How can I avoid hitting the wall until much later in life?

YakCat · 2015-08-24T15:25:55+00:00

I'm older then you but maybe not as old as others in this sub (34). I get regularly mistaken for being 10-12 years younger and still get hit on quite often by successful and attractive men (happily married though).

Dress for your body type. I'm almost 6 ft tall. Some clothes aren't made for my long legs and maintaining modesty.

Find skincare that works. Easier said then done I know. Learn to love sunscreen. I have an intense Asian beauty system that I use. It works for me.

Dear god, protect your hands. Use anti aging products on them. Keep your nails nice. Having soft, love hands is very lady like.

Find a physical activity you love. For me it's kayaking and running. It makes you feel and look younger.

Learn to flirt! I still flirt with my husband. I've taught younger girls to flirt. Find something that works for you. Accidental footsie under the table at dinner, dropping a fork and catching him looking as you bend down giving him a wink, knowing when he's talking that it's time to bite your lip and give a sly smile. Even now, I can mess my husband up while we're at a dinner party just by biting my lip!

Kegels. Get yourself some kegel balls. No joke. Orgasm everyday while wearing them (not on your period) and you will earn the most pleasurable orgasms. You can give better orgasms this way. After all, once you sleep with him you have to be unforgettable.

Have a daily routine just for you. Do something for yourself. I meditate for 10 min, have my tea, and read a dirty book for 20 min before waking my husband for our run. I notice on the days I don't I'm frazzled.

Accept yourself. I have long legs and big boobs. I look awkward in a lot of clothing. Not every man will be attracted to me. Like Dita says "You can be the ripest, juiciest peach in the world and somebody just won't like peaches."

Read and watch documentaries. Always having something interesting to say.

Find your beauty magic bullet. I drink 1/2 a gallon of spearmint tea a day. It keeps my skin clear and glowing. If I don't drink it, I get blemishes. For whatever reason, this works for me (and I've tried just water instead--doesn't work).

And the worst part, genetics. I have fantastic genetics. My 85 year old aunt refuses to date a man over 60 and honestly, she looks under 60. She still travels the world with her boyfriends. My family just doesn't get wrinkles. I'm lucky. That being said, I believe in what my grandma, great aunt, and aunt say to do--walk 1 mile, swim 1 mile, have 1 glass of red wine, and 1 orgasm a day and you'll make it to 100.

Disappear_vanish · 2015-08-24T19:17:25+00:00

There are tons of women in here claiming they can pass for ten years younger and it's just not true.

Age always shows. One way or another, in your mid 30s you do not pass for a woman in her mid 20s. You can dress the part, but you're lying to yourself. Don't let someone flatter you so much that you start believing it.

That's how you end up looking trashy in a short sundress meant for a tight 19 year old when you're 32. Because "Everyone always tells me how young I look!" No, you fish for compliments and spin a nice thick web of delusion when people tell you what you want to hear.

I see women every day who pretend they look much younger than they do. If you age gracefully and mature as a woman, 30s isn't harsh, it's lovely. If you've got nothing of value to offer except physical beauty, you're doing it wrong, and you probably look very tacky while you're at it.

2015-08-24T15:07:38+00:00

Stay slim, practice good nutrition, workout regularly, get a dermatologist, don't have kids (that can age you big time). I'm 26 and look like I'm 18-22 (I"m African American, darkskin). Honestly, whatever age under 30 I tell people they believe it. On dating sites I still get some teenagers trying to screw me even though I make it clear you have to be over 25.

M3_Drifter · 2015-08-24T15:48:16+00:00

Genetics, exercise, healthy food, lots of water, anti-wrinkle creams, anti-uv creams, no tanning, no alcohol, no smoking, etc. Plenty of sleep and a sleeping schedule is also paramount. If you party all night every week, you're going to look older faster.

Basically, "would a proper princess do X?"

Of course, a proper princess would not ride the cc. And there are no guarantees. You may look 45 at 30 despite trying your best.

handfuls of not-so-beta orbiters

Beta is as beta does. Money or looks does not make you alpha. Orbiting definitely makes you beta.

