Stay Busy

BabyBlankieieieieie · 2020-12-23T09:16:19+00:00

I’ve had people say shit like “your career can’t make you coffee in the morning” never met a man who has even asked or tried to do that, in my roughly 15 years of dating, soo. Career can buy me a coffee machine I can set to make me coffee in the morning (and it has!)

chateauduchat · 2020-12-23T04:33:47+00:00

BIG FUCKIN ENERGY. My narc ex would literally shame me for being a workaholic even though I was driving two hours to and two hours back to come see HIS shitty ass AND go to school FULL TIME AND work a job and take care of my pets all while being abused by him. I thought I couldn’t do it. Turns out I can handle all of that stuff just fine, it was the abuse making me think I was having a breakdown from working too much.

Without him, I can handle SO much on my own. It’s so crazy how much I am capable of. My own teacher who I’m close with said to me, with his eyes watering, that in all his career he has only seen a handful of students who feel like the world is their oyster and I’m a part of that. I have several lines of businesses that I’m in line for as well as well as commissions and a part time job that’s just steady. All of it is purposeful and meaningful to me in its own way.

Men ain’t shit. This woman is wise. Stay busy, your time is VALUABLE and the only men that should have your time are those who are adding to your bank account plus interest, who are adding abundantly to you.

TheSuspiciousChard · 2020-12-23T05:51:05+00:00

Work ain’t negging you despite it’s balding head!

lil_monstera · 2020-12-23T11:39:43+00:00

LVM hate busy, driven and career-minded women because we are inherently more powerful than them

ASeaOfQuotes · 2020-12-23T05:42:46+00:00

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dancedance_83 · 2020-12-23T10:31:34+00:00

Actually, your job will leave and/or replace you with a quickness. Just wanted to point that out. Your purpose and goals won’t though🤷🏾‍♀️

Gambit12345 · 2020-12-23T05:13:00+00:00

She hit the nail on the head

BasieSkanks · 2020-12-23T08:47:52+00:00

Can confirm this works. I have four jobs and I’ll be starting my Masters next month. My tolerance for bullshit has gone done immensely, because being this busy has taught me to value my time ruthlessly. I have also been stacking cash like crazy - Covid, despite all its shittiness , has made it possible for me to quadruple my income and secure lucrative jobs that I wouldn’t have been able to do, because everything is online. I am a workaholic, but it definitely keeps me away from LVM and their BS.

asoww · 2020-12-23T14:36:24+00:00

I just dumped a guy who wasted my precious time. I'm busy with my PhD and this guy cancelled on me last minute after his basketball course because he was tired so he wanted to call instead like, what the f ? I could have studied instead, and the dude called me late while watching TV at the same time. The audacity is surreal. His excuse was... a basketball game. I'm so happy because pre-FDS I would have accepted his bs and found his excuse normal.

corago513 · 2020-12-23T15:58:36+00:00

I've had guys say, "so you can't ever take spontaneous road trips?" Oh you mean something last minute because you refused to make plans and everyone else in your life is busy. Yep, I'm too busy for that.

Or worse, they get turned off when I say I can go on the trip, but I have to take my school work with me and work on it for a few hours. Excuse me for having career goals that you can't handle. As a leader in my industry, my phone will be ringing around the clock the further I get promoted. If you can't handle me thriving, go ahead and meet someone that matches your ability to stay stagnant.

I guess I needed to get that off my chest, lol.

mikobaby · 2020-12-24T08:23:52+00:00

Honestly, I’m on the fence about this one. I see her point but everyone should learn to enjoy their own company without working themselves to death. You don’t have to consistently stay busy to “not be free for a man”, rather it should be “I love to spend time by myself and work on myself.” She seems angry. It should be that she learns to love herself and if an HVM happens to come along then it’s a bonus.

fatima_mdx · 2020-12-23T05:17:50+00:00

But what if your job and school are the cause of your mental breakdown? 😔

She’s absolutely right though!

TheSuspiciousChard · 2020-12-23T05:50:25+00:00

I disagree with the last sentence only. Men ain’t shit? Oh yes they are. Shit is exactly what they are it seems. The vast fucking majority, 💩

yesmme · 2020-12-24T01:29:51+00:00

I used to be so busy that I would fall asleep mid texting when I was talking to a guy I was seeing. No sweet goodnight texts from me.

marpu_el_magnifico · 2020-12-23T21:07:44+00:00

I so agree. Looking back my worst moments of entertaining LVMs were because i had too much time on my hands and was bored.

Title	Stay Busy
Author	Swoleunicorn
Upvotes	617
Comments	33
Date	December 23, 2020 4:27 AM UTC (5 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/FemaleDatingStrategy
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