Just wanted to give something back to this subreddit that helped me so much and also provide some honest criticism. I only ever lurked in the past and contributed nothing and feel the need to give something back. I rarely come here anymore simply because this stuff works and I've gotten the results I was after. I mean the whole purpose of this is a sexual strategy for men, so once your getting the sex your after, job done. The odd check in to avoid complacency still helps.

I read the sidebar books 2 or 3 years ago and the books work plain and simple. Also I read Jordan Petersons 12 rules of life which wasn't on the sidebar back then and someone on here recommend a book on stocism called ' A guide to the good life'. I am now in shape and in control of my finances and have sex 2-3 times per week (for me at 35 this is what I want) with a wife who now respects me.

Previously I was on the once a week sometimes once a fortnight plan. Which honestly was all I deserved. I tried negotiating sex with chores, told her it was her duty, tried being nice (lying) in general, bought her expensive gifts, told her how much I loved here. I had become isolated from male friends over time, had issues with alcoholism and had become more and more "beta" over time.

I have a tendancy to take things very literally and went a bit "red pill rambo" at the start and really upset my wife. The main changes I had to make were being less of a nice guy, more alpha, better physique and more of a leader of the ship. Taking full control of the finances was a big one.

Getting in shape is a game changer. My previous skinny self had no idea truly how much women like men with big muscles. Combined with confidence it has made me more 'alpha' because of the way other women and men treat me in front of her. It naturally causes 'dread' and gives you more power in the relationship.

So there you have it I implemented the sidebar reading and now have a happy marriage that I never plan on leaving.

My only advice would be to take some of the forum posts (maybe even this one) with a grain of salt. There are a lot of men who have had a bad experience with women and marriage on here and I wouldn't let them taint your view of women or marriage.

The one MRP thing I'm glad I did not implement. Learning how to pick up women and getting phone numbers but not sleeping with them. The principal makes sense and it may be right for some, you should be able to pick up a women at a bar. For me this would just be too dishonest and I would not want to put myself to the test of turning down potential sex like this. If you get in shape and increase your SMV and you know that women are interested you might not need to take it to the next level. I dabbled with the flirting with women in front of my wife, but I could see how painful this was for her. This step may not be necessary for some, my wife knows younger women find me attractive so why cause unnecessary suffering. The more you naturally increase your SMV through fitness, confidence, career wise you don't need to play these games. Now i'm definitely not super successful or have a really high SMV but its higher than hers and does the job.

Edit: I did post to MRP once before on this account 255 days ago I recommend r/stopdrinking to a guy struggling with the booze

Edit: Someone mentioned a new comer might read this and think cool I don't have to do dread. Dread is essential. I piled the dread on it was Rambo 3 at the start and I was angry Stallone. I did everything that was mentioned here and only stopped when it nearly brought her to tears.

For context at this point in time wife is a stay at home mum. She has 2 kids and wants a third we have been married 7 years shes 32 and wasted all her best years on me. Dependent completely on me financially. I then suddenly stop drinking beer and loose the bear gut. I go to the gym 5 times a week and get abs and gain some arm muscles, to amp it up I even shower at the gym to increase paranoia. She knows this gym and knows there are loads of women there. I'm also wearing a totally new wardrobe and sporting a different hairstyle. I've also completely changed my behavior based on MRP reading. I'm trying to hard to be alpha and there is zero beta as I'm overcompensating. I'm walking out the house during arguments. I'm demanding sex constantly and only treat her well when she puts out. It was hard on both of us and I could have ruined the marriage if I'd gone any further. It worked though.