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[–]Ultramegasaurus 165 points166 points167 points 11 years ago (18 children) | Copy Link
Grew some balls, defended myself, landed in jail and am considered a monster. Any other tips?
[–]amb1978 33 points34 points35 points 11 years ago (10 children) | Copy Link
Very similar here. As a man, you cannot win in a situation here. You apparently get made fun of if you just take it, but if you do something about it, you are instantly wrong and in serious legal trouble.
[+][deleted] -14 points-13 points-12 points 11 years ago (9 children) | Copy Link
Going to authorities/breaking up with them isn't instantly wrong and doesn't land you in serious legal trouble.
[–]Stephen1985 14 points15 points16 points 11 years ago (8 children) | Copy Link
Ah i must remember to tell any female victim that they should just leave, why didn't i think of that.
[–][deleted] -2 points-1 points0 points 11 years ago (7 children) | Copy Link
Except walking away as a female victim of domestic abuse is a perfectly viable option, just like for men.
[–]Stephen1985 3 points4 points5 points 11 years ago (6 children) | Copy Link
It's viable but if there is one thing we know about dv it's that walking away is never as easy as it sounds. Often the victim can feel trapped in the relationship or even believe that they are responsible for the abuse.
[–][deleted] -1 points0 points1 point 11 years ago (5 children) | Copy Link
It's difficult for both men and women. And one of the other people insisted on hitting back, like it's easier than just walking away.
[–]amb1978 0 points1 point2 points 11 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link
You have all the answers. Maybe you should go tell everyone in the middle east to just cool it. That should work too.
[–][deleted] -1 points0 points1 point 11 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
Yea, because an international group of people who want to fuck up peoples lives because then can = Domestic abuse between two people. I see nothing wrong with that analogy.
[–]amb1978 1 point2 points3 points 11 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
The analogy is over simplifying a complex problem. Idiot.
[–]Stephen1985 -1 points0 points1 point 11 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
I agree. I don't think hitting back is ever a good idea. Nothing good will come from it.
[–][deleted] 31 points32 points33 points 11 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Have some balls.
She had a loaded pistol pointed at me.
She fired round into wall next to my head.
I blurted out something I barely remember.
I packed my things and left that night.
Never went back.
How does 'having some balls' help when facing down a loaded pistol ?
[–]Sherlock--Holmes 25 points26 points27 points 11 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
My best friend, 6 months in prison, 6 months of community service, suspended from the Bar, after she hit him with a martini glass in the head and he slapped her back.
[–]MyKarmaKilledURDogma 13 points14 points15 points 11 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
I raised my voice to a woman one time, and was convicted of domestic abuse. Spent 24 hours in jail, Lost my job and house, lost contact with my infant daughter for 6 months, had to fight for visitation (supervised for a year) without benefit of a lawyer, and we were both ordered to undergo random drug testing. I was never tested, but quit smoking pot for 5 years anyway, I found out years later she was tested and found dirty 3 times, but , protective services never reported that to the court. Nope, no gender bias in that system
[–]chrispdx 1 point2 points3 points 11 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
He had a shitty lawyer, i think. Or an SJW judge.
[–]Peter_Principle_ 5 points6 points7 points 11 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Defend yourself, but don't defend yourself. That should clear things up.
[–]richardnorth 15 points16 points17 points 11 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Came here to say this.
[–]jaheiner 8 points9 points10 points 11 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Was thinkin the same thing. You defend yourself and are instantly a wife beater.
[–]The_Natty_King 40 points41 points42 points 11 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
"Grow some balls"...Oh, right! But don't defend yourself or leave the person, that would constitute physical and emotional abuse. You could go to a shelter for male victims...if there was any.
[–]InBaggingArea 19 points20 points21 points 11 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
In rare outburst, person without balls tells persons with balls to "grow some balls".
[–]EyeRedditDaily 12 points13 points14 points 11 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
What if I want to grow my balls dishonestly?
[–]booszhius 27 points28 points29 points 11 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link
Wait, wait, wait...gimme a sec. All I gotta do is spontaneously generate complex reproductive glandular tissue and that will alleviate any other pain and suffering I may have experienced at the hands of a domestic partner? Let me get right on that.
if youre a female victim of domestic abuse all i have to say is grow some ovaries honestly
What is good for the gander is good for the goose.
[–]InBaggingArea 9 points10 points11 points 11 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Well fuck a duck. I'd no idea it was that easy.
[+]RBidziil -22 points-21 points-20 points 11 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
I think you and I very well understand what she meant; as a man in this world we can not sit and expect others to solve our problems, so grow a spine/stand for yourself and be proactive.
[–]oscillating000 15 points16 points17 points 11 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
No. This is what she meant:
"If you are a male victim of domestic abuse you are pathetic and weak because you let a woman abuse you."
Funny how that statement would bring about the shitstorm of the century if the genders were reversed. Nevertheless, countless people subscribe to this insulting way of thinking, and I'm genuinely happy for you if you've never met someone who believes this.
[–]niggelprease 6 points7 points8 points 11 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
Already have balls, didn't help. Maybe she wants me to grow them so large that I can shield myself with them.
/not an actual victim of domestic abuse
[–]Regulus777 4 points5 points6 points 11 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
That would be very impractical. Getting hit in the balls is quite painful.
