The lies

TheOGJammies · 2020-10-31T17:46:49+00:00

This articles title completely misrepresents the study: https://m.imgur.com/3aYxinp

More media manipulation to push porn propoganda.

sikedyke · 2020-10-31T05:43:07+00:00

I just don’t believe that having an orgasm means that you are having good sex. This is uncomfortable to talk about but with my ex that would often pressure me into having sex and even flat out assault me, I still remember having an orgasm once. It didn’t mean that I wanted it or enjoyed It.

I can believe that women who are forced into having more rough sex or tolerate rough sex because of pornography could potentially orgasm with less difficulty, but I don’t believe that it means it was not frightening or wrong. Sex is a lot more than just orgasming.

Sage_Planter · 2020-10-31T06:06:01+00:00

This has not been my experience. I stopped watching porn after finding FDS about six months ago. Not only does the sub have endless valuable points about how terrible porn and the industry it is, I had already been starting to worry about long term effects of even very light porn use. I briefly dated a porn addict years ago and knew how much it fucked our sex life. I did not want porn to end up hurting my sex life. Anyways, quitting porn has improved the quality and intensity of my orgasms.

jargon_explosion · 2020-10-31T06:22:38+00:00

The issue with pornography is not that it helps or doesn't help an orgasm though. It certainly does seem to help people reach orgasm. And then reach orgasm more quickly. And then they can only do it a certain way, or with porn, become desensitized, need more extreme acts, etc.

An orgasm isn't the be all, end all, of a fulfilling sex life. Or fulfilling life in general. While pornography is a detriment to your overall wellbeing.

Ok_Ad_67 · 2020-10-31T08:30:34+00:00

I actually stopped watching porn a while ago. I still masturbate tho, I just use my imagination. And I’m not supporting an exploitative industry.

Aside from that porn taught me masturbating was just a race to orgasm. It wasn’t actually satisfying. And there are a whole lot of other problematic things that come along with it.

It’s like most women aren’t taught how to actually get in touch with their sexuality. Instead we get this shallow surface level stuff. I still can’t really wrap my head around sensuality and intimacy. I try to. I need to get back in touch with it and actually enjoy the process.

OpenCelebration3 · 2020-10-31T05:40:14+00:00

I’m sure a guy posted this too 🙄

macervibin · 2020-10-31T05:29:37+00:00

As a former pickme who used to use porn quite regularly, this is sooooooo fucking false!!! I learned so quick that me having an orgasm was based on my sexual partner's skill, attentiveness, and consideration,NOT porn!

Gambit12345 · 2020-10-31T14:27:39+00:00

When I was in high school and a virgin I’d watch porn to see sex looked like from the outside perspective. Like I knew where my vagina was just not how the parts went together. I had a crazy high libido in college and occasionally would seek out porn BUT it always felt futile because like all the content is disgusting. Idk how many times it’s always a fat, old out of shape man ramming into a woman who’s usually always better looking. I was so grossed out. I wanted to see real sex like emotional and intimate and porn was just not it. Porn didn’t make me more comfortable with my body. I was always pretty secure in my sexuality. Porn just grossed me out

FabledAngryVillager · 2020-10-31T06:29:11+00:00

"And then everyone clapped"

asteria2002 · 2020-10-31T09:25:55+00:00

Ugh orgasms with porn feels so disgusting and wrong after wards, like I always go this guy feeling and it made me want to throw up. This is a male fan fiction that women orgasms easier when they watch porn, and bet they are thinking that the women are watching lesbian porn or hardcore sex. This is their attempt to make porn sound very good. After knowing that all women in porn didn't enjoy it at all just made me feel so bad. I wish all women knew this, no women would ever orgasm with porn ever again. Oh and fantasy and reality are soo different, when women fantasy about hardcore sex they think it feels good bit little do they know that it would hurt only, but all the lies in porn and books and movies make it seem like it is enjoyable which makes women feel like they are weird for not enjoying to be tortured.

Kimpractical · 2020-10-31T14:51:06+00:00

I used to watch porn and all it did was make me depressed and ashamed

Mysterious_Midnight7 · 2020-10-31T14:09:43+00:00

This study funded by Acme Porn Company says porn is good for you!

2020-11-01T01:17:30+00:00

Men are idiots. They cannot understand anything. I could say anything and they would use that to prove an idiotic point. Watching porn is an issue for men and women. Just like with men, it might increase sexual addiction and level of arousal. That does not mean it is a good thing. Doing opioids increases relaxation and feel good brain chemicals. It does not mean heroin is a good idea.

2020-10-31T10:43:49+00:00

This isn't true I assume for many women. I have had far better orgasms once I stopped watching porn.

Urod588 · 2020-10-31T14:39:30+00:00

Pornographic material can also be a part of erotic literature so 🤷‍♀️

Unless they specifically wrote about video pornography.

LunarCannons · 2020-10-31T13:47:25+00:00

“Less difficulty becoming aroused. Less orgasmic difficulty. Greater time to orgasm. “

I’m assuming a man wrote this... The opposite of that list would be : difficulty becoming aroused, difficulty achieving orgasm, and zero stroke game. Those are all problems of the porn sick who are somewhat aware their sexual outcomes are poor.

I’ve never heard a woman complain about orgasming too quickly while pleasuring herself. (*With the acceptation of a few who have medical sensitivity problems and orgasm uncontrollably during everyday non sexual activists.) That sounds like boon to me; more time for multiple , if we want. 🤷‍♀️ Its not a performance, its taking a moment to be present in our own bodies. Sometimes the journey is better than the destination anyways.

If there is any kernel of truth in that post it is that women who watch porn are more likely to fake orgasms with a partner, or selflessly indulge male fantasy. 🙄

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Title	The lies
Author	19Bubbles98
Upvotes	188
Comments	31
Date	October 31, 2020 5:25 AM UTC (5 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/FemaleDatingStrategy
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