Face looks too slutty?

pearlsandstilettos · 2023-09-04T17:50:41+00:00

I am locking this post. We aren't a validation sub and that is a lot of the "advice" you are receiving. We also aren't a sub dedicated to physical appearance and cosmetic enhancements which is what you seem to be asking all the time. There are better subs for those questions.

Finally, I agree with the comments that suggest you have a fixation on your appearance that might be best helped in person and off reddit.

We are happy to help you with your relationship interactions but no further posts on the lip fillers. This isn't our area of expertise.

Yougotmetripping · 2023-09-04T04:52:05+00:00

Well no second date. What a horrendous thing to say. There is something to be said for tact.

Please don't worry about your looks because of what he's said. He's shown to be rude and callous. It's almost a blessing he's said this as his obvious his opinions mean little given his nature.

In terms of looking more soft you can do this through clothing and lighter nude or pinky shades of makeup. Nothing dramatic on the eyes or lips, especially if you have filler.

my_mix_still_sucks · 2023-09-04T08:04:58+00:00

To me it sounds like a dickhead that was trying lower your self esteem for manipulative purposes. Maybe you do have to much make up, I don't know that, but he has no reason to say it like this if it wasn't to lower your self esteem. I would go no contact

JustaTcup · 2023-09-04T04:44:02+00:00

First thing you do is leave that boy alone lol. Seriously, that is just terrible, terrible words to say to another person. He could have said the same thing with way less abusive, narcissistic usages.

Is it your makeup you think? Because just features alone aren't going to look "slutty". Maybe lessen your makeup or choose more neutral tones that blend in better.

Seriously, that guy was messed up. He has his own problems. Please don't go back there to abuseland with him.

mojodojokasahouse · 2023-09-04T13:31:18+00:00

I’m a casual lurker on here. As there aren’t a ton of posts in this subreddit it’s very easy to scroll back a few months without realizing it and I could have sworn I had seen some posts about lip filler before which is odd considering the subreddit.

Well I took a look at your post history, this is your 5th post in this subreddit in the last 2 months related to your lip fillers. Looking at the rest of your posts you seem to have some kind of obsessive medical anxiety/dysmorphia situation going on; antibitoic reactions, Covid, now this lip filler thing. I highly recommend seeking a qualified therapist for these types of issues.

With that said and your post history, I don’t think this guy ever said that to you. I don’t think there was even a date. I think you’re very insecure about yourself and for the 5th time in this sub, you’re seeking some kind of validation about your fillers.

I wish you luck in figuring it out but I really don’t think RPW is where you should be looking.

Ok-Coat7665 · 2023-09-04T05:01:53+00:00

I would take his opinion with a grain of salt because that’s unbelievably inappropriate and rude to say to someone, and it sounds like he was negging you.

But based on your description of your face, you have ‘low-trust’ features that come off as more mature and sexy than a softer, ‘high-trust’ face that looks more youthful and innocent. Think VS Angels vs KPop girls. That could be what he meant by “slutty” and “porn star”.

If you would like to go for a softer, sweeter look, there are makeup tutorials to help with that. Or look for outfits and hairstyles that fit the vibe you want to give off, like pastel sweaters or cute hair clips.

Vynxe-Vainglory · 2023-09-04T06:19:25+00:00

Guy sounds like a dumbass.

The lip filler could be the real reason, though.

pieorstrudel5 · 2023-09-04T14:36:15+00:00

Based on your comments to other posters I'm going to say that you are focused on the wrong thing.

Women come here looking for help from women who have had success with RP strategies. What any seasoned member of this community will tell you is that fixing your makeup is not going to fix the root of this problem.

You are trying very hard to look a certain way so that men find you attractive. There is nothing wrong with that I would say that almost every woman in this community to a certain extent presents herself in a way that is pleasing to whatever man she has chosen. For some women that is a very Glam look with lots of makeup and curled hair and heels and for other women it's just naturally air-dried hair and some lip balm. Both are feminine women.

What matters is what's going on inside your head.

I'm seeing too many women come here asking the community for how to dress or how to do their hair or what skin care they should use because really that is the easiest part to work on.

The real work is your mindset. Go look at the main page there was a wonderful post about psychological femininity. And it's so true if you don't have good self-esteem and your mental health is in the gutter you're never going to choose the man that is good for you.