[–]cymrich 1 point2 points3 points 11 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
maybe the extra hair will act as a cushion?
[–]Blutarg 10 points11 points12 points 11 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Feminism sure has made things better, hasn't it?
[–]Humankeg 7 points8 points9 points 11 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link
This is honestly sound advice, but it is sound advice for both men and women. If you are in an abusive relationship, you do need to be strong and leave. Simple as that.
Yes I understand in extreme situations one of the persons can feel as they are trapped and held hostage in the relationship, but those are far and few between.
Also would like to point out that I am very well aware of the fact that the person that posted this Tweet is probably just referring to males and does not consider men to be as important as women.
[–]elwahrio 2 points3 points4 points 11 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
The majority of ipv homicides occur immediately after the abused partner leaves the relationship. It's not as simple as walking out the door: Problem solved.
[–]elebrin -1 points0 points1 point 11 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
That's why you don't just walk out the door. You walk out the door and keep going until you've crossed state lines 3-4 times.
[–][deleted] 2 points3 points4 points 11 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Many people don't have the resources to do that. I sure as hell know I don't.
[–]Drewbus 6 points7 points8 points 11 years ago* (0 children) | Copy Link
If you're a male victim of domestic abuse and you haven't grown some balls, get a physical. There's a good chance that you're a woman and your domestic violence will now be treated seriously.
Source: had a physical, they treated me as a man cause I have balls. And they said women don't have balls. They have ovaries.
I should probably post this to /r/YouShouldKnow
I didn't realize 5 people didn't know this and had to retweet while 2 people needed to put it as one of their "favorites"
[–][deleted] 3 points4 points5 points 11 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
I'd say the more sound advice would be to grow ovaries, that way somebody might give a fuck.
[–]jostler57 3 points4 points5 points 11 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
Ooooh, I get it - it's written in code, and I've cracked the code! Here's the code, and then after, what it decrypts into:
grow = video record everything
some balls = get away from the situation
honestly = and call the cops
"If you're a male victim of domestic abuse, all I have to say is video record everything, get away from the situation, and call the cops."
[–][deleted] 4 points5 points6 points 11 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
...and then they will laugh at you, tell the woman to get some help because she is having a rough time (YOUR FAULT) and send you back to a hellier hell.
[–][deleted] 4 points5 points6 points 11 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Exactly. Calling the cops, in almost every conceivable circumstance, is a horrible idea. They are not there to mediate. They are not there to help. They are there to use the color of authority to destroy your life, and facts such as 'guilt' or 'innocence' do not enter into it.
[–]alclarkey 3 points4 points5 points 11 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Grow some balls and defend ourselves? Lay the law down? Because the police and the judicial system love when men do that...
[–]SheepInWolvesClothin 2 points3 points4 points 11 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
As a man who's been a victim of DV.... This is a post by an uninfluential nobody. You've probably given this tweet more views than the one who wrote it
[–]L0gic1o1 2 points3 points4 points 11 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
'Male privilege'
[–]warspite88 2 points3 points4 points 11 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
these sorts of messages are gold. because they show just how full of misandry our culture is. that the feminists, media, church... you name it, nobody but the MRA is vocal to denounce this kind of misandry. in fact my guess is most of those church goers, media, feminists wholeheartedly AGREE with the offending message.
that is how disgusting our culture is and how deep misandry runs
[–][deleted] 2 points3 points4 points 11 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Fellow shitlords, we must fight to get Federal funding for ballz-growing research and how to solve the whatever-you-do-you're-an-evil-wife-beater paradox.
/s
[–]garglemesh42 1 point2 points3 points 11 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
I'd be okay with it if they actually did research the second one.
[–]TacoNinjaSkills 1 point2 points3 points 11 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Confucius say, "Baseball all wrong. Man with four balls cannot walk."
On a serious note, Holy double standard Batman! Imagine the reactions if this was gender swapped.
[–]-er 1 point2 points3 points 11 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
The ability to grow some balls. That's just one more male privilege, right?
[–]rbrockway 1 point2 points3 points 11 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Gender shaming.
[–]Folsomdsf 1 point2 points3 points 11 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
You heard em folks, go beat a woman if she hits you. Make sure the bitch goes to the hospital.
[–]SCROTAL-SACK 0 points1 point2 points 11 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Grow some balls? So then I'd have 2 sets of balls hanging between my legs? Then I presume with these two sets of balls I could use them like soap in a sock to beat down my attacker. Interdasting..
[–]windkirby 0 points1 point2 points 11 years ago* (0 children) | Copy Link
When I see some feminist statements I play a fun game of reversing the genders and seeing how offensive their "neutrality" becomes in a popular context.
"if you're a female victim of domestic abuse all I have to say is grow some balls honestly"
This person's statement seems to be neither neutral nor feminist but it's still fun to try.
[–]Giorria_Dubh 0 points1 point2 points 11 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
At least he's honest about it. Most of the guys saying this stuff hide behind things like "but men are stronger than women" etc.
[–]SigmundFloyd76 0 points1 point2 points 11 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Oh, So I was supposed to Ray Rice my Wife? Because that didn't go over too well.
There are a million worse things you can do to a person than hit them.
[–][deleted] 0 points1 point2 points 11 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
fuck you
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