Wealthy man with different values

Jewelry_lover · 2026-01-28T22:16:44+00:00

I’ve seen people across the political spectrum admire Elon Musk, so I don’t think that’s the best litmus test. A better indicator would be someone who’s firmly on the right like a Donald Trump.

That said, choosing to stay with a wealthy partner whose values don’t align with yours is likely to create friction over time. Ultimately, it’s up to you to decide what you’re willing to tolerate and where you draw your boundaries.

CountTheBees · 2026-01-29T00:55:29+00:00

You are not asking nearly enough questions or the right ones.

If his lifestyle/politics is too divergent from yours then you have to decide how to move past that going forward. Will you always follow his lead? Will you respect differences of opinion? Will you insist on arguing? I recommend doing what you think you will do long term (ie, imagine being married for 2 years, being comfortable, you're not longer scared of putting him off and react now the way you think you will react then). Ie, if your natural instinct is to argue, then argue, and see how it plays out. If he loses interest, good, you two are not compatible. If you don't respect him for views, good, you two are not compatible. If you two both lose your calm quickly and can't reconcile, good, you two are not compatible. It's better to find these things out sooner rather than later. Learn as much as you can about him and your dynamic now, because wasting time at your age is worse than losing out on someone wealthy. Eventually his and your true characters will emerge and to be truly "pragmatic" you have to ensure that your next marriage lasts.

SeaMuted9754 · 2026-01-28T21:23:30+00:00

I don’t know is it just Elon musk because a lot of left leaning libertarians like him too. He also made a lot of people rich if you invested in Tesla. So unless you actually have a real conversation I would never assume someone’s political views.

Nerdslayer2 · 2026-01-28T22:25:13+00:00

I find it interesting and a little ironic you are assuming this guy is conservative because he likes Elon Musk, considering you are active on RedPillWomen, an explicitly anti-feminist sub. If you asked me who is more likely to be conservative, someone who likes Elon, or someone on RPW, I would say the person on RPW.

People are complex and I think it is a big problem in society that people assume if someone has one view that leans left or right then all their views do.

There are a lot of different reasons to like or dislike Elon Musk. He is a very complicated guy. He has led two of the most innovative companies in the world (Tesla and SpaceX) to huge amounts of success. He has arguably done more to fight climate change than anyone else by producing the first commercial electric vehicles and kicking off the transition to EVs much earlier than it likely would have happened otherwise. Perhaps there is someone who has done more but I can't think of anyone.

He is also deeply insecure, selfish, and just generally an ass. If you watch interviews with him a decade or two ago he seemed totally different. I think he messed up his mind with Ketamine. I used to like him a lot but I don't anymore.

As for this guy, I don't think you should breakup with him over assumptions due to liking Elon, just like a left-leaning guy would be wrong to breakup with you over assumptions about you being on RPW. That said, this guy is 22 years older than you and you said your goal is marriage. In 5 years he is going to be 70. What sort of life do you envision for yourself in the future? I suppose if you want to care for this guy in his old age in exchange for getting some of his money that could potentially be a win-win, but will you actually enjoy his company in his 70s and 80s? What will you do together?

sine120 · 2026-01-28T21:51:01+00:00

I'm not unbiased, but I don't think you can have that deep of a relationship without sharing the values you consider most important. For me, a person with the opposite political beliefs cannot share the same values as me, and I need to share the most important values to trust and love a partner. I don't mean to accuse you of anything, but disregarding shared values because he has a lot of money is not a good optic.

I always ask myself "would I want them to impart their values on my kids?". I understand you're probably not looking to have kids, but if the answer is no, why build a life with them? There are likely other men out there better aligned to you that are also pragmatic.

InevitableKiwi5776 · 2026-01-28T21:46:37+00:00

If it’s important for you that you’re aligned politically then you need to have a direct conversation about it. You should consider what your major dealbreakers are and try to find out where he stands on them.

I would ask open ended questions about what he actually thinks about certain things. Like what does he actually like about Musk? What are his political values (social and economic)? Is he (and are you) able to have a discussion with out it turning into an argument or debate?

Dionne005 · 2026-01-28T22:40:05+00:00

Honestly I’d try it out. A lot of men love Elon because he’s a man of wealth and deals with cars. Men love cars. No matter how far left or right you need to separate hobbies and politics in my opinion. As long as you are same faith, not racist, not scheming or taking advantage of the poor. Also rich people think different and that’s why they are rich. And that’s ok. Just feel him out and leave out politics. I say this as a black woman.

Careful-Ideal-7033 · 2026-01-28T23:32:19+00:00

Most successful self-made men lean right. If you want a liberal you need to find a rich tech or corporate guy.

