The WAP problem

Pahapan · 2020-09-02T01:43:31+00:00

I used to think like them. It's because I started watching porn from a young age and I didn't want to think about the impact it had on my psyche, didn't want to think about all the abuse that'd been inflicted on me under the guise of "kink", didn't want to think about the fact that, despite all my promising up and down that I loved having sex like that, I'd never orgasmed once with a man and I'd never felt loved. The total denial is a defense mechanism.

Women need to realize that they weren't raised in a void. You need to question everything. Supposedly loving being choked didn't come to you naturally, it was taught to you. When you first learned about sex (if it wasn't from porn) you didn't imagine your future dream husband treating you roughly.

SansaDeservedBetter · 2020-09-02T01:49:12+00:00

WAP isn’t empowering at all. It’s more libfem bullshit that’s pandering to the male gaze under the guise of “female empowerment”. Yes, it’s great that women normalize their enjoyment of sex but this is all pandering to men and their violent sexual desires.

goldiebaby · 2020-09-02T01:51:04+00:00

From 2005-2015 ish, anal sex was THE thing for a lot of guys. Like 90% of guys would try to ask for anal right off the bat. Even during my mild pickme days, that was a dealbreaker. I was venting to my girlfriends about this and I was shamed for not wanting anal. Apparently it was "totally ok and normal" and sexually liberated women would be up for it. Refusing a painful sex act was prudish. Well those same women are now all about rough sex. Some women will never learn. They are willing to ensure pain, humiliation and danger just to please some idiot.

LevelTurbulent · 2020-09-02T01:38:43+00:00

I find it disgusting. I am a kink shamer and proud of it. As far as I'm concerned if I'm in a position to even know about someone's kink and judge it, they've already been disgusting and inappropriate. I don't want to hear that crap.

jenaemare · 2020-09-02T03:24:31+00:00

Too many women confuse "owning their sexuality" with "being sexually appealing to men". They aren't synonymous.

Many of us probably aren't even acquainted with our authentic sexuality because we've poured all our energy into being perceived as desirable instead.

Try to imagine your sexuality divorced from the compulsion to sexually perform for male pleasure and approval. What does that even look like? How would it feel? Most of us don't know, can't know, without decolonizing our minds.

Mysterious_Midnight7 · 2020-09-02T00:48:50+00:00

I mean honestly, some things should be shamed, end of story. Too bad if that upsets people. Imagine telling someone they have sexual hang ups when you like to be choked and spit on. I'd laugh in their face. Keep speaking the truth, Queen!

VikingPug · 2020-09-02T01:58:20+00:00

I used to be one of those women. I even did burlesque. You simply cannot change their minds. They have to see it for themselves.

But so you know I agree with you. I don’t find anything empowering about WAP. But it’s a song meant to make them $$..that’s why the lyrics are what they are. Attention=$$

creamtart_ · 2020-09-02T00:54:28+00:00

The patriarchy has conditioned them well. Another instance of women blindly defending toxic male imposed beliefs while simultaneously fucking themselves over. They are the fuck and discard type of women that LVM/NVM love so much because they have zero self-respect and feel validated when treated like a cum-dumpster.

Don’t waste your time in those groups. Talk to people with an ability to appreciate nuanced discourse. Arguing with a libfem is bad for your health, avoiding them is self-care.

iggypooop · 2020-09-02T01:04:00+00:00

Everyone is free to like rough sex but the problem is that blurred lines in sexuality only benefit dangerous sickos. They'd break your jaw and call it sex. They'd rape tou and tell you sorry I'm rough like that. And if it's normalized, good luck proving to the police that you were not consenting.

naturopathicfantasti · 2020-09-02T05:41:13+00:00

Well this’ll be long. I completely agree with every single thing you said. I know it’s been beat to death, but there’s so much to unpack and I’m glad you brought up this aspect of the song. Number one being the performance aspect.

Wet Ass Pussy... being something a woman just has going on out of nowhere. That’s what bothers me. A man being lucky enough to enjoy a WAP without having to make a woman wet. Without having to do any of the things that make a woman wet.

The lyrics in this song are porn Addict fodder. They add to the extremely dangerous idea that most men have, that pussies should be wet and fuck ready because of the presence of a penis. I mean... they just have a wet ass pussy, RIGHT! Did they say literally anything a man would need to do in order for it to get that way? Hell to tha no!

I love sex and kinky sex and weird shit, but my excitement for doing these things depends completely upon the mans contribution in, and most importantly outside the bedroom.

Why is this dangerous? Emotionally and physically for girls and women?

Well, I’m 35 and the availability of info available for me at 14 when I began having sex was movie scenes. I’m sure many of you remember. Porn was still DVD style. What happened in those movies? Kiss 1.5 seconds, dick in, woman orgasms in under a minute because of of PIV only, done, omg scrote you changed my life with your penis, that was love.

So many of us had sex with these boys who who watched porn DVD’s and let them hurt us. We didn’t know there wasn’t something wrong with us for not enjoying it. No one told us and no one told them that wasn’t the way to have enjoyable sex. I for one thought something was wrong with me.

There were years where I’d get defensively wet. I was thankful to the gods that I’d finally been cured. Every time I got wet I’d be so happy it wasn’t going to hurt (still very young). I didn’t have the knowledge, confidence or vocabulary to express to a man that he had to do things in life and to my body to make that happen.

In short, even before rampant porn and songs like WAP, I was fucked up over the fact that I didn’t have a wet ass pussy. My 14 yr old ass screamed and moaned and said I came with wee porn addict boys because obviously that’s what every other women did and I was defective.

This is damaging because of the performance expectations it puts on women. If simply movies trained me to think wet is just something I should be rather than a response to someone else, what the hell are young women thinking now? Even more than that, what are the men thinking?

darkhorse8419 · 2020-09-02T15:02:28+00:00

Yep. Liberal feminism has spread the lie that a man can respect you, while simultaneously treating you like trash in the bedroom. An updated form of the PickMe. Maybe if I let him choke, slap, and tie me up. I’ll be more desirable, and he won’t cheat. Women think that if they act like the porn stars their men are used to seeing 24/7. It will keep his interest.

GrapeJuiceEnthusiast · 2020-09-02T14:42:20+00:00

Idk I definitely don't like the way pick mes have reacted to the song. Any woman criticising it gets "owned" with the comeback that she must have a "dry ass pussy". I can't really put into words why that bothers me but it does. So not being sexually aroused 24/7 makes a woman lesser?

Title	The WAP problem
Author	nr2596
Upvotes	91
Comments	26
Date	September 1, 2020 3:15 PM UTC (5 years ago)
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