You'll routinely hear about the perils of too much comfort within a relationship. How showing excessive investment and letting her know how irreplaceable she is routinely leads to worse treatment and worse behavior. This comes as no surprise. She'll instinctively have learnt over time that she doesn't need to behave or treat you particularly well to keep you around. The less effort she has to put in, the less effort she will put in. Most here have fallen victim to this at some point in their lives, and wound up her, on TRP.

To remedy this, and snap out of these comfort spraying habits, we generally prescribe a high attraction, short term mate strategy, based around alpha behavior that inevitably has a high level of dread. The idea is that the dread and competition anxiety keeps your women's behavior in line and makes sure they continue to treat you the way you desire.

Most, however, at some point or another, want to make the move from plate territory into an LTR. When this happens those who have swallowed the pill tend to have a habit of veering too far to the other end of the spectrum. They compensate for their early years of comfort spraying by running dread, hardcore alfalfa game as a base operating practice throughout their LTR. The issue with this is that keeping your long term partner incessantly on the edge of their seat 24/7 comes with it's own set of problems and inevitably it will fall apart.

In the beginning she'll get in-line, treating and fucking you as well as she possibly can to maintain your favor, but after a while, as she invests more and more time and effort into the relationship, she'll start to need some form of re-assurance, some comfort that she's not spending all of this time and energy in vain. She'll want to feel that in some way she's making a dent on your rock hard exterior.

If she doesn't get it in some form or another she'll likely start to become weary and worried. She'll become more distant and anxious as a defense mechanism, preparing herself for the likely moment you leave. She won't be able to let loose and have fun or enjoy your company because she's constantly walking on egg shells. Either she'll crack and leave in search of more comfort or be naggy and needy like an unloved puppy. This is where most people end up on askTRP saying I did everything TRP says and she left me or is acting worse, when in reality she simply needs more comfort.

LTR's by their very nature are somewhat beta. Your foregoing slaying all other pussy for one. Behaving strictly like an Alpha male is incongruent with it's very foundation, you'll need to employ some beta behaviors to make it function, but you need to do it smartly and effectively. You need to find a suitable balance where she at least know's you care, that she isn't heading out the exit door at any moment, but at the same time knows that she can't do what she want's. This is the sweet spot between dread and comfort, alpha and beta.

Employ simple comforts like taking her out when she's behaving well, texting her with an adequate level of interest here and there, telling her she looks cute when she does, but hold firm on subtle dread like maintaining your appearance, career, fitness and goals. Ride this line and you'll generally get the best out of her. She'll be respectful, invested, fun and playful, but at the same time aware of your ability to replace her should she start to slack.

There will be times where she'll naturally push your boundaries, and you'll need to react more harshly. These times call for a little more direct dread, like talking to other girls or going mysterious on her to bring her back down to equilibrium. On the flip, when you're dreading her a little too hard and she's showing signs of distance or anxiety, you'll need to show a little more affection and comfort to get her back up to the sweet spot.

Hold this line, tweaking up or down when required and you'll maximize both your and her fulfillment within your relationship.