Pregnancy?

StingrayVC · 2016-03-31T11:34:59+00:00

Second bit of advice. Do NOT listen to people and their advice about pregnancy. Seriously. It's the worst. Find one down to earth women whose had lots of babies and isn't all paranoid about it. We are designed to do it and handle it. It's not nearly the big deal that most women make it out to be today.

I am utterly convinced that stress makes pregnancy and birth far worse for most women than it needs to be because everyone freaks them out before hand.

Whats_Ername · 2016-03-31T11:58:34+00:00

Congrats! Enjoy your pregnancy. Don't believe the "Eating for 2" lie.

cakeforallofyou · 2016-03-31T10:43:43+00:00

Remember that women have been giving birth for thousands of years, in fields and caves - you're not a princess, so don't expect your husband to treat you like one.You'll be extra hormonal, don't use that as an excuse to be a bitch! Keep doing whatever you do in your relationship that keeps it happy! And congratulations!

Eterfinifrete · 2016-03-31T12:08:12+00:00

Congratulations!!

Sadly, I think women are really encouraged to expect princess treatment during pregnancy. When I got pregnant for the first time, people who barely even knew me immediately asked whether my husband was being "a good husband" and "pampering" me...it's weird, the expectations that are set up. Remember, you are still a couple, enjoy each other! You will probably be more tired than usual in the first trimester, so you should try and make some arrangement (OTHER than expecting your husband to do everything) more takeout food, freezer meals cooked ahead of time, etc. Don't push yourself too hard, get plenty of gentle exercise to keep your spirits up -- swimming and walking are wonderful. Most of all, enjoy!!

StingrayVC · 2016-03-31T11:37:37+00:00

Third and sorry it came so late . . . . CONGRATULATIONS!!

llem20 · 2016-03-31T13:45:29+00:00

First off, congratulations! Nothing should change within your relationship. Your husband may start to treat you differently, be more protective and gentle with you as you are now carrying his child! Remember to be gracious in receiving his help/compassion/extra attentiveness - this is his time to shine as a provider and loving husband as well as it is your time to shine as maternal and loving wife.

If you honestly feel as though you can't cope with something (keeping up with certain chores for example, especially in your third trimester), remember Laura's teaching about how to ask for things. Don't nag or try to manipulate, simply straight out state that you can't cope and want some help. Your protective and loving husband will want to make sure that you are happy and cared for.

As others have said on here, don't fall for the "eating for 2" mentality that so many new mothers do - it's actually worse for the child, and for you. Speak to you OBGYN about the best time to up your calorie in-take to accommodate baby (I think it's month 6/7).

I will also reiterate what others have said here, watch your hormones! You will be more and more moody and as women we tend to lash out and dump on our SO when we are feeling down/sick/tired. Be aware of this and don't let it take over.

As my husband and I are currently trying for a baby, I would to hear a field report later on down the line - if you want to! Good luck and best wishes. xx

StingrayVC · 2016-03-31T11:28:36+00:00

Keep doing what you're doing. Improve where you need to improve. You're might (likely will feel) extra tired and maybe sick for a while. Rest when you need to but it is absolutely not an excuse to change your behavior towards your husband.

Beyond that, I'm not sure what else you are looking for.

sariaru · 2016-03-31T14:33:16+00:00

Congratulations!

I'm 33 weeks along with my second. I did a pretty good job avoiding the princess mentality, it was easy for me because being pregnant didn't make me want to serve my husband any less. I had pretty severe morning sickness through the first half of each pregnancy, but that was the worst of the first half.

For me, the second half of pregnancy is much more difficult. I'm also struggling with perinatal depression, which is really making things very difficult. Obviously, the "don't let the hormones win" is great advice in most, normal circumstances. But if during pregnancy you start having genuine mental health issues, do see someone about it. I didn't and I wish that I had. This isn't meant to scare you, but simply to illuminate the difference between "just crazy preggo hormones" and "clinically depressed because of pregnancy."

That's my two too many cents. Feel free to PM if you want to chat. And again, congrats and best of luck with the pregnancy!

fhigurethisout · 2016-03-31T14:58:59+00:00

Congratulations!

Two of my not-so-close anymore friends just had/are having babies. I just finished organizing a baby shower which was expensive, overdone, entitled, full of man-hating, and only focused on praising the woman.

Stay far away from that BS. I think it's probably tempting to make friends with other pregnant girls but chances are is that they will be toxic and overdramatic.

One of my friends kept really in shape though. She kept exerciding pretty much all through her pregnancy and she's good about watching what she eats. Soo...do that. You couldn't even tell she was pregnant except for her baby bump.

Rowboat14 · 2016-03-31T15:38:05+00:00

Congrats!!!! You can be my baby buddy, I'm pregnant too but not sure how far long, most likely 5-6 weeks but waiting to go to the Drs until I'm a bit further.

Nothing changes when you are pregnant. This is my third. I complained way too much with my first (I'm tiiired, my hips hurrrrt, AHH I'm scared of birth), my husband got irritated. With my second I didn't complain at all, mostly because I was busy with my first daughter during the pregnancy and it whizzed by.

My advice is to find a pregnant buddy and all your complaints/grizzles/worries should be directed to her. My sister is pregnant right now too, so all the weird symptoms and all that go in her inbox rather than my husbands :P

I actually haven't even mentioned my pregnancy to him expect for when he found out 2 weeks ago. I plan to keep it that way (except to get his input on decisions regarding the baby of course).

elegance_ · 2016-03-31T11:39:23+00:00

I am not a mother so I have no advice to give, but ... Congratulations! Hope all goes well!

MrsLabRat · 2016-03-31T12:11:02+00:00

What specific things have you been trying to find information/advice on?

Irisandoleander · 2016-03-31T14:30:31+00:00

Congratulations! How exciting for your family. I'll be following this post because we're hoping to start trying this fall. :)

littleteafox · 2016-03-31T15:44:39+00:00

Congratulations! Woohoo.

whistling_dixie · 2016-03-31T17:48:17+00:00

We don't have kids yet so I don't have any specific advice (although I absolutely agree with what /u/cakeforallofyou said) but I do want to tell you congratulations, and I hope you have an easy pregnancy and birth!

SouthernPetite · 2016-04-01T14:12:01+00:00

I found that cleaning in 15 minute spurts once an hour helped a lot when I wasn't feeling the greatest. Using the alarm/timer on my phone, in general, kept me from forgetting things and spacing out all day.
A little bit of grooming/dressing nicely goes a long way, even if it's a clean, nice (heavy emphasis on clean and nice looking) looking set of workout gear.
I think it's a good idea to set aside time, especially while with your SO, during which you do not talk/think about the baby. It can become all consuming if you let it, and you don't want to turn into one of those women who has no identity outside of being a mom.

ZingMaster · 2016-04-03T05:21:09+00:00

Learn when you are having a mood swings. They will happen but they are not an excuse to treat your partner like shit. Learn the signs and how to say "I'm having a mood swing. I'm sorry but I need some time to center myself".

Title	Pregnancy?
Author	olympiaa
Upvotes	29
Comments	47
Date	March 31, 2016 10:36 AM UTC (10 years ago)
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