If you don't feel confident in who you are today then you are headed down a path of disappointment. What's going to happen is the next man that comes in front of you and tells you how beautiful you are you'll be so excited that a man finally thinks you're beautiful that you're going to do whatever it takes to keep him whether he's a good match for you or not.

It comes down to vetting. You went on a bad date. Hard stop. What did you learn from this experience? That you want a man that speaks respectfully to you. That you want a man that thinks you're beautiful as you are today. There are many other things I am sure you want. But the next time you find yourself on a date with a man who is blatantly being rude you thank him for the date, call yourself an Uber, and leave.

If you aren't happy with how you look take a break from dating. Experiment with makeup and clothes read about psychological femininity and what it means to be a truly feminine woman. I promise to you if you can get in a good headspace the makeup and clothes and whatever else comes pretty easily.

ShiningWoman · 2023-09-04T09:58:48+00:00

This man sounds pornsick, ignore him and block him on everything.

cast-away-ramadi06 · 2023-09-04T14:32:57+00:00

1) Do better at weeding out assholes 2) You should really only worry about the opinion of people you respect. So don't worry about what assholes think.

rykergreylex · 2023-09-04T05:57:07+00:00

Bahahaha. A man rejected you because you're too hot. Just leave him and find another man who wants beautiful women.

PathfireNeon · 2023-09-04T13:54:58+00:00

he may just not be into lip filler, few guys are. i have never ever met one that is into them, nor long nails. sorry it sounds like i'm giving you a hard time about the lip filler, maybe guys that like them exist, but it would be news to me if a man said they were.

ygfam · 2023-09-04T12:15:11+00:00

who the fuck says that? people are so strange. you shouldn't focus too hard on strange people

Sad_Conclusion8488 · 2023-09-04T14:02:23+00:00

Apparently you went on a date with an idiot.

Loveenglishpeople · 2023-09-04T16:52:25+00:00

It’s probably just the lip fillers

But screw him

pieorstrudel5 · 2023-09-04T10:49:35+00:00

I would have told him to fuck right off and gone home. Tell him thank you for revealing how low class he is from the get go. Saved everyone a lot of time.

Regardless of what you look like, no man should say such things to you. He might think about it and decide to not go forward. But any man who says things like that to you is not worth thinking about.

__Renarde__ · 2023-09-04T10:19:06+00:00

He can sit on a cactus, leave him be. I’m sorry you went through that!

lilacrhi · 2023-09-04T10:32:09+00:00

What can you do? Run the other way, quickly.

ClarityByHilarity · 2023-09-04T10:27:54+00:00

What a weirdo! Block and move on, disregard anything he said.

mommyreddit88 · 2023-09-04T12:49:53+00:00

He said it to make you insecure about being beautiful

Wife_and_Mama · 2023-09-04T05:48:25+00:00

I had a man message me once with "You look cute without your glasses." I responded with "I look cute with my glasses, too" and ignored him. This guy's a jerk, no matter his motivations. If he thinks there's such a thing as a "slutty face," he watches too much porn.

Consistent_Sleep_341 · 2023-09-04T12:55:24+00:00

Your feautures don’t even sound “slutty” tho? I have lip filler and my lips look fine. Are yours exaggerated? That’s the only thing I could think of but otherwise sharp features are more modelesque than “slutty”. Totally agree w others, ignore him, has nothing to do w u

AutoModerator · 2023-09-04T04:32:40+00:00

Title: Face looks too slutty?

Full text: This guy I went on a date with said my face looks slutty and that I’ve got extremely sharp features with a sharp jawline and cheekbones and sharp thin nose. He said these features make me stand out and look unapproachable and it might not be to every guy’s liking. He said I’ve got a slutty pornstar face. He also said it looks like I’ve had plastic surgery because of how striking my face looks but when he looks closely, he can’t find evidence of it. All I’ve had are lip fillers and after I did them people said I’ve changed a lot. What can I do? I’m really really upset by what he said to me. I don’t want to look slutty or too striking. I want to be plain, sweet and conservative looking.

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Title	Face looks too slutty?
Author	IndustryMountain
Upvotes	26
Comments	72
Date	September 4, 2023 4:32 AM UTC (2 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/RedPillWomen
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