A tiny survey

[deleted] · 2014-09-11T11:30:27+00:00

The question doesen't make sense to me, if I was in a hypothetical relationship where I wasn't getting enough sex/conversation it would be the frequency of it that would bother me. One day of "lots of sex" or "lots of conversation" wouldn't make up for it (and could get tiring).

ElderSign · 2014-09-11T11:28:25+00:00

Neither, because neither obligatory sex nor obligatory conversation are enjoyable.

workerbeebuzz · 2014-09-11T11:34:13+00:00

3) A day where I get to sleep in past 6am and spend the whole day by myself without getting mithered. Sex might be awesome, and having a deep and meaningful might be romantic, but silence and solitude is golden.

Female.

Skratt · 2014-09-11T13:57:53+00:00

Hmmm, why not both? :D Can I choose both? Sex cuddles sex cuddles sex and more cuddles :)

He would probably choose sex :3

CFRProflcopter · 2014-09-11T14:21:57+00:00

I hate to dodge the question, but I already get all the emotional support and sex I want from my relationship. I really don't want anymore, so this question is hard to answer.

As far as who is more sexual? My SO, definitely. She initiates sex more than I do. I initiate conversation more than she does. But I think we both enjoy each aspect equally. It's not like I'm reluctant to have sex.

sh1v · 2014-09-11T14:44:47+00:00

I pick 3) one day during which he gives me as much sleep as I want. My marriage is lacking in neither sex nor conversation and emotional support, but I sure do need more sleep.

Source: very tired woman

workerbeebuzz · 2014-09-11T11:51:13+00:00

My SO would love an entire day to earbash me about how his team was ROBBED by the umpire. How they were victimized by the league and sodomized by WADA. If I jumped his bones to make him STFU he wouldn't complain though.

ILU2 · 2014-09-11T12:49:46+00:00

Fine. 2. But what's your point?

GridReXX · 2014-09-11T14:06:44+00:00

I am a woman.

1) one day during which he/she will have sex with you as much as you want

Can I edit this? Satisfying sex isn't a norm. So if for one day he is to take all of my direction with no defensiveness regarding ego. I would pick this. But status quo sex... I'll pass. And honestly I would probably be satisfied after one very good multiple session. So the desire to again that day wouldn't be all that high.

2) one day during which he/she will give you as much conversation and emotional support as you want

I don't talk that much. All of my SOs have talked more than me. So unlimited conversation isn't attractive to me. But unlimited cuddle time when we're just silent and enjoying each other's presence sounds great. And that to me constitutes intimacy.

Bonus round question for those in a relationship: which do you think your SO would pick?

My SO would have picked 2 because as I said I don't talk that much. And his libido isn't super out of control. He would be pretty happy with one good sex session/ maybe 2 in one day. I can't see him having sex on the hour every hour for 24 hours. To me that sounds like something that only happens when the stars align and both people are out of their mind insatiably horny.... honeymoon activities.

michellechan2211 · 2014-09-11T12:33:18+00:00

At the current moment, a day in which we are both free of school obligations so that we can relax and hang out with each other.

Smilingbluekitties · 2014-09-11T12:36:32+00:00

Moderate here- SO and I have one day every week where we spend the day doing both things- they are not mutually exclusive.

Those_Who_Remain · 2014-09-11T12:37:21+00:00

A day where your SO freely and happily decides to give you as much as sex as you want. A day where your SO freely and happily decides to give you as much conversation and emotional support as you want

The second, purely because I have a pretty low libido and can't go more than twice (maybe three times) per day.

[deleted] · 2014-09-11T15:06:05+00:00

Ooooooh. A black/white question!

I pick both. But I usually get both.

My SO would pick both too, and make a funny face if the question was asked of him.

philomexa · 2014-09-11T16:57:28+00:00

Lady, 30, purpleish.

I'd pick number one, all the sex I want, MY way (i.e. rough and kinky). My husband is a talker, and I'm not. My husband is also a cuddler...and I'm not. We have plenty of sex, but he likes to switch it up between slow and romantic, rough and kinky, me in charge, or him in charge, etc. I primarily like straight hard fucking, so if I were given 1 day where he had to do just that..hell yeah I'd take it!

Oh, and I'm sure my husband would pick number one, since his libido is still insane after all these years.

weirdlemonade81 · 2014-09-11T18:35:08+00:00

I'm female and would take the sex. Admittedly I am hard-up right now because my bf's trainer has him in 'no sex before the big game' mode for another 2-ish weeks (oh god, oh god).

lokidemon731 · 2014-09-12T01:51:56+00:00

Sex please. Blue Pill leaning woman. I already get all the conversation and emotional support from him as I need on a daily basis, it's the sex I could use more of.

I just asked him, and he wanted clarification: if the second option means that we can just hang out and chat and watch Chuck all day, he'll take that one. But if it's just talking about his feelings and shit, he'll take the sex. He likes to pretend he doesn't have feelings.

MsLilith · 2014-09-12T02:08:14+00:00

I feel like if I chose either option then the other option would end up happening as well. If we spend all day fucking, we end up having those long intimate cuddle/talks anyway and vise versa, at least in my current relationship

asd1100 · 2014-09-11T11:38:57+00:00

When I will want to give up my free sex day just to not have free conversation days, that is when I leave the relationship.

robesta · 2014-09-11T13:42:58+00:00

Which would make you happier:

A day where your SO freely and happily decides to give you as much as sex as you want.

A day where your SO freely and happily decides to give you as much conversation and emotional support as you want

I don't want B just because I don't want emotional support and I don't know how much conversation I could take.

I guess I'd chose A, but I don't like it because I'd willingly be buying into the frame that she controls my sexual fulfillment and that my sexual gratification is at her mercy. Plus I pretty much already have A.

Bonus round question for those in a relationship: which do you think your SO would pick?

I think she'd be fine with either one.

[deleted] · 2014-09-11T18:06:52+00:00

I don't have an SO, but I'm gonna say I'd pick option 2 and she'll pick option 1. Historically, my past gf's couldn't get enough sexy time. Sex, sex, sex that was all they thought about.

SirNemesis · 2014-09-11T21:57:09+00:00

Male, and I'd pick 1.

soylentblueissmurfs · 2014-09-12T02:29:18+00:00

Man here. If my SO said that I'd laugh in her face because it's obviously a shit test.

adrixshadow · 2014-09-12T08:20:00+00:00

You do realize for TRP 2) is a trap right?

That said give me a day of sex and I am confident I can dominate her sexually and get whatever I want the rest of the time.

Male.

susandeath · 2014-09-15T10:16:07+00:00

Female, I want both please. Actually I get both.

My SO would probably currently pick a day where he can just do the final push on his masters, and only be disturbed by my bringing him food.

Title	A tiny survey
Author	sh1v
Upvotes	6
Comments	52
Date	September 11, 2014 11:18 AM UTC (11 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/PurplePillDebate
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