I have friends who are a couple 33/m and 25/f in the United States with no kids. They've been together for five years and living together for three. The guy is red pill-aware, but he's relationship- and family-minded, and he's not interested in spinning plates. However, he also objects to getting married because of the one-sided legal implications. This has become a point of contention because the woman feels like he's not really committing unless they get married.

 

Everything that this guy has done points towards him being very committed to her for the long run. He works hard to provide them with a home (he's self-made and makes just under six figures in a rural area in the south), takes care of virtually all of the bills and has helped to put her through school. He works full-time, and she works part-time while taking classes. He treats her like a queen, but he doesn't take any crap off of her either, and she's absolutely smitten. Overall, they are a wonderful couple, and they have a healthy sex life.

 

I'd like to hear thoughts from the women here and what you think of my own advice. My advice to him was to figure out the exact, specific issues that she has with not getting married and try to come to agreeable solutions based on those specific issues. For example, if she was worried that she wouldn't be provided for if he was to get his by a bus, then he could see what she thought about him getting term life insurance with her as the benefactor, etc. That's just one example, but you get my point.

Edit: He specifically asked for my advice. I'm not looking to share the responses here with him. I'm primarily interested to know what the women here think of this scenario and the importance of marriage specifically vs. commitment otherwise.

Edit 2: I talked to my friend again, and since it's come up in a few responses here, I'll offer this: He has no problem with calling her his wife, having a ceremony, having her wear his ring, being publicly known as her husband, etc. The single hang-up he has about it is that people can't give up the right to alimony in a pre-nup in the state he's in. This puts him in a situation where she could file for divorce for any reason (or no reason), and he would be placed in a situation to financially support her indefinitely.