Are your dates boring?

wtknight · 2024-06-13T15:14:05+00:00

Removed. No in-group men asking men or women asking women questions.

tendrils87 · 2024-06-13T05:17:24+00:00

Looks like I gotta pass this off as an issue of vetting my dates.

The date IS the vetting. You can try to lead the conversation as much as possible, but some people will just be boring. Is what it is and move on. A lot of guys will also have a problem leading conversations which is why you have to practice on everyone you can, not just dates.

thumper_0 · 2024-06-13T05:43:25+00:00

It's always exciting going on a date, but some of them end up boring. I try not to write her off immediately though, lots of people only seem boring because they're trying to be socially acceptable and that comes off as boring. Sometimes they just need warming up. Once you break them out of their shell, most people have something interesting about them.

If they're truly boring though I usually cut it off. Boring to me means I'm carrying all the conversation, or if she doesn't seem to know about anything other than celebrities and movies.

Purple_Cruncher_123 · 2024-06-13T06:10:42+00:00

I've definitely had some pretty boring dates. Some commonalities among those boring dates are:

She can't get her head out of her phone.
She can't discuss anything beyond who/what's in her immediate life.
She relies almost entirely on me to drive the conversation topic.

Those early dates with my fiance weren't 'fun' in that they were full of excitement and constant adrenaline. They were pleasant, easy, and enjoyable. We went bowling date two and I didn't break 80 pts (which is really bad). But we bantered, we high-fived the couple next to us, etc. and it was just good vibes.

Brilliant_Island8498 · 2024-06-13T06:06:33+00:00

It’s not the fact that it’s boring , it’s the fact that it’s unmotivating.

I don’t mind a boring women but women aren’t worth chasing anyways

At this point a woman has to qualify to dating me, not the other way around

There’s too many trash women to like really pursue anything with

I get bored because the girl is just good for sex only

kvakerok_v2 · 2024-06-13T06:01:31+00:00

It's very simple. Can't maintain a conversation - the streets.

KayRay1994 · 2024-06-13T06:30:40+00:00

Usually depends on where and when I meet them. Then again I think that’s just a natural consequence of having so many options available at a swipe’s notice.

Generally the women I’ve met through friends or through socializing in hobby spaces and so on tended to be more interesting people, and online dates learned more towards the boring side. I think though that’s largely because when you’re dating online you’re coming in with only a bio and a few texts to go by before you’re on an actual date, so naturally the changes of running into someone you just don’t vibe with increases, especially when you add the fact that the circumstances are a bit more complex than meeting them in a mutual social setting. There is this added combination of guardedness and expectations all at the same time and I think that can eclipse genuine connection building and getting to know one another.

Ayaka_Simp_ · 2024-06-13T07:54:20+00:00

Never. I vet before every date. I don't take a woman on a date unless I already like her and know she's cool. By the time the date happens, we're having a blast.

PlainTundra · 2024-06-13T08:11:49+00:00

I met all my gfs in my everyday life in a casual manner. If they had been boring, things wouldn't have progressed to them becoming my gfs.

Lift_and_Lurk · 2024-06-13T14:00:51+00:00

The whole point of the first date being casual (coffee drinks, appetizers, etc) is that you find out if you two cubs or not.

And yeah, after guys do it enough they’ll learn that lesson we all do “ just cause she hot, doesn’t always mean she’s fun to be around” As that happens people should start to adjust priorities on who to take on dates.

Not saying there isn’t ANY attraction, but the cute girl in accounting that can chat up your favorite hobbies suddenly becomes more appealing than the attractive secretary that has nothing in common with you and says “I have a ideal” when she thinks if something

Gravel_Roads · 2024-06-13T08:52:07+00:00

Ever hear that old adage "If you're bored, you're boring?"

It's kinda true, but there is a limit to how much effort anyone should have to put into a date to "make it interesting". If I like going outside and my date prefers to be inside, it's not that either of us is "boring" so much as we have different interests that aren't very compatible.

But men who complain that "women are boring to talk to" are basically just saying "I'm too passive to steer a conversation." People who do best socially come PREPARED, they have funny stories to tell and jokes and anecdotes that help break the ice when first meeting someone.

If you come to a date, sit down across from her and then silently wait for HER to tell you something interesting, and get grouchy that she won't, you might want to ask yourself what you WANT to hear, and then maybe figure out how to bring up that topic on your own instead of waiting for your partner to read your mind and bring up the topic for you.

alebruto · 2024-06-13T12:51:00+00:00

There are a lot of boring women out there and men will tolerate them for a while if they are pretty. This is when it comes to romantic involvement. What I'm going to say is anecdotal, but I see that boring women, if they're ugly, stay single, if they're pretty, they get several relationships that don't last long.

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Jaded-Worldliness597 · 2024-06-13T05:31:25+00:00

Most of my dates are very fun. I love meeting new people and getting to know them… but more to the point when I’m having fun usually she is having fun too.

TallFoundation7635 · 2024-06-13T13:16:02+00:00

I mask my boredom because getting laid is important to me. All i do is actively listen to what they are talking about and ask questions around that or make playful jokes about what they are saying, I don't really give a shit about their hobbies or likes/dislikes. Although to be fair, it isn't as big of a chore for me, since i can do this on auto pilot at this point.

And yes, I do find that a lot of women tend to be boring.

Title	Are your dates boring?
Author	BrainMarshal
Upvotes	13
Comments	35
Date	June 13, 2024 5:08 AM UTC (2 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/PurplePillDebate
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