How often do you spend time with your spouse?

CapitalG888 · 2025-08-02T12:12:28+00:00

Out of a year, I'd say 350 days. Unless she's having a girls' night, we're together. We've been together for 16 years.

throwawaytalks25 · 2025-08-03T00:37:01+00:00

For me, I would be incredibly lonely if we only spent 3 evenings a month together.

Our usual is 3-4 to evenings a week with some amount of quality time. I work nights and three shifts a week, which gives him downtime on his own, although he says he ends up missing having me sleep beside him. I miss him as well, but that amount of quality time tends to keep both our tanks fairly full.

TheFeminineFrame · 2025-08-02T11:52:38+00:00

There is no magic number.

Some people spend time together everyday and some people have work that takes them away a lot of the time. They try to make the time they have together very high quality.

This is going to depend a lot on the emotional needs of each couple and that the time spent together meets those needs.

Are there circumstances physically keeping you apart most of the time or is this a lack of conscientious effort to make time together? Or is this purposeful avoidance?

Do you and he both feel satisfied with that time? Is the time spent together quality? Or are you/he feeling lonely or disconnected?

For most people three times a month is low. I think it would be ok for you to say “I want to see you more! let’s plan something!” Or “I saw this event, we should go!” Just try to frame things as you love being around him rather than “you’re not doing enough…”

sine120 · 2025-08-02T14:12:20+00:00

I'm home with my wife most days. 6-7 days a week unless she or I is out with friends or on work travel, but we're usually out together. Probably 330 days a year.

AngelFire_3_14156 · 2025-08-02T13:32:18+00:00

In any given week, my husband and I usually spend 5 out of 7 evenings together. Maybe not the whole evening but at least part of it

Few_Strawberry_99 · 2025-08-03T21:35:38+00:00

I'm confused. Why aren't you spending almost every single night together?

RedPillDad · 2025-08-02T10:54:55+00:00

After raising 5 kids and running a successful business with my wife, I would say 3 evenings is maintenance level. We would use yearly vacations to reconnect, just the two of us pretending we didn't have any children.

giozimmer · 2025-08-02T13:51:40+00:00

Why only 3 nights? Does he work all the other nights? I didn't understand the circustances. And what do you mean about spending time? Is it to be intimate? Sorry lol maybe it's because reddit translates it to my language and sometimes it doesn't make sense haha

alis_adventureland · 2025-08-04T20:26:27+00:00

We spend every day together. Our only hours apart are when we're working or doing something 1:1 with the kids. There's been the occasional work trip as well. But typically, we're always together. Been married 6 years, together for 8. Have 2 kids.

The_Gilded_orchid · 2025-08-04T23:45:25+00:00

Update: I talked about this with him, he acknowledged we can improve our relationship by spending more time together again. Out of the blue he wanted to spend time together last night and it was really lovely. I think things are going to be alright.

Substantial-Bid-2096 · 2025-08-06T15:35:51+00:00

This isn’t healthy, do you live together? 3x a week minimum if you live apart. Every night apart from once a week if you don’t.

He’s obviously got another family somewhere, it’s possible you are a side gf.

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Title	How often do you spend time with your spouse?
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Date	August 2, 2025 8:08 AM UTC (1 year ago)
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