Edit: I suppose I need to explain more clearly. This is not a "women are special fairies that men must praise and give special standards to because women" comment. This is a this is the current reality of the world, and we would do better to let men know this (the lack of self-agency in women out there, therefore resulting in a rape accusation even if they do say "yes"). Yes, it's dumb that it happens. But if you want to protect yourself from a rape accusation, if she's saying "yes", but the body language and tone says "no", then don't proceed, in order to protect yourself from an accusation.
I want to add another dimension to this:
I think a core issue is that society teaches women they have no self-agency. So because of that, even though she might agree to the intercourse, she genuinely feels raped because society has told her since day 1 she has no self-agency to make her own choices and in effect, conditions her to cave to and act like she is into another person's desires. Or the lack of self-agency teaches her to be overly sensitive to the point that she thinks anything sounds like pressure to have sex, when it's not actually someone trying to pressure her, therefore saying 'yes', but genuinely still feeling raped.
Society needs to teach self-agency to women, so she actually says what she wants, and we don't end up in situations where she says "yes" but ends up truly feeling she was raped.
On the other hand, we need to teach men to understand this. Because the way the world should be (people speaking thier mind), is different form what it is (explained above). So to avoid this situation, it's useful to teach men there are women that are this way, so scan the body language and tone, and based on that don't continue intercourse even though she said "yes", to avoid any sort of bad situations/court where from one side says it is rape, while the other side says "I don't get it, she said yes."
yeah. and you're going to have a good time screaming that in court when you go to jail for it.
yeah it'd be dumb to be accused and put to jail if she said yes. but that's the reality of the situation of what happens in the world unfortunately.
we can separate this into two things:
take the right action to avoid rape accusations for your own benefit by understanding the world as it is (Even if she says yes, it's advisable to not continue if her body language says no, so that you avoid rape accusations)
take action now for the long term change you want to see - to change the world to what it should be, which is your yes is a yes, and your no is a no
for the time being, i'm going to use my brain to avoid rape accusations even if the ones that come up would be bs.
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Still, it happend to male and to female. Making this a gender thing is a bad thing anbd is harmfull for both men right and women rights.
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Edit: I suppose I need to explain more clearly. This is not a "women are special fairies that men must praise and give special standards to because women" comment. This is a this is the current reality of the world, and we would do better to let men know this (the lack of self-agency in women out there, therefore resulting in a rape accusation even if they do say "yes"). Yes, it's dumb that it happens. But if you want to protect yourself from a rape accusation, if she's saying "yes", but the body language and tone says "no", then don't proceed, in order to protect yourself from an accusation.
I want to add another dimension to this:
I think a core issue is that society teaches women they have no self-agency. So because of that, even though she might agree to the intercourse, she genuinely feels raped because society has told her since day 1 she has no self-agency to make her own choices and in effect, conditions her to cave to and act like she is into another person's desires. Or the lack of self-agency teaches her to be overly sensitive to the point that she thinks anything sounds like pressure to have sex, when it's not actually someone trying to pressure her, therefore saying 'yes', but genuinely still feeling raped.
Society needs to teach self-agency to women, so she actually says what she wants, and we don't end up in situations where she says "yes" but ends up truly feeling she was raped.
On the other hand, we need to teach men to understand this. Because the way the world should be (people speaking thier mind), is different form what it is (explained above). So to avoid this situation, it's useful to teach men there are women that are this way, so scan the body language and tone, and based on that don't continue intercourse even though she said "yes", to avoid any sort of bad situations/court where from one side says it is rape, while the other side says "I don't get it, she said yes."
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yeah. and you're going to have a good time screaming that in court when you go to jail for it.
yeah it'd be dumb to be accused and put to jail if she said yes. but that's the reality of the situation of what happens in the world unfortunately.
we can separate this into two things:
for the time being, i'm going to use my brain to avoid rape accusations even if the ones that come up would be bs.
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