does having a very specific physical type hinder your chances at finding a so ?

TomorrowsWar · 2022-02-26T18:40:57+00:00

Sure but it makes it easier to find someone you’d actually like

flapperfemmefatale · 2022-02-26T18:53:26+00:00

Not in my experience. But I think my preferred body time is common

death_by_1000_cats · 2022-02-26T19:19:37+00:00

My type is just a pattern, not a hard and fast rule. I can and have been attracted to men who aren't my usual type. But I wouldn't date someone if there wasn't attraction there to begin with.

WorldWideButtCheeks · 2022-02-26T18:56:54+00:00

I mean when I was dating I would never an unattractive guy because then I would rather be single. but definitely I have dated outside of what I usually like in a man as I dont really have a type. Factors such as Height have varied, hair, race, culture, facial features, physical build etc.

figuringMylife · 2022-02-26T18:45:27+00:00

i’m not tied to my type. but i find most men that aren’t my type… are either just okay to me, usually surprise me personality wise later in the relationship, or end up not being attracted to me

LotBuilder · 2022-02-26T22:25:41+00:00

It definitely shrinks your dating pool and it is usually a mistake to go outside of the type you are most attracted to.

cloudnymphe · 2022-02-27T00:41:05+00:00

I have a very specific type when it comes to men (I’m only into androgynous/feminine men) and I do wish I was attracted to a broader range of men. The problem isn’t so much that guys I’m into are never into me back, but that it’s hard to find men I’m into in the first place. I thought I was a lesbian for a while in high school cause there were no guys around who caught my interest. On the bright side I’m into women as well so it’s hardly the end of the world if I can’t find men I’m attracted to.

As a woman your dating pool only being lesbian/bi women and feminine men who are attracted to women is still somewhat limited compared to if you included more men in it. I have actively tried to expand my type to include more masculine men and they just don’t do it for me, they don’t provoke the same sexual desire.

Mrs_Drgree · 2022-02-27T01:02:39+00:00

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Spacechicken1998 · 2022-02-28T20:10:15+00:00

Idk I find all healthy bodies very attractive, my only must have is much much taller than me. So far I've had no issue finding men like that

wtknight · 2022-02-26T19:02:04+00:00

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Orange_Paisley · 2022-02-26T20:17:35+00:00

I don’t really have physical preferences.

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HeartCatchHana · 2022-02-26T20:20:43+00:00

I have and I don't recommend it

Mrs_Drgree · 2022-02-27T01:15:53+00:00

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Pola_Lita · 2022-02-27T01:18:45+00:00

Have you ever deviated from your physical preference to widen your options, even tho you're not particularly attracted to them ?

A man doesn't have to be my preferred type to still be hot. I had no idea how hot my husband's "type" could be until I met him.

So, I guess it could have been. I was lucky.

bluestjuice · 2022-02-27T03:17:00+00:00

I think if you have a super specific set of physical characteristics you’re looking for, it will be harder to find people that match them. But I guess it depends on whether what you are into is unusual or more commonplace. It probably also matters whether you live in a crowded place where you can theoretically come into contact with a larger number of options. All of this of course just means a smaller pool of candidates to click with on a personality level.

I don’t personally have a very narrowly defined type - I have some preferences but am pretty open. I’m a bit demi so I usually develop sexual interest after romantic interest has started to kindle.

IcarusKiki · 2022-02-27T06:32:27+00:00

You only need one person to be your SO so it probably makes weeding people out easier

glowupresearch · 2022-02-27T03:06:37+00:00

Sacrificing the requirements for attraction are not worth broadening your pool of candidates unless sex/romantic connection is unimportant to you.

However I think for many of us what we are attracted to is heavily influenced by social influences, and it is probably worth exploring and trying to unlearn some of that.

My first big crush when I was 14 was on a guy who was a little pudgy, my height (5’6”) and had round facial features and this big white boy afro. I don’t think I’ve ever been more attracted to anyone than I was to him at that time. But as I got older and took in all this info about what you’re supposed to find attractive my “type” started to narrow down to tall, thin men with angular features. That’s what is popular right now and clearly influenced my subconscious attraction. A similar example would be the shift from men in the early 2000s desiring a woman with big boobs and no ass to the popularity of a large ass now. It’s crazy to look at media from that time and see all these running jokes about women having a big butt being a negative thing.

I’m working to unlearn these influenced preferences, and trying to really keep an open mind about what I personally actually find attractive. I have no idea how successful I will be as sexual attraction is tough to influence, but I’ve already realized that height is not the limiting factor in my attraction that I thought it was.

In exploring this it has made me more concerned about the way porn likely trains our brains and attraction. I think it’s possible that a lot of people are basically training themselves to only be attracted to sex on a screen.

Title	does having a very specific physical type hinder your chances at finding a so ?
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Date	February 26, 2022 6:29 PM UTC (4 years ago)
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