged you with a paragraph

sonny9636 · 2021-08-09T05:51:36+00:00

All of this and more. I'm so sick of constant rehash. Enough already.

zombiesonlywanthugs · 2021-08-09T23:26:40+00:00

I'm always thankful for FDS for this point. When my ex LVM and I were in the midst of ending things,I didn't type out a paragraph saying 'Please stay with me' or 'Let's try to fix it'. Instead I deleted everything that had to with him, pictures, videos, chat conversations, blocked him on social media whilst that conversation was happening. It ended with me being in control, rather than me, bending over to accommodate him or lose any remaining self dignity. Even though it hurt to do that at the time, now, I look back at me, and I'm proud of myself.

feelgoodlost_ · 2021-08-09T15:35:01+00:00

They don’t care. They do it on purpose. They’ll just remember you if you cheated on them or told them they had a tiny dick. Men like this have no self respect, honor, and integrity. The trash took itself out.

Erlekoenig · 2021-08-09T09:23:07+00:00

This is heartbreakingly true..

2021-08-09T19:27:20+00:00

Silence is the best closure.

Title	Reminder ✨
Author	chewiebears
Upvotes	1320
Comments	26
Date	August 8, 2021 5:29 PM UTC (4 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/FemaleDatingStrategy
Original Link	https://old.reddit.com/r/FemaleDatingStrategy/comments/p0iwro/reminder/
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