I believe wife was building a silver bullet case against me and I caught her while she was plotting. She was secretly talking with a domestic abuse councilor and communicating with her friends via voice and chat that I was an abuser. Her behavior came increasingly more secretive. She tried to turn my sister against me by telling her I grabbed her arm during an argument, which my sister told her that was not true. I asked to see her cell phone and she would not give it to me. She said I was controlling and she was leaving with the 3 kids. I called the police to report a kidnapping, which when they arrived she told them I was a narcissist and gaslighter. The police asked me to spend the night at my mom's, which I did because I didn't want to displace my kids for the evening. When I arrived back home the next day, my wife had taken herself and my kids to a women's abuse shelter. After two days she met with me and she said that she would come back as long as I get help for my controlling behavior. It was all pretty stressful. We are seeing a marriage councilor but I don't trust her and I am keeping a lot of notes. Any tips?