where do you actually FIND hvm?

virginiadancer · 2020-10-19T18:20:49+00:00

Concentrate on YOU: your career, your studies, your hobbies, invest time in self care and your HVW friends and family. As a HVW, you'll attract everyone from negative to high value, and thats what the FDS handbook is for!

JesusisKingisLord · 2020-10-19T18:34:46+00:00

If you have HV friends, that's the safest bet. From their friend circles because the chance that they are high value as well, is higher. HV people have HV friends. That's how I met mine.

CountingDownTheDays5 · 2020-10-19T19:19:06+00:00

HVM are everywhere. Literally everywhere. My BF, a HVM is from hinge. But I only found him after I sat down with myself, and figured out what I needed in a partner (not just wanted). This included my physical, sexual, mental, emotional, financial preference. But I couldn't come to this conclusion until I was mentally, emotionally, financially stable. Work on yourself before ever seeking a relationship. For me I got HVM even in my worse state, however I couldn't handle it. Only now after becoming the best me I can be did I come across a HVM that I can handle because I am in the right place with myself.

warinmymind94 · 2020-10-19T21:35:16+00:00

I would steer clear of dating apps and try to do you and build your career. Be confident, take care of yourself, and keep tabs on the handbook and advice here! Have high value friends with similar mindsets and goals. Go to the events you like and the activities you enjoy you may meet him there. I personally find that bars and clubs are breeding grounds for LVMs to prey on women. Theres an off chance hes going for a coworkers birthday but generally speaking I don't see HVMs at bars hanging out often. Its also good to hangout with coworkers if invited to a public place. They may have hv friends. My stepdad actually knows a lot of people in my hometown with sons around my age I noticed when id go out or to family events hed always bump into people and introduce everyone. My hometown is a cesspool of potheads and divorecees with kids and I'm not looking for that but family can have connections. If your friends don't ask then ask them to go to that run or wine tasting or whatever.

FDSxMuffinVSrat · 2020-10-19T19:37:11+00:00

This is one of those questions that's like "What are the winning lottery numbers?"

If there were a definite answer, everyone would already know because it's a question every.woman would want answered.

I don't think there's a place. Not in church, not in school, not on golf clubs or bars or apps or parks.

There's no one place where the good men go.

My strategy instead is to find where attractive men go. That includes sporting activities and running events for me. At least I know they're attractive and do fun things. Those aren't necessarily HVM qualities, but they're qualities I wouldn't want a guy to be without.

sashimi_girl · 2020-10-19T21:16:28+00:00

You won’t really find them at your age. Men that are twenty are working on their careers and getting financially independent.

I wish someone told me that when I was 20. Never settle! Take no shit from men.

throwaway23004345 · 2020-10-19T21:55:00+00:00

Tbh there aren’t many HVM out there. And even then there isn’t a special place where they all hang out. ESP at 20 with the hookup culture. I’m almost 28 and haven’t been able to find anyone period

sassyheather · 2020-10-19T21:24:05+00:00

Biggest irony: my LVM ex introduced me to my current HVM boyfriend. Ex was crying in his room and texting my boyfriend asking if we're "banging" 😂😂😂

aemilli · 2020-10-20T05:07:19+00:00

I've been bettering my social network. Investing in better friends. Friends that are in good relationships -- the type of relationships that I want to have. Eventually, you'll meet some HVM in their network that are single.

2020-10-21T15:11:36+00:00

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posprov · 2020-10-20T21:36:29+00:00

You don't necessarily FIND them because you're not SEARCHING for them

Title	where do you actually FIND hvm?
Author	thefreedomwriter
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Date	October 19, 2020 1:40 AM UTC (5 years ago)
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