What do YOU want to do?

il-est-ressuscite · 2016-05-20T00:52:35+00:00

I read the whole post. It's inspirational as always, but hostility seems new. I think there are many things on the list of reasons why you should not be allowed to have a child. Sigh. The divine right to procreate. The government will even help people out with that. It's a problem.

I hope you don't give up on this brand when you go back into the military. It has real potential.

(You are the Family Alpha but in the narrative you should not refer to yourself in the 3rd person. That's weird.)

fuzzyface1980 · 2016-05-20T11:33:02+00:00

MarriedRedPill clearly seems to get husbands to be self-aware, fix their shit and get what they want out of life; partially by getting the wife to follow her husband in a constructive way.

Feminism tends to create dominant, controlling wife over husband and MRP tends to create dominant, controlling husband over wife. RP men should go from beta to alpha.

So to your post, TFA is about being a good man and good father…wife very absent of conversation. In my mind, if I was pro-marriage, a wife must be of equal quality to her husband. Is yours?

Because your last line in the article is to lead others to that same place. And I’m a fan of mentorship. Or do you just mean mentorship of other men?

irateMD · 2016-05-20T00:17:59+00:00

This is a departure from your usual approach of extreme ownership. I don't get how the dad bod is supposed to be part of the "feminine imperative." Women want to be with attractive partners. The dad bod is purely the fault of those men who are too mentally weak to eat right and exercise.

RPAlternate42 · 2016-05-20T20:06:51+00:00

Your body tells me everything about you. It tells me you place your comfort over all else.

I came to this realization years ago. Their value on "comfort" also displays how complacent they are in their relationships... especially when it's clear the wife has let herself go.

Misidiotaicy · 2016-05-20T00:03:42+00:00

Great post as always !

Ever tough about an audio version of your posts? I think that in combination with the text it would bring a greater impact.
I'd pay for that and I'm sure other would too.

Griever114 · 2016-05-20T14:57:39+00:00

I love this part the most:

Once you know what you want and who you truly are, you can then lead those around you to support that type of lifestyle. Don’t fake it, you need to be authentic here. If you like to knit – fucking knit your ass off (and send me socks). It doesn’t matter what it is you want to do, all that matters is that it comes from a raw, true, authentic place in your heart.

While I think some guys are coming from a "fake it till you make it place" (going from beta blue pill to alpha fucks), there have to be some 'truisms that fit you. If you enjoy a sport -> play it like a fucking boss. If you want to be a florist-> be the BEST FUCKING FLORIST EVER, if you want to run a box factory -> pack your shit up and get cracking.

Developing on this will help that person enable those feelings EVERYWHERE in their life.

Scurvemuch · 2016-05-20T12:23:49+00:00

I feel if you are a fat piece of shit you should not be allowed to have a child and if you do then you should be placed on a mandatory training program where you check in with your Dr/Nutritionist weekly until you are at an acceptable level of health. I have seen more ‘DadBods’ recently than I care to admit. Your body tells me everything about you. It tells me you place your comfort over all else. It shows me that you do not deserve sex from your wife and you are complacently accepting of that.

Way to alienate your target audience.

Do you seriously think you know "everything" about a man from his body?

If you want your writing to be a circle jerk of already fit family guys.. go for that. Otherwise, consider your target audience now and in the future.

Also... " I feel"... weak... There was a post a while back, I think by IrateMd about feminine language. Re Read that.

alphabeta49 · 2016-05-20T16:05:26+00:00

e: a few words.

e2: wow, a downvote already? you guys are ridiculous

I hear you on the fat-dad-hate. Can't stand it. I loathe the fact that I'm still about 8%bf away from where I want to be. And it makes me cringe whenever I see an otherwise great guy huffing and puffing to keep up with life. So much wasted potential.

I'm currently in the "purpose/leadership" phase. Got my basic shit nailed down, marriage is humming along. But what am I doing with my life? Why does it all matter? Good words you wrote there.

Here's the only place your reasoning fell apart:

The Family Alpha is not a part of the ‘Red Pill’ brand. I follow the Red Pill and support The Red Pill – but I am not an ambassador of The Red Pill because I am not an ambassador of anything except embraced masculinity. The Red Pill is focused exclusively on sexual strategy which is but a small part of the nature of masculine men.

