In 2019, I was deep in a long term affair with another (married) woman as a source of instant gratification and external validation I wasn’t getting at home. This affair was regular and consistent for 2.5 years but I’ve always made it clear to the other woman that I would not leave my family and neither should she.

I found MRP before it all came crashing down. I read through the sidebar, lurked around, and collected knowledge but never applied anything until my affair was discovered.

I knew, my marriage was over the day I was caught. It was done. I said fuck it… when my wife wanted to know the details of my affair; like how long, where did it all happen, what all did I do, etc. I told her everything. Full disclosure. I told on myself with my body squared, chest out, head high. No fear. No fucks! There’s nothing to save.

It was my first display of frame, outcome independence, and pre-selection. It also felt good to release that deep dark secret. I’ll never forget her response to me…

“I don’t know why, but I just want to fuck you so bad right now.”

It caught me off guard. I wasn’t sure if I heard what was said correctly, but yeah… so we fucked… and agreed to work on our marriage the day after my affair was discovered.

“I don’t know why, but I just wanna fuck you right now.”

is arguably the opposite of

“I love you but I’m not in love with you.”

It validated many MRP basics like:

•Frame is everything. •Women would rather share a high value Man than be saddled with a faithful loser. •Pre-Selection works. •Dread Game works. •Not DEERing works. •Outcome Independence works. •Displaying high value works.

Women (AWALT) who stay after an affair demand you give up your balls to them as an ultimatum. Dudes who get caught in their affair offer up their balls as a bargaining tool to save the marriage. They agree to live miserable lives under the critical spotlight of their wife’s ultimatums, which is a horrible way to live as a married masculine man.

If you’re gonna revive your marriage from such a disastrous (<—understatement) event, you must do it without handing over your balls and refraining from doubling down on becoming a submissive beta husband in exchange for the survival of the marriage. You either “alpha” through your recovery by setting your boundaries and working on yourself or you get the fuck out.

As for me, my accumulated personal growth had the collateral result of my wife defaulting right into the role I wanted her to be in, without even telling her to. That’s because I left no voids for her to fill other than for her to be a youthful and light hearted woman. She became service oriented toward me. Respectful. Always available for sex and stays fit. Since then, I’ve gotten to know her again. The lovely feminine woman she’s become is actually really enjoyable.

My affair used to be a huge hawk hovering around my marriage. These days, it’s merely a little fly that buzzes every blue moon. A non-issue. I revived my marriage through MRP, OYS, and not surrendering my balls.

If you get anything out of this other than trying not to have an affair. I hope you don’t surrender you balls over something as stupid as getting caught doing something waaaayyy more forgivable than what I’ve done.