Regulation not Repression

Mr_Smoogs · 2019-11-04T23:06:47+00:00

I always thought manning up was about controlling your emotions and not letting them overcome your duty.

Firemen man up when they run into burning buildings. So do marines when storming a compound.

The idea that “manning up” means that you don’t have emotions or should not acknowledge them is asinine. All men who face danger acknowledge their fear. It’s about overcoming it, not denying it entirely.

It’s healthy to learn how to do this.

Emervila · 2019-11-05T00:20:39+00:00

Emotional intelligence is really needed in society, I give you that. It should be taught to all.

Men needing to man up while the mainstream media call manhood toxic and wants to force feminization of masculinity and deconstruct it, that does not compute in men's minds.

Emotions are different for men and women. Women use them as a way to communicate that's why they are usually loud about how they feel but men use emotions to deeper already existing-bonds this is why men have perceived as emotionless bc we show our emotions only when there's a considerable bond with a particular person. Logic comes first to face and fix problems then you can share emotion if there's someone pretty and really close.

jax006 · 2019-11-04T23:03:55+00:00

That will work for guys with more resilient and masculine personalities, and will be horribly shitty advice for guys who are little bitches (unless they can run that depressed heroin addict artist game)

slackw1zard · 2019-11-05T01:14:39+00:00

No. Men can't be allowed to be emotional. He needs to control his emotions because he can use them to better him self and should not be controlled by them (to a degree that others can control him). He should be a good level headed man because that is what is good for a family. Emotions are false at times and can control people in negative ways - man should provide emotional stability to his family not emotional uncertainty. A woman can show emotion because it complements the man but what she will complement him with emotionally he will with complement her and his family with order, control of his emotions and stability.

https://scienceofstrategy.org/main/content/article-pdf-952-avoiding-emotion

Man should control his emotions because he should provide the non-emotional point of view to his other half(wife) of which they can both make a decision taking into consideration both half's.

D_D_BA4 · 2019-11-05T02:07:59+00:00

I don't find men to be any less emotionally intelligent than women.

RudePercentage5 · 2019-11-04T23:29:48+00:00

By the time most guys hit middle age, I'm sure they would be more likely to agree with you.

Ideally, I think guys should be more emotionally forthcoming with each other though, not with women. The bonding, insight and affirmations they get from other men is more valuable on most issues. When they spill the beans with women there's another dynamic going on which isn't bad, but isn't as helpful.

TheJim66 · 2019-11-04T23:10:34+00:00

Nope ,manning up is the best advice for men.We dont deal with emotions like women.Deal with them yourself,in silence.The only emotions a man is allowed to show are those that signify strength like happiness and anger.

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wtknight · 2019-11-04T23:40:12+00:00

I think that men should be taught that it's okay to express emotions, but that they also have to learn how to deal with them too. Women don't want to be mothers to the men they are dating. If a man has serious enough emotional issues, then he should be seeing a therapist.

OatsGYOW · 2019-11-05T00:40:16+00:00

The way humans work is that your emotions whether you ignore them or not whether you process them or not, they will affect you. They will affect how you think, your health and your interactions with others.

Okay...? The goal isn't to deal with emotions, it is to hide them from others. Nobody cares about you. Nobody cares about your emotions. Nobody cares about your problems. Welcome to the real world(unless you have a vagina).

By presenting your emotions and problems as a man, you are presenting a burden on others that they simply don't give a shit about and presenting yourself as less useful as a man. You are actively harming yourself both socially and professionally, which will have MUCH larger impacts on your mental health.

PanderjitSingh_k · 2019-11-05T00:49:30+00:00

I know men and their emotions aren’t the problem.

Zippo-Cat · 2019-11-05T03:50:23+00:00

I find your post laughable at best. Especially the idea that the only(main?) reason relationships fail is apparently because muh emotion control. What even the fuck is this.

And yes, men should absolutely be told to "man up".

DubsPackage · 2019-11-05T15:31:08+00:00

Sounds good so far.

Not really sure what all of that means.

I'm fairly certain that men process and regulate their emotions.

I find it weird how some women think we're golems made of stone.

It's like they don't get that there's a person in there who thinks and feels.

TheBookOfSeil · 2019-11-05T17:06:27+00:00

Can anyone really teach this, or is this something that people either learn or don’t learn themselves through the experience of self-development?

2019-11-06T03:53:09+00:00

Agree.

Title	Regulation not Repression
Author	gypsyismylover
Upvotes	14
Comments	94
Date	November 4, 2019 10:56 PM UTC (6 years ago)
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