freebumblebee · 2015-08-24T15:52:49+00:00

See a dermotologist regularly and maintain a great skincare routine.
Drink loads of water and no other liquids.
Don't drink, don't smoke.
More questionably, avoid straws.
Get preposterously good sleep
Maintain impeccable oral hygiene (regular dentist visits, floss daily, brush twice daily with electric, use whiteners if necessary, orthodontics if necessary).
Avoid stress when possible.
Grow your hair out and keep it healthy--don't let your ends get stringy just to add more length. Don't feel like you have to cut it at a certain age--my mom is in her 50s and still has gorgeous, long, blonde hair.
Color your hair if your hair can take it, and don't cheap out on hair color. Multi-layered color can add a brightness and complement your skin.
Stay out of the sun and fake tan when you want a tan.
I've heard botox can be started young as a wrinkle preventative.
If you're going the plastic surgery route and have the money to spend, feel free to get other minor things fixed--liposuction for fat restructuring (not for weightloss, it never works for weightloss), natural looking breast enhancement, etc. Do not skimp on a plastic surgeon.
Make sure your skin is the focus of your makeup routine, make it look light coverage even if it's not, and go lighter/more natural on the eyes and lips.
Use a primer to fill in pores and smooth fine lines, especially as you age.
Keep your brows maintained and filled in.
Smile much more than you frown.
Dress like a 'good girl,' keep up to date on fashion, dress your age. Don't let your clothes make you look cheap. You don't want to look dated or slutty, even when you're being slutty. I've noticed men eat up Taylor Swift even though she sleeps around like it's her job--she just projects an air of being good, sweet, feminine, etc.
Clothing related--pay attention to the colors you wear and how flattering they are on you. I'm not necessarily saying "get your colors done" but figure out which ones make your skin look bright, garner compliments, and make you look good. Wear those. Figure out what doesn't and don't wear those or don't put them next to your face (black makes me look dead, so while I wear black pants, I avoid black shirts).
Go to the gym regularly. Lift heavy--you won't instabulk or anything, and you'll keep your skin and figure tight.
Don't have kids.
Keep in mind, most people of both genders start to heavily let themselves go (if they maintained themselves at all) as they age, so you'll start to look better by comparison. Don't count on this, but you'll see it happen as you get older.

I'll be honest, riding the CC and being surrounded by orbiters into my 50s isn't my strategy, not the strategy most commonly sought here, but it is a valid strategy if that's what you want. After all, sexual strategy is amoral. If that isn't your strategy and you just want to maintain looks, most all of that advice is applicable to everyone.

Sunshinelorrypop · 2015-08-24T17:46:21+00:00

I see people recommending a dermatologist. I know what they are but what exactly do they do?

werple · 2015-08-24T16:38:32+00:00

So a woman you know "avoided hitting the wall" because she managed to give away lots of commitment free sex and she got divorced multiple times. Also, according to your subjective non-male assessment, she still looked hot. Guys have a much stronger eye for youth than gals, because they're hardwired to prefer young partners for ltrs. That preference wouldn't work out so well if they couldn't tell the difference, or if they could be easily fooled. The reason "the wall" exists is because guys have much lower physical standards for hookups. So by the time a woman notices a decrease in attention on the cc, she's practically untouchable for those same men for ltrs, and has to settle for someone who's very beta or whose commitment is very superficial.

Anyway, the big things are:

take care of your hair. Historically, long lush hair is a hard to fake sign of youth and fertility. If you can make your hair look young, people's intuitive assessment of your age and beauty will improve tremendously.

protect your skin from the sun, by not spending unnecessary amounts of time in direct sunlight and wearing spf 15+ whenever you go out.

Hydrate internally, by drinking plenty of water, and externally, by applying moisturizing lotion to your face in the morning and evening.

Avoid stress, this includes stress in your relationships and unnecessarily stressful jobs. Women tend to respond poorly health-wise to high stress employment, more so than men.

Don't smoke, don't use drugs, don't drink significantly.

Stay skinny, but not too skinny. It's essentially impossible to look young and be runway skinny past a certain age. You need a little bit of fat to fill in the inevitable age lines, particularly marionette lines. So it actually makes sense to steadily gain moderate amounts of weight starting at 30. But never let yourself become overweight. Also, make sure your diet includes all of your essential nutrients.

Get good at hiding your imperfections with makeup. The other advice will help you delay the deepest age lines. Makeup can't cover those, but it can cover fine lines and age spots.

Workout, both cardio and lifting. No, you won't get too bulky. Maintain an physically active lifestyle in general. Staying active is essential to keeping a youthful look because sedentary lifestyles throw off your hormone balance, and, internally, hormone shifting is one of the primary reasons for aging.

Anyway, no matter what you do guys will be able to see your age better than you can, since they're hardwired to look for it. The right way to avoid hitting the wall is to find a man to carry you over it.

2015-08-24T21:32:08+00:00

Take care of your skin by avoiding sun damage and using sunscreen and a retinoid prescribed by a dermatologist.

Also, dry brush your skin regularly. Stay stress free. Be happy and stay active/in shape.

Dress well for your age so don't shop at the juniors section when you're like 30.

Limit alcohol consumption and avoid cigarette smoking.