You're a fucking MRP mod, for Christ's sake. Like it or not, you ARE a part of the red pill brand. You ARE a RP ambassador simply because you have that title. And your blog DOES link to The Red Pill because you center your entire vocabulary around it. Every new guy who stumbles in here will look at your username, see that you're a mod, and assume - rightly - that you represent a perspective that is endorsed by the red pill. Even little ol' ECs like myself have a certain responsibility to hold true to the core RP ideas. Differing opinion is of course welcomed ("do what you want to do as a man" is great advice), but saying something as controversial as "I would get married again" is not something I would ever condone, especially from a RP mod. I was one of the ones who downvoted that post of yours, not because I think you're wrong for believing that, but because mods shouldn't be suggesting things that corrupt the message of TRP/MRP. I'm thinking specifically about the new guys now. Again, you do you. I'm not judging you for holding that belief. Hell, IF I were to get married again (I wouldn't), it would probably be to my current wife, because she's pretty awesome. But making a post that essentially says an MRP MOD WOULD GET MARRIED AGAIN BECAUSE HE'S A REAL MAN is dangerous.

You're not 100% "Red Pill", and that's fine. But this is The Red Pill. Don't put non-RP ideas on RP. Its simple.

Don't like that? Ditch your ego and don't be a mod.

Adderallabuse · 2016-05-20T00:45:23+00:00

TRP does not say monogamy is a bad idea. Its a viable sexual strategy for some.

The reason you were highlighted in TRPs distancing from MRP is that you celebrate legal marriage as a viable option for men despite its obvious drawbacks. You are under the illusion that one can man up and beat the awful odds.

I agree ones odds improve if he isn't a pushover with size 40 boxers.

Still, recommending a game of Russian Roulette is bad advice for men and is inconsistent with TRPs purpose.

As you say, you have other goals and purposes. I just wanted to clear the air about monogamy as your post has it wrong. Some men are monogamous, some aren't. What matters is the man achieving his goals. Not the man fulfilling a woman's imperative as without marriage she is a dumpster fire that I wouldn't piss on after 12 beers.

Your pro marriage stance conflicts with this core mission of TRP.

UEMcGill · 2016-05-20T16:48:39+00:00

This post is cross-posted to the Bluepill so voting maybe skewed. The truth however is still evident.

GargantuaBlarg29 · 2016-05-20T11:57:41+00:00

I read it and something wasnt sitting right with me. I reread it and I'd say a good chunk of it is "I think" or "This is me and the way I am". More to the point i think il-est-ressuscite commented on your use of pronouns (w.r.t. TFA) but i took another look with this in mind, and thought back to other writings like Pook and The Way of the Superior Man and came to the conclusion that when you (or any writer) makes a statement using third person (If a man wants to get married – go for it.) it seems stronger, like you are setting up the idea in their mind and it is agreeable as an impartial third body. A reader pictures a sea of manly men out there who get it and they aspire to be like them. They feel like if they take this advice, that somehow it was their idea because they chose to embark on this path.

When you make a statement using second person (Your body tells me everything about you) still makes an impact, but I think there are more barriers to acceptance, especially if you're talking to someone you have not convinced of your point yet, and especially more if the point you're trying to make is negative towards them (sure they need to man up and accept criticism, but this is coming more from the stance of getting your point through). A reader just sees the two of you talking, and has to push past his insecurities to start on the right path. It feels like the idea was yours and not his.

When you make a statement using first person (I do not recommend marriage as most guys are too weak and stupid to make it work) then not only does it seem weak because you are feeling the need to express what can be described as 'just your opinion', but it paints you as trying to justify yourself, rather than speaking from a position of power and wisdom. Moreso, the reader can distance himself by saying "well he's not talking to/about me, i dont have to listen to this." and you may think "your loss", but again im coming purely from a position of is this writing effective and did I feel moved by it.

Take these three sentences. Which moves you the most and which makes you think "eh":

1: A family alpha reads, thinks, lifts, and runs his ass off daily.

2: You need to read, think, lift, and run your ass off daily.

3: I think men should read, think, lift, and run their ass off daily.

Title	What do YOU want to do?
Author	TheFamilyAlpha
Upvotes	21
Comments	204
Date	May 19, 2016 11:42 PM UTC (10 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/MarriedRedPill
Original Link	https://old.reddit.com/r/marriedredpill/comments/4k5fxe/what_do_you_want_to_do/
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