When (and if) unattractive men get money and status as they get older, what happens?

MarioWilson122 · 2026-07-11T04:49:51+00:00

Yeah, a lot of women already do this with men anyway. A man's income, stability, or status can make him more appealing as a long-term partner even when the physical attraction isn't particularly strong. It just becomes much more pronounced at the top because the incentives are much greater.

That's why men in that position are probably better off enjoying those relationships casually rather than assuming they're automatically built on genuine desire. There's nothing wrong with having fun if both people understand what it is, but building a serious long-term commitment is much riskier when it's difficult to know whether she's primarily attracted to you or to what your success provides. The higher a man climbs, the more careful he should be about separating genuine attraction from attraction to his lifestyle and resources.

stats135 · 2026-07-11T14:04:20+00:00

Financial success is not guaranteed with age. While not impossible, the reality is that most men do not become wealthy by 40.

It certainly is more likely for the manosphere demographic. I mean the whole RP originated around AlphaFuxBetaBux. RP is full of reformed Beta Bux.

Second, even for the rare few who do achieve CEO status and wealth, what is the actual reward? They attract gold diggers, partners who fake initial intimacy to ensnare them, devoid of genuine attraction. After they have secured a relationship, these women will use the man's resources to sleep with guys they find truly attractive.

Few men ever get to experience genuine attraction like women do full stop. On a fundamental level women see men as human doings, not human beings. Few men can simply be, simply exist, and have women look at them and have the burning desire to fuck them. So in a world where men need to DO something, instead of just BE, acquiring status and money is as good as any of a strategy.

Sure if you acquire status/money, you attract women who are attracted to status/money. They will leave you once you stop providing that status/money. But the same logic applies to everything else. If you perform game/charm, you get women who are attracted to men who perform game/charm, and if/when your game/charm slips, they will leave you for another more charming man who is top of his game. If you acquire a gym body, they you will attract women who are attracted to the gym body, and if you lose that bod, same deal.

Again, as a man, more likely than not you can not simply BE a man and expect women to lust over you. So under the condition that you have to DO something, acquiring money is actually the better option. It is one of the few things where you can achieve escape velocity, where you have your money do the work for you, where you can outsource the work to your money, so you can simply BE, sipping beer on the beach and still fuck the hot babes. With things like maintaining a gym body it gets increasingly difficult to outright impossible at a certain age.

chamomilecloud · 2026-07-11T05:15:27+00:00

I 100% believe your beautiful young coworker has named this man in her phone as “shortlet” rather than just ignoring him as most young women do. This description is all very realistic, obviously.

Yes, the reward for rich undesirable men is casual relationships with gold diggers; the exchange is entirely transactional and they know what it is the other wants. If they are 2 consenting adults, no one should care what these people do.

Alternatively maybe they are lucky to date a woman while young. Plenty of uggos out there who pair up.

DzejSiDi · 2026-07-11T16:01:13+00:00

There's this myth that rejected young men will inevitably build value through money and status as they age.

We all know you just made it up on the spot.

Second, even for the rare few who do achieve CEO status and wealth, what is the actual reward? They attract gold diggers, partners who fake initial intimacy to ensnare them, devoid of genuine attraction.

Yes yes, only your skeletal height generates genuine attraction, everything is a fake attraction /s

So poor guy now can screw (reasonably) young and attractive women, before he was not able to do so. That what changed in his life. Most of them might be a gold diggers, so what? Now he has an option to go for it, or not.

He thinks he is funny and confident and that will generate attraction.

He's right, but you, by your own words, consider him neither funny nor confident, just weird.

In my not-so-humble opinion, unwanted men should embrace radical acceptance and opt out of dating entirely.

And in mine, even less humble opinion, truecels should, out of spite, hit on mid women to crush their ego and make them mad. Instead of making dating market less cringe, let's accelerate and crash even harder.

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abaxeron · 2026-07-12T12:46:14+00:00

You have never said anything positive about men you (or your fellas) do find attractive (or at least I can't remember a damn thing, and you chose to hide your post and comment history), so apparently such men either don't exist at all, or are so rare that they don't alter the picture in any meaningful way.

throwaway73737828 · 2026-07-11T05:44:24+00:00

Its very possible to become wealthy when you get older, Most men starts to lock in at 21 yrs old, you think you cant get wealthy in 20 fking years lol. If a guy wants to be wealthy, he can just learn trading and spend most of his salary to trading and at worst in 10 years, he is a millionaire.

The reward is they fuck women like Sydney Sweeney level if they wanted to. Gold diggers are attractive. They spend a lot of money on their appereance. Even if he doesn’t chase gold diggers, he can get a 5 out of 10, mid looking 4 wives. They gonna compete with each other on who gets the money, so they will have burning desire to suck dick to get the money. Which is a W for the man.

I disagree with your last point also. Yes if a guy doesn’t learn how to pickup women and he tries without getting any help (lets say a bluepill guy)
He will get rejected a lot. And this is the unfortunate reality but, I believe guys who struggle to get women need to pay dating coaches or players to learn how to pickup women. You need to be kinda evil to get women, so you need to change your identity and that will come when you see a example of a man who is being successful in pickup.

AreOut · 2026-07-11T12:44:02+00:00

men build not just financial value but also they start figuring out how to physically appeal to women get dressed better go to the gym be more selfconfident etc. its not just money

Title	When (and if) unattractive men get money and status as they get older, what happens?
Author	Lana_Sphyncter
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Date	July 11, 2026 3:07 AM UTC (1 week ago)
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