Gather round fellow redditors, let me spin you a tale.....

Long time ago when I was a young redditor, I really wanted a relationship. I wanted the whole find the guy in your twenties. Fall in love. Take over the world together with stars in your eyes. Ect.

but the older I got, the less I was that into the whole relationship ideal. And as I spoke to some of my friends who also felt the same way I did ( never married, never had sex), we tried to understand why we were like this? Were we just broken as people? Why was it that now (in our mid twenties) when the pressure from parents and families to marry was the most intense, we had suddenly become more ambivalent about it?

Lately, I've realized that the script is broken. Women have been lied to. Marriage isn't a guarantee of anything. I saw women around me who had done everything "right".

Married young. Stayed chaste. Loved their husband and never criticized him.

Yet ended up in a broken marriage with 3 kids. in bankruptcy. cleaning houses to keep the heating on in the winter. While their husband was dodging child support like Neo dodged bullets in the Matrix.

Similarly, I knew women who did everything wrong.

Married in their thirties. Had tons of sexual partners. Were not submissive. Some didn't even want kids.

And they had happy lives, financial security, doting husbands and traveled 2-3 times a year.

The truth is marriage has a 40% success rate in America. So if you devote yourself to a guy at the age of 20 and never develop a career or a degree, there is a 60% chance you'll be out on your ass in 10 years, scraping the barrel of dire poverty. Alimony? lol.

Here's a stat for you:"In 1985, only 15% of 19.2 million ever divorced women received alimony. The average alimony payment was 3,730". Even in the 1950s, alimony has never exceeded 25% of divorces. Women, please make sure you get a job. A man is not a plan.

The reality is that marriage is no guarantee of companionship in old age, more divorces are occurring among the elderly. It's no guarantee of love. It's not a guarantee of sex. Imagine the shock for me when I saw all those women in r/deadbedrooms, sobbing because their husbands won't even fuck them anymore. Can you imagine? Many people are in loveless marriages. Just because you love a guy with all your heart doesn't mean he won't betray you. Just because Greg is the man who hugs children, and saves cats from tall trees when he is 18, doesn't mean he'll be that way when he's 37.

Life is about luck. Life is about chance. There are no rules to this new sexual marketplace we've created. No laws to follow to live a happy life. That's the real red pill.

Don't delude yourselves.

Men, studying TRP will not net you a happy wife forever. That's a fantasy. Both the red pill wives and the blue pill wives both experience divorce the same way. I used to read RPW in the time of Tempest Tea Cup and they were the most miserable bitches I'd ever seen. They were sad, they were compressing themselves into marriages where they couldn't even tell their husbands that he bought the wrong doorknob. I don't want to live like that. That's not the married bliss we were promised. Similarly, the mainstream feminism claiming that having sex with 33.5 men would lead you to your 34th miraculous marriageable guy at the end of the rainbow, they were jokers too. They were having a lot of sex with men they didn't love and they were frustrated at the end. By the end of their "journeys", they were so turned around, they couldn't tell men from women anymore. Nobody has the answer to the anarchy we live in. Red Pill.

At the end of it, I remember talking to a girl who was afraid that going to medical school would mean she would be less attractive to men, that she would be too busy to have a family. She said, "shouldn't I stick with being a nurse instead?". I didn't lie to her. I said. "yes that's true". Men do not care about your intelligence or your degree, they carry about beauty and youth. But at the end of the day, having a marriage doesn't guarantee happiness. Being a nurse won't ensure that you will meet the man of your dreams. You can't make life decisions based on what you might do or what you wish had happened or a man that doesn't know you exist. You make the best decisions you can with the knowledge you have available. And you have to live with that. That's all. I've realized that the people who I respect, the ones who have reached "true red pill" are the one who realized the game is rigged and don't give a fuck anymore.

Anyway, thanks for coming to my TED talk.