Let's say Brendan asked you out, he plans something, no fixed date or time yet. Then the conversation carries on. No dates, nothing is really sealed in cement. You try to guess when it's gonna be, you wait after him to create some structure for the date. Yet nothing comes. The conversation carries on. Still no plan.

THAT'S RUDE and he's playing you around.

Brendan didn't have any kind of politeness of planning and curating the date, hes the kind to improvise on last minute. Not a good impression for the FIRST encounter.

The first few encounters are the occasions where he should be shining his best and he's choosing to be like that? Next tbh. Imagine if you were together like 1+ year later and that he's doing zero effort and like... Doesn't makes you excited about dates because he ain't planning any.

So you gotta be a "bitch". Next guys when they don't make plans, you aren't there for text letter correspondences or penships or whatever pigeon-carrying crap there is.

"But what should I do when most men are like this, what the hell I do??"

Keep in mind that most of the men you'll encounter will be crappy, will plan poorly, will cut corners, will try to break your basic boundaries, lack politeness. And that's MOST of men, so that's something to be expected but not to be tolerated.

Likely it isn't a YOU problem.

You deserve the basic respect, the basic attention, the planning etc. And that ain't asking for too much.

We gotta be "bitches" because we have to curate our own experience too. Like, we seek only to enjoy ourselves not lick a man's boot. And most men expect us to be ready and awaiting their call. No way this will fucking happen.

They're not the only ones, you're not desperate, you're judging their court jokester asses. You look at them and determine whether they're worth keeping a eye on. That's it.

There's other men and we gotta push that into their minds. Be unavailable. Say no. Say you have other plans. Say that you're at a party. Say that you're busy. Don't respond sometimes. Be a "bitch". They quickly learn that they have to step it up in order to be kept around and have your attention.

If you're giving every bit of attention they're asking you they will not work as hard for you and your attention. They can say "hey" and you come running at their lap like a Golden retriever. That's not really interesting either for them and you.