Washiface · 2015-09-08T12:10:41+00:00

I actually do get mistaken for being a lot younger, but I think it's more to do with looking baby faced than looking 'young and hot'. It's not flattering to have people mistake me for my teenage step sons girlfriend instead of my husbands wife >:( I try my best to dress my age because I think the other posters are right - dressing way younger is SO trashy even if you look younger. I don't have any wrinkles and I think it's because I live in a cold county and use sun screen every day. My friends who live in hot countries but have white skin tend to age very fast. I think a lot of women hit the wall after they become wives or mothers because they just stop trying, they are so busy taking care of their husband and kids they forget to spend time on themselves making sure they have time to feel good.

I think as long as you take care of your skin, weight, appearance and dress smartly for your age - you won't ever get past your sell by date :) look at Robin Wright - she looks her age, but looks amazing.

PremiumGoose · 2015-08-24T17:18:59+00:00

Lots of good tips here. I only have one, look in the mirror and make your usual range of faces. Smile, frown, look upset, look incredulous, etc. does your face bunch up anywhere? You'll get wrinkles there eventually. Learn to Moderate your facial expressions.

I'm 28 and am already showing lines near my eyes from when I smile with my whole face.

TheLadyPainter · 2015-08-24T15:19:41+00:00

Are you asking this sub how to maintain your hotness so you can ride the CC in to your 50s? That's not really an endorsed strategy here...

Even if you're just asking because you want to remain hot for yourself/your SO, you should check out some beauty/healthcare subs. You'll find more information than you would here.

2015-08-25T07:09:33+00:00

Well, you have to remember that 'The Wall' is always relative to oneself. So, your friends mom may be super hot, but she's still less so than she was at 20. Likely. there are radical changes of course, from an obese person to a super fit person, perhaps, but people generally stay about the same, and there's less of a change from being a thin slender woman, to a super fit one then you may think.

The main point though, is that it's relative. If you're the hottest of the hot at 20, getting everyone's attention, and, you know 75% of men shy away from you, avert their eyes like you're some sort of goddess, and 24.5% of men with any confidence are showering you with affection, interest, drinks, invitations to their boats, vacations, etc etc, then you're always going to compare yourself to that. So, you may hit 50, and hey, still be hotter than 40%ish of college girls (because the bar is so low more than anything), but, there aren't any guys going out of their way to shower you with gifts anymore, and now you have to be more proactive in getting a partner. You actually have to attract a guy, and entice him with sexuality to get him to give you something. The top crust of men is also forever shut off to you. 28-45 year olds that are over 6'0'', in great shape, and making 6 figures might, at best, fuck you once, or twice, or maybe more, but you have to do the chasing, not be chased.

So, you can't avoid the wall. Starting around 25 your looks start to go. 30 year old you is not as hot as 25 year old you. 30 year old you has to try harder than 25 year old you, and you'll know it.

I know all liberals will hate me for saying this, view me as some backwards misogynists, but I honestly believe the best path for a woman is to get married and start a family before age 30. That's when the best men that she can get are available to her long term, and by switching her focus from general social validation, to a family, she can maintain a sense of self worth throughout life.

A woman might be a CEO, she might be very useful, might be great at her job, but, she's lost what she had at 20. She's lost that value, she's lost that love and attention, that reverence. She might have other love and attention and reverence, but that doesn't change that she has lost something. For men, mostly, that reverence for being something is all they've ever had. It pisses me off that feminists look at the fact that he hasn't lost something that he never had, and say he's privileged.

Kittenkajira · 2015-08-24T16:52:11+00:00

My mother had 5 children before 25 (4 survived), has struggled with her weight going up and down for most of her adult life, was married to an alcoholic for 10+ years, and has spent the last 15 years in sunny Florida. Yet she still has beautiful skin and could easily pass for early 40's. She's just turned 50 and has never smoked, and has until the last 5 years or so always been a wine-drinker. I'm visiting her next month and plan on discovering what she uses on her face and hands (I'm pretty sure she's an Avon addict). Genetics likely play a large part, but just in case I'm going to start using what she does.

Also, I'm 32 and could pass for mid 20's. Once I get my weight out of overweight, I'm hoping I'll look even younger. I think I just have a young-looking face, honestly. I haven't been using sunscreen on a daily basis, but I do moisturize every morning with shea butter or almond oil and I'm addicted to hand lotion. I just can't stand the feeling of having dry hands.

If there was one similarity between my mother and I, other than genetics, it would be that we both drink tons of water. Also, we both have cute/feminine mannerisms can help women appear younger. Oh yeah, we're also happy people and smile a lot.

2015-08-24T23:24:23+00:00

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Title	How can I avoid hitting the wall until much later in life?
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Date	August 24, 2015 2:45 PM UTC (10 years ago)
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