Subtle but still gotta get called out

ashwheee · 2020-11-01T04:29:20+00:00

Idk how you can read dating_advice

Toxic-Deadly-Tacos · 2020-11-01T05:07:13+00:00

Men that don’t know how to ask for consent and keep up the sexy vibe have no game at that point.

Like why bother if their entire shtick is just aggressively pushing boundaries and make you feel shitty for saying no?

Missybanana · 2020-11-01T04:43:41+00:00

Asking for consent is hot. Some people call it pillow talk ❤️

FDSxMuffinVSrat · 2020-11-01T07:26:48+00:00

My first kiss, the boy asked if he could kiss me. That's still initiating. It was cute as hell and really special.

The only reason not to ask at any stage is because you're afraid of hearing no.

Revy_Ur_Engines · 2020-11-01T05:01:34+00:00

You can ask for consent in a sexy way. It puts the woman at ease too so they sex will be better

2020-11-01T11:21:39+00:00

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Pahapan · 2020-11-01T06:58:49+00:00

"It would not be fun to ask for consent before you touch a girl or kiss or take off her bra etc."

Fun for who? Because I think it can be incredibly romantic/hot for a man to ask for permission. There are definitely romantic/sexy ways to get consent. Anyone who claims otherwise is unimaginative and most assuredly bad in bed.

But, of course, the unspoken sentiment here is that it's no fun FOR MEN to ask for consent. Because they get off on pushing boundaries. These are men for whom rape porn was their bread and butter growing up. They don't want to get explicit consent because that actively turns them off. They don't give a single solitary shit that a disturbing number of women have been sexually assaulted/raped, and that we carry the emotional scars. All that matters to them is their penis and their sick proclivities.

If a man thinks it isn't "fun" to get consent he's not only narrowminded and myopic, he has the thought process of a rapist. He's even lower than a LVM and should be avoided at all costs.

Jenjofred · 2020-11-01T05:40:40+00:00

It's so easy to ask for consent and so hot! Just...wtf, it's not fun? It's not fun to...not rape?

Bluefoxcrush · 2020-11-01T06:15:53+00:00

Thanks for pushing back.

TerryTerrorCO · 2020-11-01T08:06:33+00:00

Funny, i don’t think he would enjoy it if a gay dude started hitting on him and kissed him and touched him sexually, what a moron. Seriously.

-badmadAM · 2020-11-01T11:49:17+00:00

Haha, I definitely know a lot of girls who cut boys off because the boys thought they should "lead the interaction" and/ or not listen to the girls individual needs how to further the sexual interaction and tried some "sexual escalation" shit way too early on.

How you can interact together on the same level and understand each other is important, and we need to check for that in dates and relationships, dudes who always think they have to "lead" or "dominate" anyone against their will are not fit for a healthy relationship that is truly fulfilling in the long run. (But it is what PUA/ standard male dating advice preaches a lot, because males love this shit so much, exploiting human weaknesses to their own advantage, dominance, manipulation, and feeling great about themselves because of that).

Also wtf, every women who isn't ready to be jumped on by the second date surely is going to "friend-zone" them? This dude is clearly not very bright and he might be a victim of some typical PUA mentality.

PUA gurus also use a lot of pseudoscience (or straight up wrong science) reasoning and do bullshit like interpreting everything a woman might do (flirting and tilting her head?) as a sign of "submission", this is used to make the males feel important and "in charge" and it might help them feel more self- confident and important. The joke is on them, because they need to put others beneath them to feel good or gain that self- confidence, which I think is one ultimate goal of PUA, and in reality this shows the weakness of the persons following this philosophy. They are the ones who ultimately get played.

sassylittlespoon · 2020-11-01T07:37:24+00:00

How funny! I came across this in the wild and commented. I should have known you were a fellow FDSer 🙂

thinktwiceorelse · 2020-11-01T08:57:23+00:00

Why these people think they can give advices?

marilynmonw0e · 2020-11-01T14:12:44+00:00

I said it before and I'll say it again: men are socially retarded. When men say they're 'autistic uwu', I say they're just fucking male.

There are a multitude of ways to ask for consent without using those actual words. This is social knowledge, understanding how to communicate an idea in an appropriate way for the setting/context. This also ties in with all those Reddit threads of men not being able to notice when a woman is interested in them despite her obvious signs. If a man cannot notice when a woman is interested, he's incapable socially, emotionally and mentally. And he's a danger to women because he ignores all signs of expressive nonverbal behaviour.

This is all because most males exhibit anti-social behavior so they never learnt how to be people. They may as well be slime.

lowfattitties · 2020-11-01T16:29:52+00:00

Someone get this girl an award

Title	Subtle but still gotta get called out
Author	Mellymel1030
Upvotes	491
Comments	40
Date	November 1, 2020 3:56 AM UTC (5 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/FemaleDatingStrategy
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