I also think it’s a generally bad idea to optimize solely for looks or solely for money. You’re setting yourself up for heartbreak, IMHO. If you view him transactionally then he likely views you the same way, but unfortunately the balance of power lies more with him.

The focus on wealth may be an out of balanced response to the frustrations of your first marriage, but the truth is there’s a lot of middle ground between “broke” and “multiple houses in high cost areas.”

You could find a guy making $300k or $500k a year and be happy, esp if he’s hot and in a more similar age range.

Not saying you’re limited to that, just speaking about possibilities.

Being pragmatic is about looking for shared values and vision for your future. (And values aren’t always political either.) I was left when I married my husband and I’m probably further right than he is but no matter how much I grow or change we still mesh because our personalities are similar.

I think if you over-optimize for wealth you’ll end up regretting that as much as totally ignoring it.

purple_popsicles · 2026-01-28T22:00:54+00:00

Do not be in a relationship where you don’t respect the man you are with. Can you respect him if he’s conservative?

_Pumpkin_Muffin · 2026-01-28T21:48:52+00:00

What's your long term goal here?

Vast-Society4093 · 2026-01-29T22:02:25+00:00

I think you need to have more conversations with him and find out more about his political views, but also other aspects like religious beliefs , marriage, and if any of other values and lifestyle that would align with you.

llnldln · 2026-01-30T19:27:17+00:00

You’re overreacting to some stray comments. If you want to know his views, ask. Don’t guess.
If he is conservative, so what? Many men at that age and level of success are. You don’t have a monopoly on wisdom, and the two of you don’t have to agree on abstract questions to build a good life together.
You say he has good values interpersonally and cares about you. That should be the most important thing.

You’re posting in a sub that takes an anti feminist approach to relationships and you say you want to be pragmatic.

So be pragmatic. He’s smart and successful. Accept that he may know what he’s talking about and look at what you value in the relationship overall. Good luck.

NationalMouse · 2026-01-28T22:38:37+00:00

That’s change-your-life kind of money, are you really not going to allow someone to change your life because he likes Elon Musk? I grew up extremely poor so maybe I view money differently than someone who’s never had to worry about it but I would try to find some common ground before just writing him off. Best case scenario is you two have a lot more in common than politics and he woos you and then you become a couple and can tell friends that you have totally different views so politics isn’t discussed in your house but you both love hiking and travel and can bond over that instead.

Wife_and_Mama · 2026-01-28T21:54:50+00:00

Yesterday he said he liked Elon Musk. I’m pretty far left, but after marrying a broke guy for love, have vowed to be pragmatic. This guy is kind and really likes me, but I just wonder about dating someone whose worldview is so different from mine. Does anyone have experience with this?

He'll end it soon enough it if you don't. You're wasting your time. I'm sure he'll sleep with you, but I doubt it'll go much further.

AutoModerator · 2026-01-28T21:19:23+00:00

Title: Wealthy man with different values

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Full text: Hi there, I, divorced 43F, am being pursued by very wealthy (like, multiple homes, including one in NYC) M65. He’s very attractive for his age, active, and easy to talk to. However, I have been getting hints that his politics diverge sharply from mine. Yesterday he said he liked Elon Musk. I’m pretty far left, but after marrying a broke guy for love, have vowed to be pragmatic. This guy is kind and really likes me, but I just wonder about dating someone whose worldview is so different from mine. Does anyone have experience with this?

Also, just for reference, I’m a personal trainer, I’m very good shape, look about 35, and still attract a ton of male attention, so it’s not like this is the only guy available to me, but he might be the wealthiest man I’ll meet that I’m also physically attracted to. Curious if anyone has encountered a similar situation and found it worth or not worth it.

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That_Difference_7638 · 2026-01-28T23:05:47+00:00

Politics aside, can you afford getting alpha widowed by this guy? The more warm body time you spend together (and personal fairyland headspace time) the harder will be a parting. Especially after some trips and little glimpses of what your life with this man could be. That’s one.

Everyone urges you to „go get the bag“, but can you afford to fight his lawyers in case things get nasty? He seems well connected, are you? This for second.

You seem like a spirited lady, you said you got options, I can only advise you to not play too far out of your financial and social league, I am saying that only because of the downsides in a worst case scenario (know your threat model!).

It takes way too much time and effort to recover in case you don’t get your happily ever after… because then you will be used to Jetset between several homes with specific setups and way/pace of life, without being able to recreate that on your own and even „regular wealthy“ will seem rather dull afterwards. I really wish for you that you laugh everyday of your life full of love, but you second guessing this already because of maybe misalignment in morals (which would be only natural coming from two such different classes,too) might hint you instinctively to something bigger

Title	Wealthy man with different values
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